That's what I do. I rarely treat guests and go to dinner parties. I don't want to attend banquets that deal with errands.

even for official banquets, you can hide when you can.

because I am not good at words, I don't like hypocritical interpersonal communication.

A masked society is really annoying and tiring. Avoid hypocrisy and try to stay away from it.

I like to pour and drink by myself, and drink as much as I want.

I have several friends who are like this. One friend named Cao is typical, who doesn't invite guests or attend any dinner. Others will go if they are kind. The friend surnamed Cao is like this. When I first met him, I felt that this person was almost the legendary miser.

However, in addition to drinking tea, practicing calligraphy and collecting, people usually like fishing and public welfare, and often participate in some public welfare activities. The circle of friends on WeChat is almost blank. Even if they drive to travel by car, they don't send a circle of friends, but they will post some on social networks and share them with the network.

There is not much to talk about in the circle of friends, either the grass in the garden or the small fish and shrimp raised. After the daughter got married, it is rare to send a few happy photos.

This friend surnamed Cao used to work in a bank. He left the bank before he was 5 years old, and has never worked since. He bought a house in Daning Greenland, the magic capital, more than ten years ago. He is very low-key, and it is certain that his friend surnamed Cao is absolutely financially free.

In addition to drinking tea and practicing calligraphy, he usually raises flowers and plants in the small yard. Because his family lives on the first floor, there is a small flower garden. A friend surnamed Cao basically refuses any dinner, but when he goes to his house, he will cook for himself, and his cooking is quite good. Grass-headed circles are such a great way to cook Shanghai-style local dishes

When friends surnamed Cao chat, they don't talk much. When they say it, they never talk nonsense. On the contrary, they are insightful about various topics. Even three or two sentences get to the heart of the problem! He has a deep insight into food and local food culture, which is also related to his years of driving and traveling.

This friend named Cao seems to be a person who is hidden in the city. His words are slow, even quoting classics, and he is also very humorous. Although he is like a hermit, he also has a profound view on current events and is highly educated, not the kind of angry and extreme street knowledge.

a friend surnamed Cao said that he never went to work again after leaving the bank that year. It is said that he made a lot of money from stock trading in that year, and he was also a shareholder of several restaurants. In addition, there were other investments. In short, he was very good at investing.

In fact, I haven't known friends named Cao for many years, but friends named Cao almost refuse any dinner and won't treat them. Perhaps, as people often say, they basically don't have much overlap with us low-level people. Ha ha.

But strangely enough, people who know him well say that apart from the necessary wedding banquets, people basically don't attend any dinner, and they don't invite guests. When they visit his home, people will cook in person and entertain them with good wine and cigarettes.

Lao Wang sometimes thinks that this old Cao is also a strange man, as if he lives in his own world, but he is not completely immersed in his own world. At least people will do public welfare, have friends to run, and have hobbies such as fishing and collecting.

Maybe, as everyone said, friends surnamed Cao may be the model who refuse to socialize effectively. They have their own way of life, and Dont Ask For Help is not annoying. They are at home, and they don't stay at home deeply. At least, people travel by car several times a year.

As for the psychology of some friends who don't invite guests or go to dinner, I think one kind is really petty, simply speaking, it's not generous, and it's not the kind of person who helps three men, but friends named Cao belong to another kind. People have a certain capital and ideological level, and they are not short of money, so they can choose their favorite lifestyle well.

There are few people who don't treat or go to dinner all the year round, but there are also a small number. If you want to talk about their psychology, I personally feel that apart from being stingy, there are some cleanliness problems!

Tell everyone about a friend around me. She is in her fifties and never eats out. She doesn't go when others treat her to dinner, and she never invites others.

When visiting relatives on holidays, she just sits at other people's houses and leaves, and so do relatives and friends. Some relatives want to eat at her house, and she will directly refuse. When someone comes to the place where her family has sat, she will continue to wipe it, and the used things will be thrown away. She said that she is a neat freak, and she feels that there are too many bacteria in things touched by others.

She always brings her own food to work and never goes to the canteen to eat. Later, her son married a daughter-in-law, and she never lived with her son and daughter-in-law, let alone ate together. Everyone felt that she was an eccentric and unsociable person.

