The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal problem in China. You can't say who is right or wrong. This is mainly the conflict caused by different perspectives and different ideas. No matter what kind of family, there are always various entanglements between wife and mother, and the proportion even exceeds 90%. It's good that the two sides don't live together, and contradictions are inevitable when they live together. I don't mean to belittle women here, but sometimes women deal with problems differently from men. The relationship between women has always been complicated. After the mother-in-law relationship, it was a mess.
Nowadays, many children are only children and are loved by their parents at home, so they have many unique personalities in their living habits. Most parents have a characteristic that their children can do whatever they want, but others' children can't. After young people get married, there will be contradictions between their wives and mother-in-law because of such conceptual conflicts. Because in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is still a child of other people's families, so the requirements are also stricter. In the eyes of his wife, she didn't really regard her mother-in-law as one of her own. Don't admit it. In fact, many people think so. Moreover, before young people get married, there are not many opportunities for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with each other, and they also lack understanding of each other's living habits. If we live together after marriage, many problems in life will gradually emerge and eventually evolve into contradictions and conflicts.
It is really difficult for a man to balance the relationship between his wife and mother. Whether men or women live at home as adults, they will choose to compromise many accusations against their parents and try not to conflict with their parents. But after marriage, because the relationship between wife and mother-in-law is not very close, it is difficult for them to compromise at first. Sometimes men feel that this little thing will pass as long as they can bear it. Even if they close the door and ask their wives to tidy up themselves, they still hope that their wives can be more tolerant in front of their parents. After all, the way old people do things will be more rigid, often acting like children. It is not only difficult to make the old man bow his head, but also difficult psychologically. But in his wife's heart, he is unwilling and willing to give in. Instead, he feels that her husband is not helping himself, on the one hand, his mother, and on the other hand, his wife. Anyone who helps will hurt the other party. Therefore, I look at the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law from the perspective of young people giving way to old people, and don't dwell too much on right and wrong things.
Many people usually work outside, seldom go home and stay at home on holidays. A few days ago, my mother will think it's good to have you back to accompany her. In the next few days, she will think that you are doing nothing at home, and you are mostly wasting it. This kind of emotion will be so obvious in your children that you will definitely not let your daughter-in-law go.
Therefore, after marriage, two people should not choose to live with their parents, but often go home to see, so that the time together is short, there will be no too many contradictions, and family relations will become more harmonious, which is also a good choice. If you must live with your parents, you must communicate well in advance. Don't think about tripartite cooperation to solve things. Instead, men should be asked to adjust in the middle to ensure a harmonious relationship as much as possible.
In modern life, everyone is relatively independent and doesn't like being bound by others, while parents in China prefer to control their children. This is a difference in concept and a conflict between China's traditional culture and modern culture. Since this kind of conflict is inevitable, we should try our best to find the best solution, and only we can feel the ups and downs.