You always envy others what you lack.

Ever since I was a child, I have envied my neighbor's sister, Hong, who has a very good idea. She can clearly define what she wants every time, and every time she realizes it without any accident. Once and twice, everyone said that this lad is really lucky. But when the number of times increased, her good luck became a habit, as if she was born with the magic lamp of Allah and what she wanted could be realized immediately.

I didn't know until I grew up that the secret of this magic lamp of Allah is called "target". A Hongjie is a person with a strong sense of purpose. She is curious about the world and always wants to know about it. On a visit to relatives, she saw a new desktop computer from a wealthy relative. She is completely fascinated by it. She can play games and type. A thing called "browser" is like a magical magic box. When it is opened, everything is available.

That summer, she didn't go home during the summer vacation of Grade One in Senior High School. At the same time, she took several jobs and was determined to save money to buy a computer. In order to save enough money, she works three or four jobs at the same time and often returns to the dormitory at midnight.

those who know their goals clearly always try their best to get what they want.

Alina Zhang in the Handbook of Life Efficiency clearly defined his goal as a "diplomat" when he went to college. She resolutely dropped out of Zhejiang University and retaken the Beijing Normal University. During my four-year college life, I got up at 5: every morning, recited words and passed Grade 4 in grammar rain or shine, and finally participated in the championship of CCTV English speech contest, so I had the opportunity to attend the CEO Summit of APEC.

Now she is a global youth leader and the founder of Far North Coffee. She insists on publishing a book and giving 1 speeches every year.

And all these are due to her setting clear goals and knowing what she wants. Only when the goal is clear, do you know where the strength is going and where it is used. Even if you lean forward a little, you are slowly approaching your goal.

"I understood from the beginning that the so-called social interaction is a reciprocal exchange of value."

kendy has been a loner for four years in college. She has no friends. She never dresses up, goes shopping and watches movies, buys fashionable mobile phones and bags like other girls in the dormitory. Her bedside is full of all kinds of English materials, and she never wears headphones, and her mouth is full of something. The common time is near the time when the dormitory lights out.

When the girl in the dormitory can skip class, she is always the first to arrive, sitting in the front row and taking notes carefully. Think from time to time, ask questions actively and interact with the teacher.

I get up at 5 o'clock every day, recite words, grammar and texts, and I successfully won the CET-4 in my sophomore year. Participated in various English competitions, and later became the first person in the school to pass CET-8. After graduation, everyone was worried about her work. She has already established an English training institution with others and successfully conducted several courses.

She has always been a loner in our eyes. She is a loner and doesn't take part in group activities. We always say "weirdo" and "geek" to busy figures. But we don't know that excellent people always challenge themselves. They don't deliberately fit in. Only by achieving themselves can you gather more excellent people around you.

if you are good enough, you will be surrounded by good people. The English philosopher Joe Herbert once said, "An old friend is the best mirror".

excellent people are attracted by you. They always say that every age group has something to do. Don't waste your time when you should work hard. Only when you are rich enough can you talk about socializing.

I attended the middle school reunion some time ago, which was neither a graduation season nor a holiday, but my long absence from contact ignited the enthusiasm of the students to meet.

It is said that middle-aged people don't have nothing to attend any class reunion, and many middle-aged people have no intention of attending a class reunion. After the party, the whole person was not well. Why? Seeing that people who were not as good as themselves actually drove a BMW to live in a villa, why! That boy was not as good as me.

Sure enough, most of the students who got good grades in those years were working for others. Although they were doing seemingly beautiful jobs, they were more than enough, and their lives were not too rich, which was quite annoying. Let's take a look at the people whose grades were rotten to the dregs in those years, but all of them were glamorous, opened factories and companies, and turned into real estate bosses ...

There are such people among my classmates, who were called "poor students" by the teacher in those days, who fell in love with each other at school, fought and bullied female classmates ... In the eyes of the teacher, they were the kind of people who had no future. Who ever thought, after graduation for many years, I would become the "boss" of a company and the boss of a factory ... The employees hired have higher academic qualifications than one.

I talked with several so-called "poor students" in those years, and they confided that they were afraid to try anything, be capable of anything, and dare to venture and do anything because they knew that they were "school scum" and were inferior to others. While some schoolmasters can get good grades in school, but their adaptability after leaving school is much worse.

I used to be like this. I knew I had to listen to my teacher when I was in primary school, and I knew I had to study when I was in junior high school or high school, otherwise I would be worthless in the future.

but it turns out that the real losers are not those with poor academic performance, but those who don't know what they want.

Those people we didn't think highly of, who were solitary, unsociable and had poor grades, all looked like people with no future, but why did they attack back? Is it luck? Is it providence?

NO! None of them. Opportunity always favors those who are prepared. Opportunities don't depend so much on luck, all because you don't have the conditions to open them.

First of all, you have to have a clear goal, just as the new year is coming. Have you decided what you want to achieve in 218?

if you find your wish, can you list five things to do to realize it? How do you break down these five things into quarters, months and weeks?

Goals are very important, but the most important thing is persistence. How long have you persisted in achieving your goals? The road to success is not crowded, because too few people can persist. Teacher Li Xiaolai often said that the best way to persist is to give something great significance. For example, he wants to take the GRE exam and teach in New Oriental. I heard that he can earn millions of dollars a year. He calculated an account for himself, with 2, words and an annual salary of one million yuan. Then he recited one word for 5 yuan, and recited 5 words for 2,5 yuan a day. Later, he didn't even find it difficult to recite 2 words.

It's not easy to persist, but there is a methodology to persist in this matter. The following suggestions can play a role in attracting jade, hoping to inspire you.

1 Join the community that is progressing with you and grow with them.

one person walks faster, but a group of people will go further.

2 Give yourself some psychological hints

There is a "self-testifying prophecy" in psychology, that is, when one thing is guaranteed, people will unconsciously take corresponding actions according to the existing prophecy, so that the final result and situation conform to the prophecy.

The way to do this is to put a large-sized paper on the bedside: "I will be a great person". You can see it when you look up every day and read it several times when you get up. It really works. Try it if you don't believe me.

3 material incentives

Set a small goal for yourself. If it is completed, give yourself a small incentive, which can be food or goods. For example, insist on getting up early for 7 days to reward yourself with a small gift, and insist on setting up a big reward for yourself for 21 days.

4 Find a role model

Is there anyone around you or in your circle of friends who is particularly good at this? If so, follow his example and you can do as well as him or even surpass him. Then the next goal is to be a more powerful person as an example. With such a little progress, I believe that you have surpassed more than 5 people and you have become a very powerful person.

5 Make yourself an example

When you do something well, can you be an example to others? Let others supervise you, and you have become an example for others to learn. Are you still embarrassed to relax yourself?

You must persist in what is worth doing. Giving up halfway can only declare that you have given up on yourself. You can only be a mediocre person and live a mediocre life. How do you know you can if you don't work hard? If you don't insist, how can you predict yourself?

honey, others get along well, but it's none of your business. Really, what you have to do is to focus on yourself. You are a person living in the future, and you will be better and better in the future than now and in the past. Just as Ma Yun said: Believe in the power of belief.

Wang Xiaobo said, "All our pains are essentially anger at our own incompetence." Don't just focus on the success of others, just ask yourself: what is the longest thing you have been doing?