If there is such a little friend in your childhood: he has red hair, freckles on his face, a nose like a mound dug up by a mole, endless dirt in his ears, a circle of old dirt around his neck, a bad smell on his body, and he walks like a camel.

Will you play with such a little friend and make friends with him? The answer is self-evident.

This child is the little hero carrot beard in the autobiographical novel carrot beard by French writer jules renard.

Carrot beard is a classic novel written by jules renard at the age of 30 for his beloved two children. This work was later adapted into a script and made into a movie, which was well received by the audience at that time.

In fact, strictly speaking, this book is not a novel, but can only be called a "novel-style prose". It is dozens of childhood stories recorded by the author in a concise and cool way, skillfully connected together with the spiritual growth of the little hero as a clue. Readers will never feel abrupt when they read any story.

This is the most healing realistic children's novel I have seen recently, because each of us will see our own childhood more or less hurt from this novel. After all, the childhood of each of us is not as beautiful as the warm memories, and this novel just tore the poetic coat of rural life to pieces from the perspective of children. However, the author's purpose in writing this novel does not stop there. He shows us a deeper meaning.

Below I analyze the relationship between the little hero and others one by one:

1. The relationship between children and mothers: humble desire for maternal love is not allowed.

Bing Xin, a famous writer of children's literature in China, once wrote a poem praising maternal love:

If only everyone could enjoy such a mother's love! Unfortunately, not all mothers in the world are children's naked shadows under the sky, and some are even children's nightmares. Mrs Lepic, the mother of carrot beard, is such a mother.

Mrs. Lepic is a strict Christian. She has three children, the eldest son Felix, the daughter Ernestina and the youngest son carrot beard. The eldest son and daughter are good-looking, sensible and obedient under her discipline, and don't make trouble at home, while the youngest son is a thorn in the side. The mother gave all her love to the clever eldest son and daughter, leaving only humiliation, scolding and corporal punishment for the younger son.

From beginning to end, the book doesn't say what the real name of this little son, nicknamed carrot beard, is, which means that the family has never called this child by his real name, and the mother is extremely unfair and emotionally neglected to this child.

At the beginning, the story about the mother is like this. The mother ordered the timid carrot to close the henhouse door at night, and arranged it as a must-do for the carrot beard every day. Followed by carrots, whiskers snored at night and were pinched by their mothers, saying it was a nightmare; Carrots have to wet the bed, and they are cheated by their mothers to drink their own urine, and they are teased by their brothers and sisters. Mother decided what carrots should eat according to her own preferences. She asked carrots to give the leftover watermelon skin to rabbits, and carrots that didn't eat watermelon had to steal the watermelon skin in the rabbit's nest.

Carrot beard has become accustomed to these things. He didn't express strong resistance. Probably he was already numb to his mother's long-term cold violence. He didn't dare to put his hand in his pocket or whistle in front of his mother. He was frightened when her face changed, and even took the initiative to stick out his head for her to fight when she did something wrong.

To this end, carrots must vent their accumulated resentment on helpless animals around them. He once smashed a mole's brains and shot a cat that had just been fed milk with a shotgun. These bloody scenes are frightening to read, and even feel that the child is completely ruined.

However, even so, he felt sorry for his mother when her father ignored her when she asked her for some bread at dinner. Another time, due to his carelessness, he let the hook hanging on his body pierce his mother's hand and almost cut the bone before taking it off. When he was ready to be beaten by his mother, her mother forgave him for some reason, which moved him to tears.

Carrot beard craves for maternal love humbly, but his mother disappoints him again and again. His heart is like leaves in a storm. "The storm crumpled, rubbed, pinched and shrunk his heart." He even hid in the closet and lamented, "It's a pity that not everyone can be an orphan."

Finally, one day he began to rebel against his mother. He told his father that he no longer liked his mother, and asked him not to go home at school during the summer vacation, or simply to leave home to make a living. Unexpectedly, my father said, "Do you think I like her?" Later, my father also threw out a long list of life truths, which made his heart move:

"I advise you to be patient and strong. When you grow up, you can be free. Temper and temperament don't get along, you can disown us and stand on your own two feet. But before that, you have to try to get the upper hand, restrain your sensitivity, and observe others, those who live with you; You will find it interesting, and I guarantee that you will get unexpected comfort from it. "

2. The relationship between the child and the father: you can talk, but you are not intimate.

Mr. Lepic, the father of carrot beard, was just like the father of an ordinary family at that time. He worked hard for the family's livelihood, had a bad temper and was strict with his children. Father didn't seriously ignore the emotion of carrot beard like mother. He often took his two sons swimming and hunting to cultivate their brave temperament as boys. He can encourage carrots to keep getting high marks in their compositions, but when carrots have to hunt and kill one of the two woodchucks, he blames him for not killing both of them.

