1, matchmaking
In ancient times, if you had a crush on a girl, you wouldn't go to the door to pursue it yourself, and the same is true in modern times. Instead, you will find an experienced matchmaker to go to your aunt's house instead of you. If a girl has a good impression on you, she will say to her parents, "This is a decision made by her parents for life." If the girl is not satisfied with the man, she will say to her parents, "I want to be filial to my parents for another two years."
Step 2 propose marriage
As the old saying goes, "Marriage is the fate of parents and the words of matchmakers". Therefore, before the husband and wife get married, the man must first go to the woman's house to propose marriage. After a series of complicated calculations, it is concluded that both men and women are suitable for marriage and each other. At this time, they can start proposing marriage.
Step 3 date
The man proposes marriage to the woman's family, and it is determined that both men and women are suitable for marriage, so that both families can enter the engagement. In the process of engagement, the man should send a "book" to the woman's house, commonly known as "red and green book paper", and the woman needs to send a "reply" to the man for approval, commonly known as "Wen Ding". When betrothed, in addition to written betrothal, both parties need to discuss the auspicious day of marriage to win a good lottery for the couple.
4. Three books and six gifts
When both parties are satisfied, the man will start to prepare three six gifts, three of which refer to: engagement letter (engagement certificate, which Najib will give to the woman at the six gifts), gift book (equivalent to the current bride price list) and welcome book (equivalent to the current marriage certificate, which proves that the girl has married the man).
Six gifts refer to receiving gifts (the man wants to give the woman nearly 30 kinds of gifts), asking names (the age of men and women is the same), accepting oneself (asking for instructions before sticking to the gods), receiving gifts (bride price, dowry), inviting the day (fixing the wedding date) and welcoming the relatives (receiving the relatives).
Step 5 visit the church
When the sedan chair enters the door of the husband's family, the little girl who gets off the sedan chair needs to greet the bride to get out of the sedan chair. Then he went to the main hall of the wedding and began a complicated ceremony to pay tribute to the bride. The ceremony of worshipping the church is divided into three parts, namely, worshipping heaven and earth, worshipping parents and worshipping husband and wife. Moreover, these ceremonies require newcomers to kneel on the ground and kowtow seriously, instead of bowing face to face today.
6. He Lang wine
On the night of visiting the church, the man's family will sit together and drink wine for a whole day, which is called "He Lang wine". On He Lang wine, the bride must pour wine for her elders and guests one by one. At this time, it should be noted that when the bride pours wine for everyone, the wine needs to be filled, but it must not be spilled.