Recently, many people have read my book "Eating, drinking and having fun" and started to plan to go abroad. Those who want to emigrate, live in a different way, emigrate and let their children receive a good education have all kinds of ideas. Going abroad is a piece of cake for China people now. There is no need for envy and jealousy. No matter what kind of consideration you have, my suggestion is straightforward and simple. If you think about it, do it. If you regret it, turn back. Don't put all your bets on it. You still have room for manoeuvre.

is it a paradise to live abroad? The answer is no, you must endure loneliness, loneliness! Especially the helplessness after encountering difficulties, the generation gap caused by the inability to communicate, and the reintegration of living habits. All this seems to be no problem for children, but it is a disaster for adults who can already think. Don't trust the circle of friends exposed by your friends abroad every day, don't trust those who come back from abroad and those heavenly dreams you say. Everything is different from person to person. I believe that people who go abroad, except those local tyrants, will have a little regret when they go. What is the mentality of those friends who send friends to live abroad every day? Generally speaking, people who eat lobster every day don't bother to take pictures. People who eat lobster once in a while take pictures and upload them, perhaps to keep a souvenir for themselves, perhaps for fear that others won't know that he ate lobster. I'm just saying, for example, don't sit in the right place. It probably means that no one will commemorate the things that are repeated every day, and no one will show them off, okay? As for those who boast that life abroad is a paradise after returning to China, it may be his dream. He will never tell you his sufferings. What he wants to show you is always the best side. I also understand that a positive person will not tell you his bad experiences.

I use my story to tell you, whether good or bad, I admit that I backed out, and I also admit that I was helpless. I believe many people have it, but I just dare not admit it. The hardest day is the first two years. Even if you have some Chinese friends, it is difficult for you to integrate into the local life. Different living habits will cause a lot of bad feelings. Because my wife persisted, I persisted. I was so relieved to see the children easily integrated into other people's lives. One year, when we moved home, it was too late for our children to transfer to another school. My wife took two trips to pick up and drop off the children every day, and the two trips took more than 2 kilometers. She persisted for three months and got up at 5: every day to see them off. In order to receive the children at 1:3 pm, she had to go out to pick them up at 12 noon. To tell the truth, I have made small achievements in China. Before I was 3 years old, my company was able to provide me with food and clothing, and my wife's income in a state-owned investment company was also considerable. After giving up my life in China, I also gave up the company that I could bring me millions of income every year. At that time, I felt that it was worthwhile for my children without thinking much. We have already filled out the application form for emigrating to Canada, and even paid the agency fee for emigrating. In 211, I went to Bali and stopped in Kuala Lumpur, which made me see this city. I fell in love with it. It only took me three and a half hours to leave my city in China. The streets were full of languages I could understand, first-class international schools and first-class medical facilities. My wife and I didn't even hesitate to come to this city the next month. At the beginning, I was excited, took my children all over Malaysia, went up and down the mountain without pleasure, and drove a used car all over the corners of West Malaysia. The good times didn't last long. My child was going to school at the age of five and a half, leaving my wife and me at home. There was nothing to do every day, although there was no need to eat and wear, contradictions would follow. I am eager to chat with the locals and start a second business with them, but where is it so easy? Generally speaking, living habits are different, educational concepts are different, and values are different. How difficult it is to integrate into others. For example, in China, there is a word "Lang Lang reading sound", and the teacher will tell you to speak loudly. In foreign countries, there is no Lang Lang reading sound, and it is impolite to speak loudly in public.

If you want to integrate, you must have something to do. If you don't do something, you will always be lonely. I even want to drive a taxi in the past. You know, I have a driver to help me drive in China. At that time, I liked to put on airs. Everyone knows that some faces still need to be done in China. Doing nothing every day should be a normal thing for many people who have just arrived abroad. The only comfort is that the English level of children is far higher than mine after three months, and they need a small translator to accompany them when they go out. Until now, I have explained all the bills and documents I don't understand to my children. Now the English level of children is flying sand and stones, and the Chinese level is not flattering. I began to study Malaysian history and humanities. I spent every day in bookstores and university libraries, learning Malaysian history and humanities with an English-Chinese dictionary. I am eager to know them and blend with them. I firmly believe I can! In this way, the hardest time of the first year has passed. Like those people I just mentioned, I never say how I am abroad when I return home. I will tell them that the air there is good and people are friendly, that children receive the best education in international schools, how cheap it is for me to go to the hospital to see a doctor, and so on. Only my wife and I know the pain in my heart.

