Who is tutoring homework?

Who is cooking?

Who is cleaning?

If the answer to these questions is "I", it will be a little sad. I take the liberty to guess that you must still be the one who complains the most.

If the answer to these questions is "husband and wife share", it will be a little comforting. It would be better if we can appreciate each other and encourage each other.

If the answer to these questions is "I love you", it's not scientific, but don't blame the people who do it.

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Justin gained a lot of fans in the variety show "Men Doing Housework". To tell the truth, Bian Xiao has always believed that people who love family and life shine everywhere.

At 6 o'clock in the morning, Justin will get up and make a nutritious breakfast for his sleeping wife Zhang Xinyi;

Hearing the child wake up, quickly pick up the child, make milk powder and feed milk powder;

The last person to eat, skillfully and habitually clear the table after dinner;

Give your wife a professional traction massage;

Handling express delivery, unpacking express delivery and cleaning baby products;

……

I thought it was a real program, but the host Li Dan explained that he had been to the home of Zhang Xinyi and Justin, and Justin knew where the daily necessities were.

Justin knows his family life like the back of his hand.

At first, Justin and Zhang Xinyi's marriage was not optimistic. Zhang Xinyi is married for the second time, and has a sister-in-law relationship. This ominous marriage spell was found in their marriage.

But life still generously gave happiness to this good man who knew everything about family life.

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My neighbor Grandpa Guo and his wife are simply my marriage textbooks.

Every morning when I go to work, I can always hear the sound of the door opening next door. Uncle Guo is opening the door to ventilate.

Then, he will squat down to lift shoes for his wife, tie shoelaces, adjust the buttons on his hat and collar, and go out hand in hand. For more than ten years, they walked hand in hand, which is a landscape in the small mining area where I live.

My wife said that Grandpa Guo is a careful man. When he was young, he worked outside, knowing that it was not easy for his wife to bring up three children at home. Every time he goes home, he almost always overhauls his home to see if there are hidden dangers in water, electricity and gas in case his wife and children are in danger. Save some rice, oil and salt to save your wife embarrassment; I often help others, so as not to be embarrassed when my wife and children bother others.

Later, three sons got married one after another, and the old couple raised two granddaughters and a grandson one after another. Uncle Guo keeps in mind the food preferences of his three daughters-in-law and the preferences of his grandchildren.

The eldest daughter-in-law has been in the door for almost forty years, and there has never been any contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. All three sons are obedient and have a happy marriage.

Now the old couple live together, and taking care of their wives has become Uncle Guo's main business.

Once the light at home was broken and needed tools to be repaired. I knocked on Uncle Guo's door. Seeing Uncle Guo with a towel on his shoulder and his hands still wet, I couldn't help but say shyly, "Is Uncle Guo washing his feet?" "No, your aunt is washing her feet."

Looking in, menstruation is sitting on the sofa, with his hand on the arm of the sofa, watching TV.

"Ah, it's my uncle washing my aunt's feet. Aunt, you are so happy. " I said it a little jokingly.

Uncle was not embarrassed, but proudly said, "I wash it every day. On the one hand, it is good for sleep;" Second, feet don't stink. "

"We'll wipe soap and apply vanishing cream later. Your uncle knows everything, otherwise, we old couple are over 80, and we can still be so tough, all pointing at him. " Oh, my aunt also came to show her love.

Yes, I really don't know until my aunt tells me. These two rosy and energetic old people have been together for more than a year.

The happiness enlightenment of more than 60 years is just an infinite love for trivial life.

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My colleague, Xiao Cui, is confinement and lives in a community with me. The office sent me as a representative to express her condolences.

Everyone is worried that Xiao Cui's mother-in-law died years ago, and her mother can't take care of her because of physical reasons. Due to financial constraints, the young couple can't hire Yueyue.

Let's go clubbing, buy nutrition and have a chat.

Xiao Cui opened the door, and it was a person with the children at home. The home was clean, and it was hardly like a delivery room.

I told Xiao Cui not to do too much work. Being sick on the moon is no joke. It's normal to be dirty and messy in the month. But Xiao Cui said that her husband packed all these things. In the second month, what her husband said most was: wife, don't move, leave it alone, I'll do it.

Xiao Cui's husband came home from work, carrying a lot of bags and saying that his wife had an order. Today, distinguished guests must stay for dinner.

I really can't bear to think of their busyness, but this busyness is kind and difficult. Just about to wash my hands to help, Xiao Cui's husband quickly said, my task is to chat with Xiao Cui, colleagues, gossip and beautiful women, so that Xiao Qing can be refreshed and not to suppress Xiao Cui.

Xiao Cui's husband went into the kitchen to get busy, and soon a table of dishes was served, including hard dishes for entertaining guests, fish soup necessary for milking in Ma Bao, and nutritious moon meal without meat. The level is really not less than 10 thousand yuan.

Xiao Cui insisted that I eat first, and her husband took the opportunity to wash the children's bibs, diapers and clothes for a day. When the baby woke up, Xiao Cui began to nurse the baby.

After dinner, Xiao Cui whispered to me, "Sister, can you take care of my children for a while so that my husband and I can have dinner together?" . It's almost a month since the birth, and we haven't had a quiet and leisurely meal together. "Say that finish, XiaoCui eyes with tears.

Sure, no problem. I teased the children and looked at them both. My husband kept adding vegetables to Xiao Cui and said, "What are you afraid of being fat? It is no problem to eat this. " "It'll be all right in a minute", "I'll take you out to buy clothes when the children are older" and so on.

When I was full of envy, Xiao Cui also showed off. It is said that when you are hospitalized, there will always be advertisements, and you will come in to sell diapers, milk powder, lactation and postpartum depression counseling. The demand for the second month can really be said to be wiped out.

After three days in hospital, the clinical staff received 53 emergency business cards, but Xiao Cui didn't want any, because no amount of business cards were as good as one of Xiao Cui's husbands.

Xiao Cui said that her husband did his homework before giving birth and knew everything. Even all kinds of embarrassing situations during production gave Xiao Cui a vaccination in advance.

Therefore, both of them, a child and her husband have to go to work. Others can't believe it and complain, but they are extremely happy.

Xiao Cui said that her husband is studying postpartum repair recipes, downloading sports videos, listening to precautions, and trying to make Xiao Cui mentally and physically up to standard when he goes to work.

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Zhang Xinyi, Justin, Uncle Guo and Xiao Cui seem to have different ages, occupations and status, but they are all very happy because they have drawn a detailed love map in their marriage.

The word "love map" comes from "Happy Marriage" by John Goldman, a famous American psychologist and marriage pope. Refers to the place where your brain stores information about your spouse's life. Many cognitive spaces created by husband and wife for marriage.

Drawing an accurate, rich and meticulous love map is inseparable from careful observation of trivial matters in life, which may include:

The name of your partner's best friend; A partner's dream; The stress your partner is currently facing; Religion and philosophy that partners believe in; Your partner's favorite food ...

The more you know about family life, the more you communicate, and look at the problem from a developmental perspective, the more accurate and efficient your love map will be, which will help you and your partner reach a happy destination as soon as possible.

Therefore, don't wait for big events such as birth, illness, death, etc. to lament that marriage is not easy and human feelings are thin and cold; In daily family life, we should draw a love map with our heart and update it in time.

Details triumph over love. Trivia makes marriage, and life always rewards those who know life like the back of their hands.

Is the love map in your marriage good enough?