Although my colleague Lao Li's wife is nearly 5 years old, she is still very beautiful and well maintained, and looks like she is 3 years old.

However, Lao Li found that his wife had frequent contacts with other men in the past two years, often went out to eat and drink together, and repeatedly contacted by phone, so he kept a close watch.

One night, when Lao Li saw his wife chatting with another man on WeChat, he grabbed the mobile phone and pretended to be his wife to chat with each other. The other person's words are ambiguous and full of teasing. They are all sentences like "wife" and "I miss you". Lao Li pressed the video chat, and the other party accepted it. It was indeed a strange man, but the man saw that it was Lao Li and immediately hung up the video.

Now Lao Li is angry. He left home with his wife's mobile phone. In the next few days, he investigated all his wife's phone records, information records, WeChat records, room opening records and so on, but he found nothing new except frequent phone calls with men.

after the incident, Lao Li's wife felt guilty at first and called Lao Li several times, but Lao Li didn't answer. Later, she found Lao Li and begged him to go home. Lao Li said that she was sick when she saw her and refused to go home.

Because I am their friend, I started to mediate after learning about it, and Lao Li's wife told me her experience.

They have been married for 26 years. More than ten years ago, Lao Li made a windfall, and the family lived a rich life and enjoyed themselves. A few years ago, Lao Li's wife's eldest brother was sentenced for corruption and bribery (her eldest brother was originally the only pride of the whole family). From then on, Lao Li began to look down on the in-laws, and often attacked his wife with some scandals in their family. Of course, his wife was very angry, and their feelings began to alienate from then on.

Later, Lao Li saw that his wife was wrong about everything, saying that she was vain and showed off her wealth, and because her wife was beautiful, Lao Li was not at ease wherever she went. Lao Li is especially opposed to his wife's traveling and going to the gym, for fear of having an affair with other men, and cuckolded herself.

However, contrary to expectations, the more Lao Li refused to let his wife do, the wife insisted on doing it, so that this ended.

The affair of infidelity can be divided into' emotional infidelity' and' physical infidelity', the essence of which is disloyalty to marriage.

According to the development process, emotional infidelity is the preparation stage, while physical infidelity is the implementation stage, and its nature and consequences are different.

In my opinion, physical infidelity is unforgivable, and emotional infidelity should trace the source and treat it differently.

The case of Lao Li's wife is typical of emotional infidelity, but everything happens for a reason, and it is not her fault alone. Therefore, if they want to maintain a complete family and continue to live, not only Lao Li's wife needs to repent, but Lao Li should also reflect. And Lao Li's wife has been very regretful and guilty. From this point of view, Lao Li's wife should be forgiven.

in any case. It is unforgivable for a woman to cheat. You can buy a used car. But you must never buy a car. I don't know if anyone else has a key.

Generally, women don't cheat, which is basically the case with cheating women:

1. After losing confidence in their men and having no hope, they choose another one to rely on.

2. I am not willing to be dull in my married life, so I go outside to look for excitement.

3. A woman in easy virtue is a woman who shuttles among men and has a sense of existence only when she is noticed by men.

4. I'm still doing my duty, but I can't help being seduced by men, a woman who made a mistake for a while.

From the above reasons, for women, infidelity can basically form inertia, that is to say, once it happens, there will inevitably be a second time. I think forgiving a woman who cheated is not tolerance and kindness, but a kind of harm, which is harmful to herself and also to a woman who cheated.

There are two possibilities for a woman to cheat. One is a happy marriage and a stable family. Second, the family is unhappy and the marriage breaks down.

Women who are happily married and cheat usually feel guilty and feel sorry for their husbands, but they can't stand the temptation of the outside world. It can also be said that their own will is not firm, their hearts have long been derailed, and their bodies will be derailed.

But this kind of woman will be especially good to her husband and children because of her guilt after cheating, and she is especially gentle and considerate. At this time, if a smart husband can detect it, instead of revealing it, he will warm it with love, which will resolve the crisis and make women feel relieved.

Another kind of woman cheats because her family is unhappy, and she feels that her marriage is unfortunate and painful. Once someone takes advantage of it at this time, it is easy to release herself, and she begins to dislike her lover and her family, always thinking that she will get happiness if she breaks through the cage.

