Therefore, her feelings are like a blank sheet of paper. In Daughter's Love, she met Yu Jiayi, a 2 1 year-old Beijing rich second generation with a background of studying abroad, and she completely fell. He not only gave up his conservative style, but also took the initiative. He never wanted to change others on three dates. However, it is said that Yu Jiayi will stay abroad for ten years, with long-distance love and transnational love. What is Zhang Doudou hesitating about?
Zhang Doudou still says too little! ~
On the surface, Zhang Doudou and Yoga Yu Yi have different feelings. In fact, Yu Jiayi is no match for her.
The most famous brothers and sisters are Adi and Ji, handsome men and beautiful women. The two are beautiful together, and the man is also very good at it, always coaxing the woman into giving in. Push and pull 666, I want to marry him, but the other party always refuses.
After breaking up, the woman looked back and saw that the man was not suitable for long-term together. However, love is a burning passion in an instant. When it burns, you can't care about anything.
Things that you are obsessed with each other, such as ecstasy, are addictive and particularly painful when you wake up.
In a word, Zhang Doudou's experience is too little. If there are three high-quality boys in front of her, and everyone spends 10 days, she will definitely be able to compare the pros and cons. But at present, there is only 1, and she is very entangled. She has no choice because there is no reference.
How should two people who really match get along?
How to match two people?
How can two people match? Spiritual fit, cognitive matching, mutual support, courage to pay, know how to sacrifice. If you meet the above five conditions, it is really a 100% ideal partner.
A girl with a very simple emotional experience like Zhang Doudou should really listen to the opinions of emotional experts. Before falling in love, ask yourself, what is the standard of that person in your heart? What is the bottom line that cannot be broken and what is the bottom line that can be compromised?
Some people are immature, and some people are prodigal. Then, a couple in reality is perfect if they can meet the following five requirements.
Spiritual harmony: communicate with each other and pay attention to the inner voice, not the superficial words and deeds. Cognitive matching: breaking through the differences of age, social and cultural background and thinking, so as to understand each other. Mutual support: together, we can grow together, support each other and become better ourselves. Be brave in giving: pay attention to each other's needs, and be willing to actively improve their words and deeds to make the relationship more harmonious. Know how to sacrifice: consider each other's future with your own life and make corresponding adjustments and sacrifices.
Most importantly, if Yu Jiayi can reach 80% in the future, I will raise my hands and feet to agree that Doudou and Yu Jiayi will continue. However, at present, Yu Jiayi seems to have failed to achieve anything. Let's take Zhang Doudou and Yu Jiayi as examples to explain how two people can be well matched: Article 1: Spiritual fit:
If Yoga Yu Yi and Zhang Doudou really want to be together, they must break the current communication dilemma and lay a good emotional foundation. After two dates, the man was superficial and the woman was too serious.
The date between Yoga Yu Yi and Zhang Doudou has always been romantic and warm. He also said, I hope every day with the woman is full of pink bubbles. I am so embarrassed to see it. I just don't want to pursue eternity, I just want to have it once.
Which long-term relationship is romantic without considering reality?
Zhang Doudou has made it clear that this person will make a choice tomorrow. what do you think? At the beginning of a man's date, the routine is "Your choice is my choice", followed by a bunch of excuses that don't directly answer. His attitude towards this relationship is dispensable, which makes Doudou chilling.
Yu Jiayi's dating process is only about happiness, and he never thought about the future for his long-distance love with Doudou.
Article 2: Cognitive matching
The cognitive matching between two people is too low. If the couple want to succeed, they need to solve the cognitive differences of feelings at this stage.
If the man is suitable, talk about it, if not, break up. The woman is the kind who likes to lack everything and is very demanding.
Obviously, Yu Jiayi's cognition of feelings is not consistent with Zhang Doudou's. Although men are open, women are conservative. But in the face of true love, a man who is promiscuous must be more single-minded.
Yoga Yu Yi looks more like, if you look good, you can flirt, and if you flirt, you earn money. Zhang Doudou looked for him in the crowd, and suddenly she turned around and waited for his feeling. What she wants is a glimpse of ten thousand years. Men are superficial, but women are moved by their true feelings.