In the second year, by chance, I met a Malaysian Chinese. Through him, I started to have close contact with the local people and planned my own company. I wanted to move my old business in China to Malaysia to run it. Through running this company, I met more and more people, and finally I was cheated in this venture. Up to now, I have doubts about cooperating with Chinese people. Chinese friends don't mind. This is an example. It is everywhere. There are two kinds of Chinese. Those who work hard, are enthusiastic and help others, and have high social and economic status are indeed much better than us, but there is a small wave of people who talk about everything and really want to earn the interests of foreigners. Off-topic, off-topic, through my first venture abroad, I think it is necessary for me to know a lot about policies and laws. Once again, I began to study all kinds of their laws, labor employment, business rules, contract laws, company laws and financial systems. I even know their regulations better than many of their locals. With this support, I decided to find something to do. My wife suggested that we find a chef from China to open a restaurant. Anyway, we all love to eat, so we might as well open a restaurant. I rejected this proposal. I won't get up at 5 am to buy food and call it a day at 1 pm, so I might as well go back. My wife and I decided to do things separately. She did her thing, I did mine, and we didn't interfere with each other, because the people closest to you are often the ones who are most prone to losing your temper. One of my wife's friends came to Kuala Lumpur to open a restaurant. My wife wanted to partner with her, saying that she would try out the popularity of the food first, and sell takeout in China. I was really distressed to see her deliver takeout, but I estimated that she was going crazy because she had nothing to do. She went home to show me that they had earned another 3 yuan and another 4 yuan every day. I really couldn't stand this kind of life and forced her to stop this unnecessary thing, so I had a quarrel.

We love to play. We have been to almost all places in Malaysia. Now many local friends come to ask me where they want to play. Even I know better than them where the night market is. My wife finally set up a travel company to travel. Because our circle of friends in China is not bad, those friends will lead many people to come back after one visit, so there is no publicity and no advertisement. My wife's travel company is actually doing well. And what about me? After I got to know some developers, I began to do some supporting works in real estate projects, which is also my old job in China, such as monitoring, access control, etc. However, all this is thanks to my daughter and brought by the parents' friendship in her school. The family began to get busy, and there is no need to stare at each other face to face. The family is becoming more and more harmonious and the circle is getting bigger and bigger. People are actually animals living in circles. With circles, everything comes. I often say that people don't look at themselves, but look at the people around them. That's what I mean.

The tourism has done well, and it has also given birth to the wife to do purchasing, because many people say that they have not bought enough when they travel to Malaysia, so they have to entrust their wives to help them buy them when they return home! I couldn't care less about her, and my own affairs were in a mess. Until one day, I found that the Malaysian currency in my Malaysian currency account was gone, and the RMB in China's account was increased. Only then did I know that my wife bought hundreds of thousands of goods a month and sent them to China. She was definitely a super VIP when she went to the counters of various shopping malls. When I settled accounts, my mother scared me to death. She earned much more than me. Men are so humiliated. I'm planning a bigger deal again. I want to get back a game. I won't say what I do. Anyway, I'm in charge at home now, you know. Many friends in China want to come now when they see us. At first, I was very enthusiastic to help them come, but I am not a Buddha. I can't help all beings. I still rely on myself. I have no obligation or responsibility to take care of all your things. Many people have come and gone, and they have come and gone. What really persists is not bad now. China people are hardworking and willing to do it! It's really not difficult to live.

well, I have finished a simple story, and many twists and turns in it can't be explained clearly in one sentence or two, and many things are not as easy as the story. What conditions do you need to live abroad? In fact, there are only two conditions, and one is enough. One is money, the other is persistence.

money? Those friends who can't spend all their money can eat, drink and have fun every day. They can use money to settle all the troubles and contradictions in life, and they can exchange money for many happy things. I don't have endless money. They don't need to worry about the cost of their children's college education. They don't need to be afraid of watching the number in their accounts decrease. They can also get many people to follow them through money. I don't have it, do you?

insist? Persistence is not enough. You still need to study, learn the language, learn the rules, and learn how to be a local. It will be very bitter and tiring! As a foreigner, you must work harder and know more than the locals. Again, if you are half dead at home, then I tell you, maybe you still have a chance to stay at home, and you will get worse abroad. A good development opportunity in China won't do, and it is estimated that you will be even worse in a strange place.

