Fan message——

Brother Xu, I have been very irritable recently and don’t know how to deal with this relationship.

She and I are colleagues, and we occasionally chat in private, but they are all about daily life.

A company party was playing a game, and two of us were drawn, and the atmosphere became very ambiguous.

From then on, we would make some jokes, and she would also bring me breakfast and make delicious food for me.

I thought she was also interested in me, so I invited her to my birthday.

But she refused, and in the end she didn’t even give her a blessing.

I don’t know what I did wrong to make her unhappy. I hope the teacher can help me!

From your description, it is very likely that girls also like you, but why are they suddenly cold towards you?

It is simply due to the following reasons - the delay in confessing makes girls feel insecure.

Although you often chat and joke, you have never expressed your feelings to girls.

Even girls took the initiative to bring you breakfast, but you didn't show any sign.

The girl will think that you don’t like her, and she will naturally stay away from you.

You know, girls are generally very passive when it comes to relationships.

Now that she has taken the initiative, if you are also interested in her, quickly take advantage of the situation to improve the relationship.

Of course, some brothers may say——

Teacher, didn’t you say you shouldn’t confess your feelings too early? What if I make a mistake?

I understand you have this idea, but according to fans’ descriptions, girls like him.

Because girls never express their love verbally, but only through actions.

For example, buy him breakfast, bring delicious food, etc.

Of course, if you are currently in a similar situation and don’t understand what a girl is thinking.

Why not chat with me privately, and the teacher will help you analyze it.

Don’t let the girl you like wait too long, otherwise her good impression of you will only be slowly consumed. You did something to disappoint her

Girls must fall in love to make themselves happy, not to cause trouble.

So, when a girl suddenly becomes cold towards you, it means that you may have done something to disappoint her.

For example, a girl hates boys smoking in front of her.

Maybe you behaved well in order to please the girl before, but recently you have frequently smoked in front of her.

The girl will understand that you no longer care about her, and will be very disappointed in you.

Or the girl discovers a certain shortcoming in you that she can't stand, and even the smallest movements make her feel bored.

You know, this is how your favorability is slowly consumed! See your own feelings clearly

When girls like someone, many times they are actually imagining it, and they have no idea what you are like in life.

For example -

If you post fitness photos, girls will think you are very strict with yourself;

If you often post delicious food, girls will think you enjoy life;

If you post a book, girls will think you are very knowledgeable and so on.

That’s how it is when you like someone. You want to put all the details into the utmost and imagine the other person as extremely beautiful.

But after getting to know you gradually, I found that the fitness photos you posted were really just "postings".

I also found pictures of delicious food on the Internet, and I haven’t read the book since I bought it for a long time...

It turns out that she likes you who is tasteful, self-disciplined and studious, but it was all an illusion.

After the girl realizes this, she will naturally ignore you. You have a new crush

When girls get along with you, they find that you are a little bit different from other boys.

Chatting is also fun, so I will keep chatting with you.

But then the girl finds someone more interesting than you, so naturally she has no interest in you.

So how to resolve this situation?

My advice to everyone is -

Since you like a girl, tell her boldly.

No matter what the outcome is, you will only know after telling it.

There is no result like this. If one day a girl's heart belongs to you, it will be too late for you to cry.

So, remember -

It is easy to have a good impression of each other, but it takes time to get to know each other and to stay together.

If you take up too much time for early understanding, it will leave hidden dangers in your relationship.

It is better to cut through the mess quickly and resolve it as soon as possible.

But the premise is that you have determined that the girl also likes you, otherwise you know the consequences of blind confession.

Of course, if you still don’t know what a girl thinks of you, why not message me privately and we will help you figure it out one by one!