The Chinese-American girl, who was adopted by an American man, returned to her home country after graduating from Harvard at the age of 26 to search for her family!

Today, too many people choose to travel far away from their home countries, but distance is not the only thing that can stop them from doing so.

Sons and daughters are flying kites, and the line tied in the hands of parents, but enough to make them hang on to their hearts. The river is three thousand miles, the letter of home fifteen lines; line line without a word of farewell, only to return home early.

It is not enough to have a short separation, how cruel are those parents who abandon their young children?

Abandoned babies, can be said to be a persistent problem from ancient times to the present day, according to statistics, from 1992 to 2017, the number of private adoption of Chinese children in the United States reached 80,162.

In 26 years, there were more than 80,000 abandoned children in China flowing to the United States alone. Having brought them into the world, why are they so desperate to leave them unattended and unheard, in the eyes of many, these negligent parents are unforgivable.

But the girl raised by a foreigner -- Pan Sweet, 24 years later, but graduated from Harvard full of honor and began a high-profile search for her birth parents, to their together without a complaint, just want to say: I am all right!

01 biological parents abandoned, adopted by the Americans

In 1992, a baby girl was born shortly after, was abandoned in Yangzhou Juwan Park, a newborn fragile as porcelain dolls, if not by the good people found in time to the local orphanage, perhaps her life has not yet had time to unfold, it has come to an end.

The child is Pan sweet, she does not have much proof of identity objects, there is just a written date of birth of the note, do not know what name, where the family, she has become a homeless orphans, can only look forward to the goodwill of people to adopt home.

A female worker at the orphanage, who is very fond of Pan Sweet, took her back to her home every holiday, and even had the idea of adopting her, but for some reasons, she was unable to do so in time.

She stayed here until she was 2 years old, and in 1994, an American who came to Yangzhou accidentally saw the little girl, and thought she was very cute, so he offered to adopt her.

The poor child, too, finally found her home, and she was taken to the United States by her adoptive mother to live a carefree life.

The foster mother, a speech therapist who works with children with disabilities, is kind, caring, and patient, and under her tutelage, Pam grows up healthy and happy.

Though she is young, she is beginning to have a memory, and she remembers that the aunt and her family at the orphanage were so kind to her that she was reluctant to leave them.

Children are sensitive, and when they first leave their homeland, in an unfamiliar environment, surrounded by people who don't look like them and speak words they don't understand, she gets nervous and scared, and what's worse is that the different language makes it impossible for her to communicate with her American mother.

Fortunately, her adoptive mom was loving and patient with her, and gave her a teddy bear, which is the luckiest thing for a child to be able to adapt easily.

With the help of her adoptive mother, she began to learn English, dance, and violin, and learned to adapt to the new living environment, but her Chinese language was gradually forgotten in the absence of a linguistic environment.

02Growing up and returning home to find her family

The difference between nationals may not be so great, at least they all have yellow skin and black hair, but the difference with Americans is so great that it's hard to find any similarities.

She questioned this at an early age, and unlike her Chinese parents, her adoptive mother wasn't shy about it, and told her flatly that she was adopted from China across the Atlantic.

Unlike many adopted children in China, who are looked at differently, there are not many families like this in the U.S. Her cousin is also an adopted child, so she accepts her origins with open arms and doesn't feel self-conscious about them.

Under her adoptive mother's guidance, she did not resent her parents' abandonment, and was even grateful and forgiving.

She thanked her parents for giving her life, and wondered why she was abandoned, was it because her parents had their own problems or difficulties at the time? She remembers the aunts from the orphanage who took great care of her, are they okay today?

She wanted to see the country where she was born, to find the footprints of her birth, so with the support of her adoptive mother, in 2018, Pan Sweetie, who had already graduated from Harvard and had a stable job at a Boston company doing cancer research, decided to return to China to find her family.

After 24 years of being adopted, Pan sweet sweet successfully found that welfare institution aunt, she is very grateful to each other once the care, and very happy to see each other again, the other party also even said that if she failed to find their own biological parents as expected, they can be treated as her parents in China.

After so many years, she was unable to find her birth parents, but she was still very happy to see her aunt at the orphanage again, and felt that the trip had been worthwhile.

03The search for her parents is a hotly debated issue

Her search for her parents, reported by the media, has led to a lot of controversy and heated discussion among netizens.

Pan Sweetheart's starting point for the search is very simple, she just wants to find her own relatives, and her biological parents to say, daughter grew up, living a good life, you rest assured! Thank you for giving me life, so that I have the opportunity to see this wonderful world.

However, netizens who know more about China's national conditions, said that when Pan sweet sweet will be abandoned, mostly out of the family's patriarchal reasons, they gave birth to a child not to raise, do not deserve to be a parent, since back then, they have already abandoned you, and why look for theirs?

If it is not lucky, perhaps there is no chance, and then enjoy the scenery of the world, and why thank them, why not cherish the adoptive mother who loved her and spoiled her.

But some netizens also said that the birth of the grace is worth thanking, if there is no abandoned past, there is no today's Harvard Harvard so good she, everything is the best arrangement!

The American living environment and education concept is different, due to the influence of the environment, for the adoption of this matter, they never avoid, will also encourage children to find their biological parents, teach them to learn to be grateful and forgiveness, so as to let go of the heart of the abandonment of the knot.

04Conclusion

What a blessing a blessing a blessing. When we lose, we are also gaining. Learn to be grateful, learn to let go, and while forgiving others, we are also making ourselves whole.

Resentment is poison, it will devour your sense of well-being and happiness, tolerance and forgiveness is the salvation of others, but also for their own salvation!