Article 3: Mutual support
Life is long, and two people should support each other like bosom friends. They want to enter the real life from the program, face many difficulties and need mutual support. At present, two people are at different stages of life, and their lives have no intersection. Long-distance love will be more difficult to last without mutual understanding and support.
When Ming Xi was just with He Youjun, a rich second generation, he fell heavily on the stage of Victoria's Secret and was depressed for a long time before he went back. He Youjun accompanied her out of the trough. Later, after they got together, He Youjun made it clear that although he was a rich second generation, he would not take 1 from his family, but would start his own business and seek development. Ming Xi agreed, and they can suffer together.
He Youjun regrets meeting a bosom friend in life! Ming Xi said that she married love. Rich second generation supermodel, writing love songs with you all the way.
But in this pair of chats, the man's career comes first, the family comes second, the woman's family comes first and the career comes second. Two people are at different stages of life, and their attitudes towards career and family are also very different. Most importantly, the man once gave up his intention in the interview because he thought that the long-distance relationship would be fruitless.
The woman has been in the national team 10 years, and the peak of her career has passed. Being a national team coach is the best choice at present, and the development path has been set. The rich second generation started their business at the age of 2 1, 19, and the future has just begun. He also made it clear that he would not consider long-distance relationships. Is he on the show for fame or for sincere communication?
In the future, the woman is likely to want to enter the family as soon as possible, while the man seems to have no intention of getting married before the age of 30. One heart is fixed, and the other is still floating. There is no mutual support between their lives for the time being.
Article 4: Be brave in giving.
The woman bravely cooperated and sacrificed for love, but the man not only didn't feel the woman's contribution, but accused her of being too indifferent. Their emotional goals are not consistent at all. Their relationship wants to break the ice, and the man needs to keep catching up.
In order to know more about Yu Jiayi, conservative Zhang Doudou agreed to this man's absurd request for a one-day lover. The man doesn't seem to feel the dedication, cooperation and sacrifice of the woman.
Yu Jiayi even said that Zhang Doudou was a straight girl and didn't feel how much she liked him. Obviously, the man has never been in contact with such a conservative girl as the woman. What he wants is superficial interaction and love, which is the flirting of ordinary girls in love.
Zhang Doudou is not with him yet, they are just friends. According to her values, she can't respond and take the initiative more, but the man doesn't feel it at all, but goes further and further. Obviously, the man doesn't like her so much and feels there is no reason to pay more.
Article 5: Be brave in sacrifice
If a long-distance relationship wants to succeed in the end, it must be compromised by one party. Obviously, this couple, the man has no such consideration.
Deng Chao moved out of Beijing, which she had known for many years, and settled in Shanghai for the sake of Sun Li. There are many differences between them, from eating breakfast to reading, from hobbies to habits, but Deng Chao is happy to adapt Sun Li to her likes, and Sun Li also takes care of Deng Chao's funny life. They sacrificed each other and achieved each other.
What if this man had to give up his career to be with Zhang Doudou? Or frequent business trips for long-distance love will obviously add many factors to this relationship that need to be tested. The man is 2 1 year old, and nothing has been decided. Obviously, he wants to fight for his career and have a sweet love with a girl at this stage, but it is too early to consider the future.
Men in Zhang Doudou have been avoiding the problem of long-distance relationships. He doesn't want to make sacrifices. On the contrary, he stressed that a relationship needs both people to become better, rather than forcing one party to make sacrifices for the other. This is unfair. Obviously, the man is not ready for a long-distance relationship. He only cares about having this relationship. He is not Zhang Doudou's lover.
summary
Two people who really deserve it should be in harmony with each other, highly matched in cognition, support each other, be brave in giving and know how to sacrifice. If you meet the above five conditions, it is really a 100% ideal partner.
Advise Zhang Doudou not to waste time on this sister-in-law relationship. Girls' time is really precious. Instead of hanging from this tree, it is better to change the channel and meet a lover again.
The matching of two people is that they are suitable for each other when they get along. The superficial collocation of those external substances can't make love last long. On the basis of love, we can get along well with each other, have a heart, pay each other and sacrifice each other, and achieve a long-term love.
I hope the beautiful and kind Zhang Doudou love will get better and better! ~
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