Chae Rim, a Korean actress, became popular in China because of her roles in the TV series Love in the Aegean Sea and Tiger Generals. Jiame, a male star in China, became popular for her role as Xiao Jian in the TV series Princess Pearl.

They met and fell in love while filming the TV series Li Family Courtyard. Later, they quickly entered the marriage hall, officially became husband and wife, and gave birth to a son after marriage.

However, some time ago, Chae Rim Jiame, a "cross-border lover of star couple" who rarely appeared after their marriage, announced a divorce, thus boarding a hot search:

You should know how loving and high-profile they were when they got married, and now it's only six years before they become strangers.

In this regard, many people feel booed about their marriage and sigh that they have not survived the seven-year itch after all.

As for the real reason for their divorce, it has not been made public, but from the perspective of marriage, there seems to be a big problem in their marriage mode.

1

I know too little and get married too soon

Although Chae Rim Jiame was very loving and sweet at first, in fact, they didn't really get along for a long time, and the distance was a little far, so they didn't know each other as well as they thought.

Before falling in love with Jiame, Cai Lin had a failed marriage, from which she drew the four-no principle of marrying in the future:

1. You can't be an actor at work; 2. Not younger than her in age; 3. You cannot be a foreigner in nationality; 4. the blood type cannot be type B.

But after falling in love with Jiame, Chae Rim put all these four principles behind him and continued to follow his own love feelings.

Maybe at that time, they thought that marriage should be as sweet and interesting as love, so they chose to get married without knowing each other well.

In a program, the host Lu Yu once asked why Chae Rim agreed to Jiame's proposal.

In addition to being moved by his romance and carefulness, Chae Rim once said: We are both old.

So to some extent, it can be seen that they got married a little too hastily at that time, which laid a certain foreshadowing for the future marriage outcome.

So, how should we get to know a person deeply in sexual intercourse?

Looking at the other person's family of origin and friends around him, family of origin's influence on a person is often enormous, from which it is easier to see what advantages and disadvantages the other person's personality will have;

Looking at each other's friends can prove the real side of each other, what kind of outlook and behavior habits they have, and so on.

At the same time, we can appropriately increase the chances of realistic dating with each other, observe each other more in the process of getting along, and further judge each other's personality characteristics.

In fact, the purpose of dating is not only to let you eat, drink and kiss me, but also to hope that you can get along with each other more and find the right mode of getting along with each other.

If the two sides don't know each other well enough, it's best not to get married in a hurry first. You should know that marriage is essentially different from love and you need to face more "daily necessities".

2

Lack of language and timely communication

In fact, one of the main reasons why the marriage in Jiame, Chae Rim is going to collapse is that there are certain communication barriers between the two parties. It is said that the two people still rely on translation software to communicate after marriage.

Maybe they rely on translators for daily communication out of habit (the same is true of falling in love), but after a long time, they will feel a little awkward, and it is easier for them to communicate poorly, thus causing many unnecessary misunderstandings.

Regarding married life, Jiame once said that Chae Rim couldn't understand what his family was saying at all, and he always had to look at the tone and expression of others to judge whether they were happy or not.

In a program, the host Li Jing once asked them how they would communicate in their daily lives. Chae Rim said with a smile:

I don't know much Chinese, so I decided to have a baby early and then let him be an interpreter.

Of course, they must have made efforts to solve the problem of language barrier. However, after marriage, they have to face a lot of family chores, so they can't communicate in time, and then their feelings gradually fade away, and they are not willing to make changes.

A marriage that communicates through translation software may be interesting and loving at first, but if each other is unwilling to make some changes, it will gradually become tasteless under the dilution of time.

So, how should couples solve the problem of untimely communication?

The most important thing is that we should know how to keep such an attitude: Speak frankly, and don't rely on guessing.

Yes, one of the most taboo points in marriage is that one person says nothing and always lets another person guess, not a worm in his stomach. Who knows what's on your mind?

At the same time, when there is a problem with each other's communication methods, we should find a suitable time to sit down and review why this happens, so as to adjust to the right channel.

instead of keeping your words to yourself and dealing with the people you love in an untreated way, it will only make the problem continue to affect each other's feelings, which is useless.

3

Unwilling to accommodate, no empathy

In a marriage, if both men and women are not willing to accommodate each other and properly empathize, then sooner or later, such a marriage will have problems.

Chae Rim and Jiame are just like this. Although they are husband and wife, they are reluctant to make concessions in many aspects, such as language and career, and neither of them can convince the other.

After six years of marriage, one person has made little progress in Chinese, and the other person has made little progress in Korean, and there are still great differences in career.

Especially in Chae Rim after giving birth, the language communication is not smooth and there are differences between Chinese and Korean cultures. In addition, because of the nature of her work, Jiame can't be with her often, and she suffers from postpartum depression.

In this regard, Chae Rim hoped that Jiame would accompany her back to South Korea for development. However, Jiame also had his own concerns, thinking that the Korean entertainment circle was not suitable for him (language barrier), and he didn't want to endure the pain of being in a foreign country at all, so he refused Chae Rim's request.

In the end, Chae Rim had to choose to bring his son back to Korea to live alone. Since then, their marital status has become more and more distant. One is concerned with his son and the other is concerned with his career. It seems that there is not much overlap.

In a marriage, both men and women often need to face more daily necessities, but they also need to accompany each other.