Mother Tao Yanbo and son Yang Naibin

In order to make her deaf son learn like a normal person, a mother resigned and stayed with her son all the time, becoming the child's ear. From elementary school to university, she spent 16 years together. The protagonists of this story are "deskmate mother" Tao Yanbo and her 20-year-old son Yang Naibin, who was just awarded "Touching China 20 14 Person of the Year" by CCTV on February 27th this year. In the long days of accompanying students, the mother is her son's deskmate and her son's ear, which makes her son hear the voice of the world and silent maternal love.

On the afternoon of March 4, the reporter met Tao Yanbo at a courier receiving and dispatching point in the East Campus of Hebei University of Technology. There is no heating in her small room, but it is full of popularity. Because Tao Yanbo is going to give 140 lectures in Hainan with the theme of "How to educate children", several students of Yang Naibin came to say goodbye to her, and some teachers and students came to see her after watching the award ceremony. The small room was crowded with people. Yang Naibin's classmates told reporters that they left their hometown to study in Tianjin, feeling lonely and confused. They like to chat with Aunt Tao, because Aunt Tao can not only exchange and learn like classmates, but also tell them some life truths like elders, always conveying warmth and positive energy.

This is Tao Yanbo, the unfortunate mother in others' eyes. Through her perseverance, she has an excellent and filial son and a happy life. Under her education, her son, Yang Naibin, also faced up to the life situation, never succumbed to fate, and grew into a strong man in life. Tao Yanbo's spirit embodies the greatness of maternal love and vividly explains the influence of family, family education and family style on the country and society.

During the interview, Tao Yanbo's cheerful optimism eased the original sad atmosphere of the whole story, and the dialogue was relaxed and smooth. She smiled and said, "I hope my son can find a job smoothly after graduation this year. Of course, if he likes studying and wants to continue his graduate studies, I am still willing to be his deskmate. "

Try to learn lip language and teach children to speak.

Tao Yanbo is from Heilongjiang. She and her husband Yang Dezhi are college classmates. After graduation, they were assigned to work in Qinhuangdao. 1992, son Yang Naibin was born in Qinhuangdao. Yang Naibin experienced a high fever when he was eight months old. After having a high fever, his father found that the child was different from other children-no matter how he clapped his hands around and behind him, he didn't respond. The couple took their children to the hospital overnight. An old professor tested their hearing and found that his left ear was 95 decibels and his right ear was 105 decibels. He can hardly hear, and he is severely deaf.

Hearing the bad news, Tao Yanbo's tears fell down. She couldn't accept this fact and took her children all over the big hospitals in Beijing and Shanghai, but she still got this result. In Peking Union Medical College Hospital, an old professor told Tao Yanbo: "Normal children's language recovery period is 0-7 years old. If you miss this language recovery period, the vocal cords will change after 7 years old, and the child will never speak again. "

The staff of the Union Medical College Hospital told Tao Yanbo that a rehabilitation institution for deaf children in Beijing specially provides training for parents of deaf children. This has almost become Tao Yanbo's only hope. She signed up as quickly as possible. Many of her classmates are kindergarten teachers and special education teachers. She sits in the first row of the classroom every day in class. She learns quickly. After a month's assault training, she has mastered the basic essentials of lip language.

After returning home, she began to teach her children to speak with their lips. To this end, she weaves some elements of daily life, such as shirts, trousers, water and cups, into cards with pictures on them, words on the bottom and pinyin on the back, so that children can touch their mother's vocal cords and feel the changes of their mother's vocal cords, and then see how their mother's mouth shape changes. The whole learning process is very difficult. "For example, pueraria lobata, the root of tongue occurs at the root of tongue. Children can't see the root of the tongue and can't learn at all. I have taught him this sound for five or six years. "

After learning lip language for a year, Yang Naibin can only make a vague voice and can't hear what he is saying clearly. Relatives and neighbors advised Tao Yanbo not to waste any more effort. The child certainly can't learn to speak, but Tao Yanbo always believes that there is a tacit understanding between her and her son. As long as she continues to teach him, he will certainly learn to speak.