But she didn't know that waiting for her result might be worse. A man's subconscious woman is his private property, and once he cheats, he will generally not forgive.

So now we're talking about the topic. Can a man forgive a woman for cheating?

First of all, two people must sit down and talk it over, and have a thorough reflection and exchange. If the wife only slipped for a moment, if she admitted her mistake and promised to live a good life in the future, and her husband still loves her so much, then face is not so important, so it might as well give her a chance to forgive the wife who made the mistake.

I believe that women who return to their families will cherish their recovered marriage and family more. Therefore, I think it depends on the reasons and motives of cheating. If there is still love and care about family, then the occasional cheating can be forgiven!

who can guarantee that no one will make mistakes in this world?

vincent is a science and engineering man. He works on the Internet, writes code every day and every night, and earns a lot of money. He invests all his money in the house and is going to get married. I met his girlfriend once, the front desk of vincent company, with lively personality and love to take pictures.

at that time, they were going to get married. vincent and I have been good friends for many years, and we wanted to talk together to hear how to plan the wedding.

vincent and I haven't seen each other since, and then I went to work in Huawei and was sent overseas. Usually, we only contact each other through WeChat, and we seldom talk because of the time difference.

it wasn't until last week that vincent met and chatted with me that before he got married, he accidentally browsed his girlfriend's QQ space and realized that linda had cheated on her during a trip to Dali. There were many descriptions of this man in the space, which was not a simple one-night stand.

naturally, the marriage didn't come into being. Before he left, vincent threw me a question, can a woman love two men at the same time?

at that time, I couldn't give Vincent any answers, because I had no similar experience.

Last two months at the company's annual Christmas meeting, I also participated in one of the performances. During the rehearsal, someone patted me on the shoulder from behind.

when I turned around, it turned out to be a beautiful woman with an advertising company badge around her neck, which looked a little familiar.

Eric, it's you! The beautiful woman is greeting me.

I'm a little surprised. I don't remember the right number.

I'm Linda, oracle.

oh, oh, I was surprised that I couldn't get my mouth shut for a long time. What a coincidence.

linda told me that she is now working in a home advertising company and is responsible for program planning. Their company has taken over the business of our company's Christmas annual meeting. She is the director of this party and saw my name in the program list.

Linda told me with a smile, great genius, I have been paying attention to your articles, and I know that you work in this company, so I happened to meet you today, so I came to say hello.

oh, thank you, linda. it's getting more and more beautiful. I really didn't come out just now. What a coincidence! I only met vincent last month. I haven't seen you for several years, but we all met in this month.

I quickly stopped here, and I let it slip, with an unnatural expression on my face.

oh, really? Vincent, is he okay?

everything is fine, but I'm still very busy.

Eric, after the rehearsal, let's find a place to have a cup of coffee. It's my treat.

Because there were so many programs, it was very late at the end of the rehearsal. I wanted to make another appointment with Linda.

no, just tonight, there are some things I want to talk to you about.

We took a taxi to the bar street in the shopping park. After taking our seats, we each ordered a glass of red wine.

vincent told you a lot about me. While speaking, linda gently twirled a red wine glass, and the blurred light in the bar made her more charming.

For the first time in many years, I learned that vincent used to write poetry, so I quickly changed the subject.

linda looked me in the eye and said that he actually had many advantages. I was really going to marry him.

what Linda said next touched my heart.

linda used to work as an administrator in the company, and she had plenty of time. She loved beauty and food very much, and didn't want to lose weight by dieting, so she chose to learn Latin dance to shape her beautiful body. She wanted to be the most beautiful bride on her wedding day.

I took vincent to learn to dance, but vincent was working on a product version at that time, writing source code every day, and couldn't get away. He asked him about his wedding plans, wedding photos and where to go for his honeymoon, and he said it was up to you.

In that training class, the training teacher arranged a male partner for linda. His name is stanley.

What a coincidence! stanley used to work in the entertainment section of another Internet company, and was in charge of photography. He was passionate and had endless jokes and stories every day.

In the training class, they come to training every day. They both come the earliest and leave the latest. When the training class is over, they are the best couple.

The class is over. Do you know if there will be any chance to meet again? On the night of graduation, stanley invited linda to dinner. At the end, stanley looked at her with deep eyes and melancholy.

linda doesn't talk, but to be honest, she is still a little sad.

don't you like taking pictures? I am in charge of the entertainment section, and there will be a gathering in Dali next month. Why don't you come along?