A boy I know is in his thirties, and he never invites people to dinner or goes to dinner. It's not that he is obsessed with cleanliness, because he is thrifty at ordinary times, dislikes crowded occasions and likes to be alone. I go home after work every day, I don't have dinner with my colleagues, I don't go out to travel, I don't look for anyone, I hardly buy new clothes all year round, and I have more than 6 thousand deposits. I still feel that I am very poor, so I can't bear to spend money.

In fact, such people are generally introverted, dislike crowded places, like to be alone, and are stingy. They feel that they will have to change what they eat, so they don't invite guests or go to dinner.

there are such people. A friend of mine is Zheng, an office worker. Every day is three o'clock in the family vegetable market of the unit, and everyone knows his temper. When something happens, just give him a call or the unit will ask him to have some tea to talk about things, and he will also call us when something happens. According to his meaning, feelings don't come from drinking parties. If something happens, just say who has the ability to help directly and don't have to play empty. So when we get together and drink, no one will call him again, but when something happens, we should bother and help. To tell the truth, it took him a long time to realize some truth. Now it is nothing more than the world to treat people to dinner. It is true that the small circle can really help you when you have something to do. On the contrary, this small circle need not be so polite.

I'm a person who doesn't take the initiative to invite guests and go to dinner all the year round. Let me analyze my psychology for you.

I'm a lesbian and outgoing, but I don't like to attend all kinds of dinners, especially after having children. I will spend a lot of time with my children. I think the growth of children is more important than these meals.

I'm not a leader or a boss. I don't need to attend all kinds of dinners because of various business needs. Usually, I seldom attend party-style dinners. It's mostly pointless socializing.

in life, after getting help from others, the first thing I think of is to prepare a small gift for each other, instead of inviting them to dinner. I like food, but I don't like socializing with it.

I don't even like to attend dinners with so-called leaders and bosses. I'm a straightforward person. I don't like beating around the bush, and I can't read other people's subtext. When I reach middle age, I have no more desires and pursuits in life. Compared with banquets, I prefer simple meals at home.

if you don't invite guests to dinner, it may seem unsociable to others, but in my opinion, it is true temperament, less catering and more comfortable.

I'm @ Jade in Nanjing. Do you like this personality?

I am. What's the matter?

what do you think?

I don't like that atmosphere. I'm full of friends and insincere feelings.

I like real food stalls and practice stalls, just casually. No treat, no entertainment! -I count one! It's not that there is any psychological trouble, but it's always because of personality, and I don't like noisy! Moreover, people will be more comfortable in situations where there is no interest!

entertaining guests is business in business! Most people indulge in it, and I don't think many people really enjoy it!

speaking of my personal words, I feel that I don't have many friends around me. I have experienced many people and met many people over the years, but after the precipitation, the hardcore who has been sticking to me is single digits!

We also get rid of things like the Spring Festival or something special, such as who is married, and only eat and drink when we get together!

That state doesn't mean deliberately eating and drinking, but there is a feeling that being apart is better than being newly married. In this state, it is very meaningful to have a meal together! People are social animals, and they have to host or participate in some occasions in their lives. For example, there are many weddings and funerals, so they have to be the host and the guests!

In our general newborn, many people pay attention to having three birthdays, and every birthday for the first three years after birth is a serious affair!

after my son was born, the first one passed by in earnest, and a lot of relatives and friends got together!

in the second year, I just didn't want to make decisions for him, so I quit!

There are two reasons. First, many people are very resistant to the debt of gratitude now, and they are very reluctant to spend money! Second, I really don't want to do these things, prepare gift boxes and toast!

personally, these things are boring!

But one advantage of attending these weddings and funerals is that it won't be very slow, and the process will go quickly: after serving the dishes, just wait for the host's toast and leave after eating! Other forms of parties, such as homecoming, such as colleagues' parties, in a word, when the Woods are big, there are all kinds of birds, especially drunken birds, which fly in a ridiculous state!

Personally speaking, for this kind of family gathering, I am very willing to get together with my relatives on holidays, but I am afraid that they will drink too much, because they will get drunk after drinking, and then a quarrel caused by a trivial matter will lift the table!

my father or my mother's relatives have had this incident!