On Yang Naibin's 5th birthday, his father cooked a sumptuous dinner, but Naibin probably couldn't eat it. He stretched out his arm and shouted "Mom" with great anxiety! Despite the ambiguity, the couple were stunned. "The son can talk! My son will call mom! " Tao Yanbo rummaged through the boxes to find the card "Mom" and told him that the word was Mom. Years of hard work finally paid off, and this cry strengthened Tao Yanbo's confidence in continuing to let her children practice vocalization.

Diligent "deskmate mother"

Time flies. In a blink of an eye, Naibin reached the age of primary school. Tao Yanbo made a decision, resigned from her original good job and returned to her hometown of Qiqihar with her son, preparing to be a "birth mother". She chose to send her children to ordinary schools. "At that time, many relatives thought I was crazy, but I thought there was no language exchange environment in the school for the deaf, and I was worried that it would be more difficult to learn to speak in that environment."

Although Tao Yanbo thinks that his son can speak, the school's first reaction is to reject a child who has no hearing and vague language expression. Tao Yanbo didn't give up. She went to the principal of that school and said all the good things, but the principal still disagreed. She has visited a dozen primary schools nearby, but none of them is willing to accept Yang Naibin.

It's almost the beginning of September, all school-age children have entered school, and the situation has finally turned around. On one occasion, Tao Yanbo took Naibin to the school to intercede. Although his son can't hear what the headmaster is saying, he understands the headmaster's expression. Naibin picked up a brush and drew a picture on paper, which was a pagoda in his hometown park. He said vaguely to the headmaster, "You are the oldest in the school. If you let me study, I will go to school, otherwise I will never have a chance to study. " Tao Yanbo was surprised that her son could say such a thing at an early age. The headmaster was moved by Naibin's desire to study, and finally agreed to the request of mother and son.

The headmaster also raised his own question, how can children attend classes if they can't hear? Tao Yanbo stayed up all night thinking repeatedly. The next morning, she took her son to school and begged the headmaster to agree to bring her children to school and be their ears. The headmaster agreed to his mother's request.

In class, Yang Naibin was arranged to sit in the first row. In order not to block the students behind her, Tao Yanbo took a small bench and sat next to her son as his deskmate. At first, children felt a little embarrassed when they were with adults in class. However, Tao Yanbo and the children reviewed their lessons and played games together, which touched these children with sincerity and maternal love. They became good friends.

On the way to school, any normal child will encounter problems, not to mention that Yang Naibin is a child who has basically lost his hearing. The teacher speaks very fast in class, and Yang Naibin can't keep up with the teacher's mouth, so he is always absent-minded in class. After a class, I can basically understand only half of the content.

Tao Yanbo is very busy in class and often "pinches" his son to distract him; While I was busy taking notes, I wrote down as much as possible what the teacher said so that I could tell my son when I got home. To her relief, her hard work was not in vain. Naibin studied very hard and her grades were unexpectedly excellent. She is a good student every semester.

In 2002, Yang Naibin went to the fifth grade of primary school. Tao Yanbo saw on TV that Peking Union Medical College Hospital introduced an Australian cochlear implant, which can greatly improve the hearing of the hearing-impaired people. She also learned that children with acquired deafness due to drug allergy in childhood should receive scientific treatment and wear cochlear implants as soon as possible, which is the best way. She and her husband sold the house in their hometown and raised 200,000 yuan with their families, so that Yang Naibin accepted the operation of implanting cochlear implants in his left ear. Naibin finally has 70% hearing in his left ear, that is to say, he can hear sounds within 3 meters. From then on, Tao Yanbo began to teach her son to speak harder.

Accompany my son to attend middle school in Tianjin

In 2006, when Yang Naibin graduated from primary school, his grades were among the best in his class. In order to make Naibin have a better learning environment and bring her children closer to Beidaihe, where her father works, she took her children to Tianjin. Tao Yanbo said that it is actually his son's wish to go to school in Tianjin. "When he was a child, he introduced Tianjin on TV and said that I would go there to study in the future."

Yang Naibin entered the experimental class of No.51Middle School in Tianjin with excellent grades in primary school. Qiqihar and Tianjin have different teaching contents and curriculum arrangements, and Yang Naibin, who has limited hearing, is extremely uncomfortable. After a semester, Naibin ranked first from the bottom among more than 500 children in the whole grade. Therefore, Tao Yanbo spends more time teaching children to learn every day. Although she graduated from college, facing the current middle school textbooks, Tao Yanbo, like a student, can't understand it for a while. Especially English, she learned very little at school, and now she is starting from scratch. She redoubled her efforts to remember, read and study. After 45 minutes of class, Tao Yanbo didn't dare to be distracted for a second, for fear that some places were not fully remembered. For her, the last class was like a battle, and her hands and body were sweaty.

