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"The young man is very honest and has a good temper. Although the conditions are not very favorable, you have to find an honest man to get married." The aunt downstairs tried her best to tell Xiaolei introduce.
Xiaolei is 29, and love is no longer as important as it was a few years ago. At this age, it seems more urgent to get married.
Xiaolei met the honest man described by her aunt. He was a bit unattractive, but he smiled silly and was very considerate to Xiaolei, which made Xiaolei feel a lot more comfortable.
Xiaolei thinks that we should look at everything. If it is suitable, we can be together and give each other a chance.
The honest man is really honest, and his innocent look makes people feel safe. She always responds to Xiaolei's requests, doesn't speak loudly and never uses bad words, and she treats others politely and courteously. After getting in touch with him for a period of time, Xiaolei found that he was indeed as her aunt said, not a frivolous person and an honest and peaceful person.
Xiaolei established a relationship with him. Although the days are not as full of passion as when they were young and in love, they still feel as elegant as drinking from a clear spring.
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We go to and from get off work every day, send messages, make phone calls, and go on dates every now and then, and the occasional small conflicts will be reconciled. Half a year later, the two of them discussed whether to put the matter on the agenda for marriage.
On the night of the weekend before the two parents were to meet, Xiaolei was lying on the bed and scrolling through WeChat as usual. Look at the delicacies shared by everyone in the foodie group as well as some boring gossip and short videos.
Suddenly, a short video caught Xiaolei’s eye. In the video, several men were holding women and drinking wine, and the man sitting in the middle was his boyfriend.
Xiaolei was confused at that moment. She only knew that her boyfriend told her to have dinner with the boss tonight. She told herself that this should be just an act, so she should stay calm.
Then Xiaolei saw the person who posted the video in the group and said: My classmate sent it to me, saying that all the "princesses" they made tonight have good figures. Do you still want to watch it?
Xiaolei pretended to be casual and asked in the group: You are having so much fun, where are you?
After being informed of the specific location, Xiaolei quickly called her friend Xiaoshage to go together. Xiaolei was uneasy along the way. She had no idea what was going on. She never thought that someone who had always been so honest and peaceful would be like this.
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When they arrived at the place, Xiaolei asked Brother Shazi to go in and inquire about the situation. After a while, the boyfriend's group each led a woman into the hotel next door.
Xiaolei hid in the corner and heard her boyfriend saying to others: I will open an hourly room later, and I have to go home when I am done.
Xiaolei felt a rush of blood rushing to the top of her head. She wanted to rush out, but she held back. Later, Brother Shazi told Xiaolei that he had a chat with the person at the front desk. He said that this group of people had been here many times, and every time there was Xiaolei’s boyfriend. The waiter was very impressed with him because he was the most playful. Once, I even had to play "home run" with these ladies in a private room in front of everyone.
Xiaolei went back and made it clear to Honest Man and broke up. The honest man begged and said that he had no choice but to act on the occasion. He is such an honest person and promises to only do this once.
Xiaolei laughed disdainfully and ruthlessly told everything that Brother Shazi had heard that night. Suddenly, the honest man felt like he was going crazy. He yelled: Why don’t I just find a young lady to play with? How many men dare to say that they have never played? I don’t have much money and I’m not good-looking, so no woman is willing to look for me. If I don’t treat the customer to treat me, it’s all in vain. Rich men usually get tired of playing with you women, so you want to find an honest man. Then I will act like an honest person. Who would be willing to pretend to be an honest person if I have money and good looks?
Xiaolei slapped him and they parted ways.
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Too many people are like Xiaolei, thinking that honesty is a person’s nature. Characteristics never fade. However, honesty is sometimes just a person's appearance, which can be interpreted or hidden.
Some so-called honest people are just ordinary people because they have no money, no ability, no fun, and if they don’t have the advantage of being honest, no woman may ever be willing to be with him.
When choosing a love and marriage partner, if his honesty, stability and reliability become the biggest factor in your choice, then you should think carefully. Because most people's honesty is vulnerable and may change instantly in the face of the temptations of this troubled world.
Many times when honest people become promiscuous, you and I can’t stand it. The so-called gentleman is nothing more than a more patient wolf.
I read an article and there was a sentence that said, "You are not a good person, you just don't have the chance to be debauched." In the same way, you are not honest, you just don’t have the capital to be honest.
Liu Yong once said, "The more a man has no identity, no status, no property, and no way out, the more careful you have to be." Often, once such a man becomes powerful, the "honesty and reliability" you once thought will disappear. It is the most severe evidence that you are blind.
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We watch costume dramas, read ancient novels and history, and there are too many stories about honest poor scholars who abandoned them after gaining fame. The story of getting married to a wife who once had a vow of eternal love.
For example, the well-known Chen Shimei and Qin Xianglian, such as Zhang Sheng and Cui Yingying in "The Story of Yingying". The first thing every such scholar does when he becomes successful is to find a new love. I didn’t look for it before because I couldn’t find it.
I have also heard that the murderer of too many murder cases is often the most honest person who is least expected. He usually gets along well with his neighbors, doesn't talk much, has never beaten or scolded anyone, and comes home on time from get off work. That's it. The honest man became a murderer. Honesty is the biggest misunderstanding of this kind of person, and it is also his best packaging.
I have also seen too many officials who were expected to perform their duties and look extremely honest, but their careers were ruined because of greed. The expansion of power has encouraged these officials to become greedy and wipe out every drop of their so-called honest duties.
Don’t mistake being dull for honesty, don’t mistake being less talkative and introverted for honesty, don’t mistake having few friends of the opposite sex and having little love experience as honesty. Now they don't spend time ordinarily, date, gamble, or be dissolute. If the objective conditions are sufficient, these "honest people" can't wait to change.
Moreover, most men just want to be dishonest in their subjective thoughts.
Don’t talk about “just find an honest man and marry him.” An honest man doesn’t owe you anything, and he may not be truly honest.
True honesty is being open-minded, remaining calm in the face of materialistic desires, being able to remain calm despite temptation, being surrounded by beautiful women and remaining single-minded.
Only when you are truly indifferent to fame and fortune can you be qualified to say that you are indifferent to fame and fortune. I have never smelled fame or fortune, so I just say that I am indifferent to fame and fortune.
Just like a poor person telling you that money is the most vulgar thing in the world, and the life of a rich person is extremely vulgar and boring, you must not believe it.
Don’t believe it when a person who has nothing and has not been baptized by desire, fame, wealth, and power says that he is absolutely honest and reliable.
Those honest people who are willing to humble themselves in front of you are just doing it to get what they want. When one day what you have is not enough to exchange for his honesty, then what will follow is the side you least expected.