Especially older elders drink too much, and it's easy to talk endlessly. Once, my second master was drunk and forced me to get married, locked me in his house where pigs were raised in the slope, and then took out a pack of cigarettes. I didn't say a word, but he talked about me for more than two hours!

for other types, such as colleagues' parties, I really don't like the kind that likes to show off.

This kind of class reunion, in fact, after a long time of graduation, except for those who were very good at the beginning, other feelings have faded!

These are disgusting. If you can't go, you can't go, and you might as well spend the same money to have a home-cooked meal with your wife and children!

if you don't treat people all the year round, you won't treat them all your life. You will definitely have no children, and if you have children, you won't treat them. You will definitely not get married. Such a person and such a family are a sad part.

If you are invited not to participate, you will not participate for many years, and your relatives will be invited not to participate. You should be a savage. You have a confidant in life, and you don't even know your personal feelings. Living in this world is equivalent to having no soul.

This kind of person really exists, which has been regarded as a wonderful work, and has become a typical candidate for discussion.

A person in his twenties will say "enthusiasm" at work. Outside people seem to be very warm and friendly, and he is slightly moved.

Only those who know him well and get along with him for a long time will know that he is a man who talks big and looks good to you, and will not give a trace of true feelings to anyone. He is a veritable miser who can only get in and out. For decades, no one has seen him hold other people's venues. Even if it is an office, he will not congratulate and express condolences. However, he will not miss the benefits of others.

no matter how warm he is to you, he calls you brothers, and his sister shouts loudly, he won't even go if there is something at home. After the incident, he will be embarrassed to be quiet for two days, and then start talking and laughing with you, making out like nothing happened.

nothing has been done in his family. But it is estimated that his family has something to do, and everyone will not go. That's what they all say. Because his behavior has spread, he is already a celebrity in the unit, and everyone knows it.

The only thing that interests him and works hard for it is money, and he is extremely excited.

Although family is very important and the driving force of our struggle, it's still shameful to be a man like this.

Yes, there is more than one. Among them, two friends are the most prominent. One is a painter who likes music (in fact, he is an amateur), and the other friend is Li, a civil servant in a public institution. Let's talk about the painter friend named Jiang first.

The painter's friend's paintings are not very good. My husband grew up as a big friend, and friends who are familiar with him call him "Master". He also knows that this title means ridicule, but he is also willing to accept it. He is the kind of person who has been around us for many years. In the past few decades, we have never been "no treat, no dinner" except for weddings and funerals that are really unavoidable between friends. Unfamiliar friends all think that he is too lofty.

Actually, he has been a freelancer for many years. His talent for singing is higher than that for painting, and his daily work and rest schedule is completely opposite to that of ordinary people. If he gets up before 3: pm, it is the first time to get up early. No one can find him even in the daytime, so people in the circle will not invite him to dinner, and he will be happy to enjoy the quiet and never invite friends. Every day from 11: midnight to 4: am, his mental state and working state are at their best. I remember once after 12: midnight, he was very excited to bring a bottle of wine to our house and insisted that my husband get up to drink with him. They drank until 4: am that night. The next day, I learned that one of his works won the third prize in a small art exhibition, which was never "no treat, no dinner".

Another "Li" sex friend is her husband's college classmate. He is proficient in piano, chess, books and paintings, and has a great influence among his friends. Besides drinking and eating, he is present in other activities among his friends. People who are not familiar with him think that he works in the government and pretends to be honest. In fact, he has never drunk since childhood. In his fifth year of work, there was a large-scale classmate party, which saved him the trouble. Everyone spoke freely and made a toast to each other, which was really hindered by the old classmates' feelings. Li's friend got drunk and couldn't get up for two or three days. He told us that he had participated in this type of dinner several times and began to abstain from drinking, which offended many leaders and friends. Since then, his friends who have been familiar with him for many years have gradually become accustomed to it, and they don't blame it.

when friends meet, it is inevitable that they will treat each other to dinner, even if everyone agrees that he doesn't have to drink at the banquet.