I suggest friends who live abroad, besides the above two options, if you have certain professional knowledge, if you are a good learner, if you are willing to bend down and do everything, maybe you have a chance! But if you have these things, I believe you won't be bad at home. If you want to say where there are the most opportunities, it is our China. Don't think that foreign countries are paradise and gold everywhere. That's a fairy tale. The most difficult thing in the world is to ask others to take money out of their bags and give it to you. This is even more difficult in foreign countries. Don't look up to yourself, you are nothing in a new place, let alone how awesome you used to be, it's useless! With the right attitude, time will prove that your efforts will not be in vain.

I know a Malaysian in China, who earns a lot of money doing software in China every year. When I came to Kuala Lumpur for my children, I panicked and opened an airport transfer hotel. Every night, I started to pick up guests at the airport, until after 3 o'clock in the evening, and I started to send guests to the airport at 6 o'clock in the morning. Every day! Another branch opened this year. There is also a domestic trader, who bought an MPV with my wife's travel company and a travel company run by Taiwan Province people to charter a car. He drives a car to chat with China guests every day, to be a tour guide and to smile apologetically! My wife's travel company stipulates that drivers are not allowed to have meals with guests, and people eat big meals. He eats fried rice and Fujian noodles at the door. Now people have bought eight cars and recruited a group of Chinese drivers to drive, and they insist on it every day. Do you want to say that they are short of money? They don't lack, maybe much more than you and me. Why? People can't be idle. You all insist on it for the sake of children. I believe that the most precious thing for people is experience, not money. When you are old, you can recall a lot of things instead of every day at 3: 1. All the memories are exactly the same. People will live for decades and never know how strong they are without trying.

what attracts me in Malaysia?

this question looks simple, but it's complicated! First of all, the cost is low, and the cost of coming here is low. Compared with Singapore, Australia and many other places, the cost of coming here is much lower. As a country in Southeast Asia next to Singapore, Malaysia can't be said to be better than China, but it will not be worse than China.

Secondly, the language environment here is diverse, such as Chinese, Cantonese, Fujian dialect, Minnan dialect, Malay, Tamil, and naturally English. I admire those locals who can speak many languages. No wonder the United Nations has named Malaysia a small United Nations. Malaysians also have a nickname called simultaneous translator. Learning a language here is paradise for children. If your children still use the word paradise every day, of course, By the way, in Kuala Lumpur, it's just that Kuala Lumpur can speak Cantonese better than English.

Furthermore, the international education here follows the British education model, and the dual courses unique to Malay make it easier for children to go to developed countries in Europe and America as a springboard. When will I write an educational talk? I have been studying it for a long time.

The whole social form in Malaysia is relatively harmonious. Although Chinese people complain a lot, they even complain that 2.1 ringgit a liter of gasoline is expensive and unfair. However, everyone's mentality is relatively peaceful, and there are very few things about quick success and instant benefit. Many people think that Malaysia's public security is poor when they see a speeding car robbing in the news. You can imagine how many such public security incidents happen every day in a city like Kuala Lumpur. Don't believe in the news, believe in yourself and believe what you see.

what's wrong with Malaysia?

There are too many disadvantages. If the economic model is concerned, it is now behind our country. Many business models are still at the level of our country more than 1 years ago, such as catering industry, such as Internet industry, advertising industry, such as manufacturing industry and so on. Corruption in Malaysia is more serious than in our country. The police can collect money on the street, and it takes KOPI MONEY (tea money) to do many things, which is a bit like our 9 s. You can understand it when you think back to our 9 s. Malaysia has too many protection policies for Malays, which restricts the development of many Chinese and foreigners. For example, some universities only recruit Malays.

There are too many. Let's look at others with one eye. As for the good things, you don't need to know about some of them. Just avoid it carefully.

finally, I'll tell you, I'll go back again, when the children go to college! Malaysia may really become my second home. I will come here to avoid the cold in winter and return to my hometown in summer. My stomach is my most loyal friend. There will always be endless food, endless friends and endless wine in my hometown, but all this is still 16 years away, because my son was born in Malaysia!