In high school, Yang Naibin was admitted to a national middle school. Mother and son take notes together in class and do problems together after class. Tao Yanbo is almost the student who asks the teacher the most questions. Because only when she understands it thoroughly can she tell the children more clearly. She smiled and said that she didn't study so hard at school.

Tao Yanbo, who lives in Tianjin, takes care of the children alone. Every day, she can only use physical education class's rest time or big recess to go to the vegetable market to buy food, otherwise even the vegetable sellers will close at night after school. What moved Tao Yanbo was that Naibin was very filial and sensible. Doing homework at home at night, my son is very serious and active, never letting her rush; Every birthday, my son will buy her a gift with the rest of his pocket money; When he saw his mother's serious hair loss due to overwork, he looked through Compendium of Materia Medica, looked up prescriptions on the Internet and helped her decoct medicine. When watching her son coming to her with steaming fried Chinese medicine, Tao Yanbo knew that his son had grown up and knew how to care for others.

Great maternal love touched China.

20 1 1, Yang Naibin was admitted to the electromechanical integration major of Hebei University of Technology with an excellent score of 568. With her son's acceptance letter, Tao Yanbo was ecstatic and wanted to share this happiness with the whole world.

Yang Naibin is earlier than other children of the same age. He wants to work while studying, so that he can integrate into society more quickly and share the burden of his family. 20 1 1 In the summer vacation, he found a job of pruning branches in the community, got up at 6 o'clock every morning, persisted for a month, and earned his first salary. 750 yuan gave the money to his grandmother, who had been silently supporting his studies.

Considering that Naibin has to charge the cochlear implant every day, the school changed the circuit of his dormitory to 24 hours a day. Every time the mother and son have a class together, the classmates help him take the seat in the first row, so that Tao's mother can listen as clearly as possible. After school, teachers often tutor the mother and son alone at home or in the office. Through everyone's help and Naibin's own efforts, his grades have been at the upper-middle level in his class for three years.

Hebei University of Technology School also supported the mother and son and several college students to open a courier point on campus. Although the rented small house is not big, it is also very lively every day. When Naibin was in class, Tao Yanbo helped to send and receive express delivery in the engine room.

Tao Yanbo said that his happiest thing is that his son can overcome one difficulty after another in adversity and win again and again. Now Yang Naibin can communicate with people normally. He gets a scholarship every year, recites 1000 questions for three hours, and even gets full marks in four driving tests. A classmate failed in many subjects in the exam. Naibin offered to help him make up lessons and give him lectures at the courier every day. When other students learned about it, they all came to ask about his homework. Interestingly, sometimes Tao Yanbo can help with the answers.

Yang Naibin gradually began to study and live independently, and his growth also prompted Tao Yanbo to adjust his living conditions. She wants to find a job to help her husband reduce the family burden, or save enough money to implant a cochlear implant in her son's other ear as soon as possible.

Looking back on her life in these years, Tao Yanbo often looks in the mirror and feels that she has lost her youthful face. She is 49 years old, with a few strands of white hair on her temples, blurred eyes and a hunchback. She often asks herself, where has all the time gone? Turning her head to look at Naibin beside her, she gently replied: Time will not fail you, and fate will not always treat you badly.

Tao Yanbo recalled that before the recording of Touching China, the host asked her what she wanted. She said: "After so many years of ups and downs, it is even more difficult for the child's father to work alone for our school. I hope her husband can take the stage to receive the award together. " Although the award was only given to Tao Yanbo, the honor belongs to this powerful family. The host readily agreed to her request, and the three of us shared the honor and joy.

Tao Yanbo hopes to share her feelings over the years through the media: "Many families abandon their children because of their disabilities, or give up their treatment and education. I want to tell more parents all over the world by action. As long as there is a glimmer of hope, parents must never give up. Mother is the first teacher of children. This mother should believe in her children and believe that love will work miracles! "