Leave room

Selected reading (1):

Learn to "leave room"

Nothing is absolute, and it is impossible to be absolute. Therefore, we should pay attention to leaving room in everything, which is a philosophical point of view and also the knowledge of being a man.

as everyone knows, one should not talk too much, and one should not do too well. As the ancients said, "Speak a few words when meeting people, but don't throw them all at all of my heart", "A good man is good at turning around and forgiving others", "Shoot the bird at the head" and "The budding fruit will rot first". All these thoughts and considerations are warning the world and dealing with people.

Take some trivial matters and details in daily life for example, we should also pay attention to leaving room for everything.

I remember that once, a girl who could smoke was addicted to cigarettes and didn't bring it with her, so she asked me for a cigarette and smoked it, but she still had a big cigarette left and put it out. I asked curiously, don't you want to smoke? Why don't you smoke when there is so much left?

I didn't expect a sentence to pop out of her mouth at once: You know, if you don't smoke to the end, you won't drink to the full. Tar and toxins are the most concentrated when cigarettes are smoked to the tail, and it will be harmful to smoke again. As for drinking, you boys know better. First, make a toast, and don't pour it too full. As the saying goes, "Fill your glass in front of your enemy." You may fill it out of respect, but others will think you hate him. Besides, you have to stop drinking until you are 78% successful, and you are drunk when you are full. You know, if someone dies drunk on the wine table, everyone who drinks at the same table has to bear the responsibility of compensation. This is a newly revised legal provision.

It seems that this girl may also be a sophisticated person, and she can see many things in the world clearly. In a few words, she inadvertently interprets the inner meaning of "everything should leave room" clearly and thoroughly through these humble life sections.

there is neither perfection nor complete perfection in the world. The cause of this day may be the result of tomorrow. If you can't see through this, you don't know how to leave room for yourself.

In this society, some people, who are certain officials in personality, are very headstrong to be officials. When dealing with others, they are too sharp-edged, aggressive, bossy, have nothing to fear, say everything, and do all kinds of bad things. I am the best in the world, but I don't know everything. At this time, I have said too much and done too much. I have neither thought about leaving room for others nor left myself a way back. I am not a wise man.

Just like Chou He, a senior official in Yunnan who recently lost his job, he became popular in the media and officialdom with his tough style of "demolishing and building" when he took office as secretary of the Kunming Municipal Party Committee. He was also called "an alternative in officialdom" by the media at that time. He was in the whirlpool of controversy all the time in his official career, but he was promoted all the way, from * * * Suqian Municipal Party Committee Secretary to Jiangsu Provincial Vice Governor to * * * Yunnan.

Chou He completely stirred up the Kunming officialdom with his own routine. Someone made a vivid analogy: "Kunming is a gentle, leisurely and uncontested city, and the official style is of course more lazy, mediocre and scattered." Chou He, like a fast-swimming' catfish', rushed into the sleepy sardine pond in Kunming and set a few fires, scaring all the sardines to wake up and become a living method. "

Although there is no lack of flattery in this speech, it also reflects his consistent style of leaving no room for anything, reckless and high-profile. Although the scenery was temporary and the limelight was exhausted, it was still planted in his own waywardness.

Therefore, it's better to keep a low profile, learn to leave room for everything, be cautious, know how to exercise restraint, don't expect too much, do what you don't want others to do to you, and be convenient to others and yourself. This is also a realm of being a man.

Selected reading (2):

Leave room

Mr. Li bought a house with a big yard, and as soon as he moved in, all the weeds and wild trees in the yard were removed and planted with his newly bought flowers. One day, the original owner visited and was surprised when he entered the door: "Where is that precious peony?" It turns out that Mr. Li actually shoveled peony as a weed. Later, Mr. Li bought another house, and the yard was even more messy, but he stayed put. Sure enough, plants that are thought to be miscellaneous trees in winter bloom in spring; Spring thought it was a weed, but summer became a cluster; Small trees that haven't moved for half a year turn red in autumn. In architecture, there is a special term called "expansion joint", which means that buildings can't be completely connected with each other, so it is necessary to leave a telescopic space within a proper distance. Bridges, roads, houses, etc., and even laying bricks on the ground, must leave expansion joints in case the structure shrinks and expands when the air changes cold or hot.

Buddhism says "emptiness", which is not the absence of emptiness, but the wonderful use, because there is space to accommodate everyone's existence. At this moment, we should not only pay attention to leaving expansion joints, but also color the expansion joints with gold, silver, red and blue to enhance their beauty.

In this world, we need to leave a space between people, people, people, people and people. If there is no room for expansion and contraction in interpersonal relationships, it is often easy to be associated with tension, causing friction and cracks.

However, stretching too tightly will certainly expand and crack; If you are too alienated, you will be full of loopholes if you are not with each other. Expansion joint is an appropriate distance between the two, which is the way to safety.

Sponge, because of its telescopic function, can contain too much water; When cooking melons and vegetable heads, if a few cuts are made on the surface with a sharp knife, condiments such as soy sauce will easily penetrate and increase the delicacy. The universe is empty, relying on its space to raise everything; The human body can also support its life by stretching the gastrointestinal muscles. Human beings can be said to have infinite ingenuity in the application of the principle of expansion and contraction in physics, but it is not easy to perfect the expansion and contraction of human feelings. Between the so-called human feelings, we can advance and retreat, get together, be big and small, and have and have nothing; Being able to know how to leave some appropriate space for people is not only convenient for yourself, but also convenient for others. This is also the expansion joint between people and me.