Some people say that the fastest way to understand a person is to visit his friends.

I very much agree with the writer Han Han's words: "How far a person can go depends on who he has with him; how good a person is depends on who guides him; how successful a person is depends on who he accompanies."

Never underestimate the power of subtle influence and subtle influence. People are slowly shaped by this power.

Who you hang out with really matters.

01 Learn from experts how to view the world. Everyone has a different perspective when looking at the world and all things.

Some people look straight, but their vision is easily blocked by the entanglements and worries in front of them.

Some people look up, but stand in their own happiness and struggle to find happiness.

The reason why an expert can "not be afraid of the floating clouds that obscure his vision" is "only because he is at the highest level."

They are knowledgeable, see all directions, and listen to all directions. They are good at looking at things from different angles. They naturally have a broad vision, a bright vision, and can see far and think deeply.

Associating more with experts is to see a broader and more transparent world through their eyes, to get their guidance, and to learn their long-term thinking in a subtle way.

Lu Meng, a famous general in the late Eastern Han Dynasty, realized that he needed to study more when he was in power and in charge of political affairs, thanks to Sun Quan's encouragement to study.

So after working hard, his talents and strategies were qualitatively improved, which not only impressed Lu Su, but also laid an indispensable foundation for his subsequent military exploits.

"Zengguang Xianwen" says, "Listening to your words is worth ten years of reading."

Sometimes, one or two words from an expert can clear up a person's troubled and entangled thoughts, making people suddenly realize, and the road ahead gradually becomes clear in the fog.

How important is it to take the long view?

There was once a young man who asked a master, "What is the truth of life?" The master took a stone and asked him to go to the vegetable market to see what price he could buy it for, and the highest bid he got was twenty yuan.

The master asked him to take it to the jade market again, and this time he received a bid of up to 500,000 yuan.

The master asked him to take it to the diamond market again, and someone actually offered it 50 million yuan.

The young man was still puzzled. The master explained: "This is a diamond, but only eyes that can understand diamonds can see its value. The truth of life seen with different eyes is different. What do you want?

In life, you must first train what kind of eyes you have.” As the poet Rabindranath Tagore lamented: “We have seen the world wrong, but we say that the world has deceived us.” Wherever you look, you can see the height of a person’s life.

Communicate more with experts and learn to look at things with a broader perspective. Only then will you be more insightful, better able to clarify your goals, and better able to see your own shortcomings, correct for your shortcomings, and gain momentum for the future.

02 Learn how to deal with things from capable people. A capable person refers to an elite with a certain skill.

Tang Hanyu once said, "Skills have specializations." If you have the opportunity to compete with a master in your favorite field, will you seize this rare opportunity?

Some people will say: "How can it be possible? Isn't this just trying to do something in the same class?" This reminds me of the consistent assertion of the world-famous mathematician Hua Luogeng: "If you use an ax, you must be in the class." Why?

It turns out that for those who don’t know how to do it, showing off their skills is not good for others or themselves.

But if you can get guidance from industry masters, you can make progress faster. If you are lucky enough to be recognized, you can increase your confidence in climbing to the top.

Why not do it?

A capable person also refers to a person who can get things done well.

A person who can handle matters large and small properly must be a reliable person who is talented, responsible, and has high emotional intelligence.