Nevertheless, my father is the only person that Carrot can talk to at home. During the boarding period when carrots have to go to school, the communication between father and son through letters is even smoother than face-to-face communication. However, my father was like a serious teacher from beginning to end. When my father came to visit him at school, he was still not used to making out with him. He wanted his father to caress him like a brother, but he avoided him on the grounds that he had a pen in his ear.

To this end, carrots must take their anger out on an innocent proctor. Because the proctor cares too much about a red-faced classmate, Marceau, he treats Marceau better than others. Carrot beard felt unfair and jealous. He told the headmaster that the relationship between the proctor and Martha was abnormal, which led to the dismissal of the proctor. When the proctor left school, carrot had to cut his face with glass and smear his blood on his face, shouting at the proctor, "Who told you to kiss him instead of kissing me?" Look, I have a red face too, as long as I want to call it red. "

In psychology, this is called projection. Carrot must project his longing for his father's care on the proctor. He dares to play tricks on the proctor, but he dare not play tricks on his father. He has been longing for his father's love! His mother has let him down, and without his father's love, he will fall into despair. There is also a place in the back of the book that carrot was reprimanded by his father after he had to express his strange personal thoughts with his father's encouragement, and he actually had the idea of killing himself.

Fortunately, he later told his father the idea of suicide, and his father's words gave him strength again: "Do you think that death only tempted you?" Just thinking about yourself will corrupt you. "

From this point of view, the father of carrot beard is still qualified in parent-child relationship. Although he failed to give carrot beard enough love, he at least gave carrot beard the strength to grow.

3. The relationship between children and godfather: intimacy, fortress of love

It is mentioned in this book that there is little interaction between carrots and their brothers and sisters, probably because brothers and sisters are more favored and get more care and toys, and carrots are naturally separated from them by jealousy. Carrots must be closer to them than even the maid Agate and the little girl next door mathilde. From his conversation with Agate, it can be seen that the Lepic family is polite and indifferent on the surface, but they have their own ideas in their hearts and lack communication with each other.

The warmth that carrots can't feel in family of origin was compensated by an outsider. This man is the godfather of carrot beard, a lonely old man with a rough temper. Oddly enough, the godfather likes nobody but carrot whiskers. The godfather once said to carrot beard, "If I had a monkey (like you) as a child, I would lick his ass."

Carrots must go to the godfather's house for dinner every once in a while, go fishing with him, or watch him dig in the grape fields. He stayed at the godfather's house and felt very happy sleeping away from his mother. He confided his mother's partiality to his godfather, who advised him not to lie to upset his mother in the future. In order to make him happy, the godfather got up in the middle of the night to accompany him to pick plums with bugs and eat plums with them for him.

Here, the godfather acts as a psychological counselor. The godfather's love for carrot whiskers is extremely pure. Because of his negligence in his early years, carrot whiskers fell into the spring and almost drowned, and he still regrets insomnia. He built a fortress of love for the loveless carrot beard. The carrot beard can shelter from the wind and rain here, find back the lost love and learn to love. He said to the godfather, "I like you, my old godfather; But if you stop smoking, I will like you more. "

There are always some people like the old godfather, who are not related to us by blood, but teach us how to love with their pure love. If you don't intend to love and be loved, the whole journey of life will be meaningless. Just like the toy porcelain rabbit in Edward's Wonderful Journey, it tells us that even if we lose love, we will learn to love again.

Going back to the book "Carrot beard", if we only look at the sufferings of the little hero in the family, then we will feel desperate for the whole life. However, no matter how desperate life is, we can also find the power to grow. Just like the author jules renard himself, I guess the most important reason for him to write this book is to sort out and let go of his childhood pain, so that he can walk more relaxed and happy for the rest of his life, which is also a cure. In fact, each of us will suffer all kinds of pains on the road of life, but eventually we can find a way to cure the pain and grow into the kind of person we dream of becoming.

Please believe that your self-healing ability is far more powerful than you think.