My friend and his wife made an appointment to eat and watch a movie when they came back from a trip, so they made a simple movie guide with mind maps before leaving work, and they were going to discuss which movie to watch when they were ready to eat. What time is good for you? As a result, everyone said that since you made the raiders, you should choose us to carry them out.
So after a friend invited me to dinner, we went to see the Italian film legend of 19 that I chose. After watching it, I was shocked to see how it was so similar to the action change model (expansion-jump model) mentioned in Teacher Ma Huaxing's Thinking Breaks.
The content of this model is to use psychological knowledge to divide people's understanding of the outside world into three areas: comfort zone, stretching zone (also called learning zone) and panic zone.
comfort zone: we are very familiar with the people and things in this area, and we are comfortable in doing things. In this area, we feel very comfortable, but we can learn little and make slow progress.
Stretching area (learning area): This is an area that we seldom set foot in, and it is full of novel things, where we can fully exercise ourselves and challenge ourselves.
panic zone: as the name implies, this is a zone that makes us feel worried and panic, and things in this zone make us overwhelmed.
The talented pianist in legend of 19 (called 19 by his black adoptive father) was abandoned in a cruise ship at sea after being born by his parents, and put in a cradle on a piano in the cabin. Maybe his father or mother is an outstanding pianist!
In a word, he is born with the talent to play the piano, and he is self-taught. Born and raised at sea, he never set foot on land in his twenties. On the sea and on the ship, he played passionate dance music for the nobles who lived in the first-class cabin, and even played it mischievously, suddenly changing the tune at will, and finally turned the ensemble of the whole band into his own piano recital, which made the whole band stop eating. Both the members of the band and the nobles were impressed by his spiritual piano performance, and no one stopped him from this unconventional move.
He even plays hopeful and warm music for tourists in middle class and lower class. Moreover, these beautiful piano pieces are improvisations, and none of them are played by the score. He is an interesting and lively spirit of the whole cruise ship and sea.
As he himself said, he can control the whole cruise ship, from the bow to the stern, including 2, passengers in each cruise ship. Choosing to live at sea is his comfort zone, listening to the sound of the sea, letting creative thoughts fly around, playing songs that everyone has never heard before, and drawing the most beautiful melody in his hands with 88 black and white keyboards. He enjoys the life that he can arrange.
Suddenly, this controllable life seemed to be broken. When he looked through the window of the cabin, he saw the brown eyes lined with One girl on the window lattice, and saw her Gherardini face and lips that seemed to be touching, time seemed to stop in an instant, because his love came.
His eyes shone with admiration, and he kept following the beautiful figure outside the window, and his piano music became melodious, gentle and slow, expressive and affectionate. For this reason, he walked out of the cabin that he rarely left, braved the heavy rain and came to the deck. He wanted to give This girl the only piano music recorded for the first time in his life as a gift. In order to break through his introverted personality, he even practiced the skills of hitting on girls in front of the mirror, and went to the ladies' cabin late at night to look for the favorite One girl from bed to bed, secretly offering her first kiss in her sleep.
These first attempts in life show that pianist 19 wanted to break out of his comfort zone and enter the study area. However, all these attempts were still in his familiar environment. Because the ship has landed, One girl is getting off the boat. If she wants to continue to chase what she loves, she should leave the sea she is familiar with decisively like a mermaid, go to land, and go to the area where her lover is, to embrace more uncertainty and experience more discomfort.
After the girl got off the boat and left, he was silent for several days. After thinking and thinking, he finally announced that he would leave the cruise ship and the sea to pursue his love on land. So with everyone's blessing and support, he stepped off the deck for the first time. When he reached the center of the mid-air ladder connecting the ship with the ground, he stopped and looked at the towering buildings in front of him, which were endless, bustling and bustling, and the streets were busy with people coming and going, which made him feel awe and unwilling to take another step.
? So he turned around and went back to his familiar and comfortable cruise ship, and returned to the days when he danced with the piano. Until the wreck was finally blown up, his friends advised him to get off the boat and live a new life together, but he still resolutely chose the fate of dying with the wreck.
? I feel sorry for this talented pianist, but I also want to tell him that there is no need to go from the comfort zone (sea) to the panic zone (land) at once. You can try to get off the boat and walk on the land first, find the girl, and make an appointment with her (after all, the girl kissed him on her own initiative when she got off the boat), even if you stay together for one hour, two hours, and one day ~ ~ to see if the land is really as he imagined. If it's still as he fears, it's not too late to return to the ship then! Why refuse to enter the study area (disembarking experience)! Even at the ultimate cost of life, such a heavy choice is too rash and unworthy.
However, what I understand is that the pianist's decision not to disembark in 19 is really bad? Is it really not worth it? According to teacher Ma Huaxing's decision-making method: use stories to draw out inner thoughts.
If the pianist 19 is faced with two choices, item A: stay at sea and live; Item B: Live on land. Among them, the best plot that option B can bring him is that the pianist came to land in 19, and he is still sought after and loved by everyone as a pianist. He recorded a lot of piano music records, which brought him a lot of money and great honor, just like the jazz inventor and famous black pianist who came to the ship to challenge him, holding a cigar with his head held high, wearing a gold necklace, a diamond ring and gold teeth, and everyone was crowding around. Media fluorescent lights focus on him all the time. Although the piano is "performed" well and completely conforms to the secular taste, it seems to lack some ethereal and clear charm and natural charm. The income from the piano performance can make him buy a big house, even a villa, marry the girl he loves, and have five innocent and lovely children. When friends visit, his wife can offer food made by herself, and get friends' praise and admiration ~ ~ ~
But is all this really the destiny pursued by pianist 19? The material life is rich, but the piano sound becomes hollow and lacks aura. Will his love remain fresh in the ordinary and secular life after a few years? As the alchemist who knows the voice of the world said to the shepherd boy in Fantasy Journey of the Shepherd Boy: You and the girl lived happily in the first year; The signs of the second year remind you to pursue your destiny, and you ignore all this and still immerse yourself in such an ordinary life; In the third year, you will start wandering all day and all night, as if you feel that there is something missing in your life, and the girl will become the saddest woman in the world, because she knows that she interrupted your way forward. Although you are still in love, your heart is no longer stable. The omen of the fourth year will eventually give up on you, because you always ignore it, so you wander in the common customs like a soulless ghost, anxious and scared, because you know that you have not fulfilled your destiny, but it is too late to do it at that time. Finally, the alchemist said to the shepherd boy: Love will never stop a man from pursuing his destiny. If it is stopped, it must be because it is not true love, not love expressed in universal language.
There is no doubt that the choice of item A always follows the pianist 19' s own heart, and produces the sound of * * * together with the rich soul. As he told his friends who came to the wrecked ship to persuade him to go down, even if his left hand was blown off by explosives, and even if God equipped him with someone else's right hand, he could still play the most beautiful and up-to-date music in his heart: because the fragments of the cruise ship and the roaring sea that inspired him were the familiar environment on which he lived, and he showed his skills and left the world the most beautiful melody in his life, which made him feel happier and more valuable.
Therefore, the pianist 19' s choice to die with the ship is definitely beyond the understanding of an ordinary person like me, because he knows that when there is love in his heart, it can be transformed into any kind of everything in the world. Moreover, each substance only plays its unique role as the only thing, and everything is thus synthesized into a harmonious and wonderful symphony.
Therefore, I can only bless him silently in my heart: in the kingdom of heaven, I can still play the voice of God, shaking people's hearts, shaking people's hearts, and spreading to the sky for a long time.