Erhai Lake in Dali, she really wants to go. Although the rocking chair on the edge of Erhai Lake has been flooded on the Internet, linda still wants to sit in a white rocking chair under the pure blue sky and take the most beautiful picture with love.

In this way, they came to Dali. Erhai Lake was so beautiful that they forgot all the things in Shenzhen, put down the fatigue of work and seemed to be frozen.

The physical contact of the Latin dance class for several months, the fiery communication on WeChat, the beautiful scenery in front of us, and many things naturally happened during this journey.

after she came back, Linda took the initiative to end this relationship. She really wants to be vincent's bride with all her heart. Only in the dead of night, she was still remembering the rocking chair in Erhai Lake, the blue sky and the flying seagulls.

Later vincent learned about her, and the QQ space opened on the computer screen had her diary written on it. She didn't give any explanation, so they separated.

Just remembering the question vincent asked me before, I said, I take the liberty to ask, can a woman fall in love with two men at the same time?

linda shook her head and said, I think a woman may be with two men at the same time, but their positions will be different. A woman's heart is very small, and the weakest place can accommodate a man.

vincent and your partner are two men you loved at the same time. Who would you like to leave the place you mentioned?

actually, you know what? I haven't talked to stanley since vincent and I broke up, and he's not the right person for me.

When I left the bar, Shenzhen was lonely and deserted in the early morning.

I think I can send vincent a WeChat. I already know the answer he wants.

Should women be forgiven for cheating?

should my daughter-in-law be forgiven for cheating after marriage? Only you have the final say, others just suggest, and make up your mind whether to adopt it or not.

A very good friend of mine also asked me this question, and he told me the original story! Because I am suspected of invading the privacy of my friends, I will talk briefly. My friend, like me, is a farmer. With a few acres of land to support my family, life is also relatively tight! A few years ago, it was popular to go abroad to work to earn money. My friends went to Africa to work for two or three years through intermediary companies, and the days suddenly flourished, which made their peers envious. But not long after I came back, suddenly one day another friend of mine talked about him calling his wife back to her mother's house and leaving for a while. I was a little puzzled. I immediately called him and called him over. When I met him, I began to drink. After drinking for a while, my friend became incoherent. Then I burst into tears. I took the opportunity to scold him. I just abandoned my good wife at home and beat her ... After half a sentence, he interrupted me to mention these words. He was as drunk as a fiddler that day and didn't go back to live in my house that night.

The next day, he woke up and started talking about the cause and effect of fighting with his wife intermittently. I see, after my friend went abroad to work, a year later, my wife knew a net friend, and they didn't have a relationship for long, and they kept going back and forth until their friend came home. When my friend found out, he hit his wife after drinking, and she apologized to him, and promised never to see him again. My friend couldn't face this angry thing, and then his wife was driven away by her friend. Friends now feel particularly regretful and want to forgive each other, but they really can't swallow this tone. Don't forgive each other. After all, the child is a teenager. Sighed for a long time … finally asked me what to do, should I forgive each other? Then I talked with him all morning. Not long after, my friend took my wife home, and her wife completely broke off the relationship with each other. Then my friend and wife lived happily and harmoniously.

That's what my friend and I said the other day. Since we still like each other, try to save it! To err is human! Daughter-in-law's cheating may also be a moment of confusion, and I believe she doesn't want to leave this house either. If I forgive her, I will never mention the affair of my wife's infidelity again. Turn the page! Don't even talk about your wife's unruly side or even beat her after drinking. A man should be able to take it up and put it down. If you really don't want to forgive each other, just make up your mind and get a divorce. Personally, no matter who cheats, it will hurt each other irretrievably. Life is too short, and you should cherish it. Don't regret it too late when you get married ... < P > Many women can't stand the temptation, or have a moment's mystery, or are curious to cheat inadvertently. This is an unintentional person. Others are really lonely, empty and cold, suppressing guilt and cheating. Others are pretentious and take infidelity for granted.

It's another matter to say whether to forgive. The spiritual world of human beings is an abstract world, which can't be seen or touched, and the thoughts and behaviors are ever-changing with the visual sense, touch and hearing. Once a woman cheats, her spirit will be changed.