When Xiaohua was visiting her cousin's house, her 6-year-old nephew was doing his Chinese homework. One of the fill-in-the-blank questions was "I want to be a scientist when I grow up." The nephew wrote "scientist" without hesitation.

Xiao Hua clearly remembers what he told me last time that he would become a chef when he grows up and cook all kinds of delicacies, because his nephew is a little guy who loves to eat.

Therefore, when he saw him writing in his homework book that his future ideal is to be a scientist, Xiaohua couldn't help but ask him why he changed his ideal. After all, he was a little worried that he would develop a fickle bad habit.

Unexpectedly, the little guy said aggrievedly: "Yesterday I told my mother that I would become a chef when I grow up, but my mother told me that ideals should not be so ordinary. She hopes that I will become a scientist in the future." Listen.

Upon hearing his answer, Xiaohua suddenly felt that the answer was very familiar. After thinking about it, wasn't this the idea that his parents instilled in Xiaohua when he was a child?

Can this educational concept be passed down from generation to generation?

It seems that this is indeed a common phenomenon in China.

Many parents have high expectations for their children to become great and successful, and are unwilling to accept that their children will be just "mediocre" people in the future.

Deeply influenced by traditional culture, children are the face of their parents. In traditional Chinese culture, a shining lintel is the parents' expectation for their children, and the children's achievements become the face of the entire family.

Only when their children are considered promising and powerful by outsiders will their parents feel that their children are successful and they will be proud of themselves.

Parents who are mediocre themselves cannot accept that their children are also mediocre. Parents who cannot accept that their children are mediocre actually boil down to the fact that they cannot accept that they themselves are mediocre people.

Treat your children as your own expectations, a continuation of your life, and look forward to your children's success to make up for your regrets and fulfill your unfulfilled dreams.

Another possibility is that you are fed up with your current mediocre life, and you are afraid that your children will live an ordinary and mediocre life like you in the future. You hope that your children can move to a higher level and live a different life.

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Subjective conclusions about mediocrity and success are biased in cognition. Many parents believe that if their children become mediocre people and live an ordinary life, they will be failures and mediocre.

This kind of subjective and arbitrary conclusion is actually the biggest misunderstanding of mediocrity.

So, since most people are mediocre, are they losers?

Of course not. Being able to manage your own life well and realize your own value is actually a kind of success.

After all, being an ordinary person requires a much wider range of efforts and skills.

The so-called "mediocrity" is just a comparison with others. Success is to follow your own inner comfort and live in your own way.

Be true to yourself "There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people." Everyone's suitable and preferred lifestyle is different. There is no so-called best lifestyle, and there is no absolute right or wrong limit.

What you truly yearn for in your heart is the best.

You don’t have to deliberately try to please others, and you don’t have to pretend to look like others.

The most important thing is to recognize yourself and face yourself.

Don’t lower your posture. Therefore, only by knowing how to treat yourself well and please yourself can you gain the respect of others.

Forcing yourself to lower your profile to please others often results in nothing.

When people are alive, they cannot just make do with it.

As time goes by, the more you live, the more tired you will be, and your life will become more and more boring.

You can live a mediocre life, but you must never settle for it.

Only by not giving in can you have a good life.

Clarify the direction of life. People must determine how they want to live their lives, such as setting a goal for themselves. After all, without a goal, life will lose hope.

Although successful celebrities have different backgrounds and experiences, they all have one thing in common: they all have their own dreams and know exactly how they want to live their lives.

People who dare to face their dreams and realize their dreams will not let themselves be confused and directionless.