Ode to Joy 1 has been broadcast for several episodes, and many viewers can't help complaining about Qiu Yingying. She finally won back the recognition of the audience in the back, and in Ode to Joy 2, she easily became a burden to the audience.
Qiu Yingying had better not fall in love, or be a good girl in the eyes of neighbors on the 22nd floor. Love not only hurt her, but also made all the neighbors on the 22nd floor fidgety and unable to speak. There is no denying that Qiu Yingying is really the most typical negative textbook in marriage and love.
First of all, she always remains stupid rather than pure in love. Simple as Guan Yu 'er, right and wrong are clear, ignorant of the world. Stupidity, like Qiu Yingying, is black and white.
On one occasion, Qiu Yingying and Guan Juer talked about some ideas about how to be a man. Qiu Yingying said that she felt that being the truest self in front of others didn't need to be hidden, so she could live a relaxed and happy life. But Guan Juer obviously doesn't approve. She didn't refute Qiu Yingying's values, but she felt that sometimes she disguised herself to protect herself and also cared about the feelings of others.
Qiu Yingying's words seem very free and easy, and there is nothing wrong with them. However, the implementation of the action made her very painful, and the audience confirmed at a glance that she was stupid.
For example, in the incident of Director Bai, the trace of the other party's derailment was obvious, but he only said two words to persuade her. It was because he knew that the cost of settling Qiu Yingying was very low that he dared to cheat her into bed easily.
I just listened to the first half of Bai's sentence and believed it. This is not naive, but black and white, which reduces her IQ and weight in each other's hearts, and also connives at love rat's willfulness and arrogance. Finally, it turns out that her "true nature" not only failed to help, but held her back.
When her neighbors kindly reminded her that the other party was unreliable, she ran to Bai's supervisor without thinking and resented them for being jealous of her finding a handsome boyfriend. Black and white don't argue to this point, just don't back the pot.
Another example is the Qin Ying incident. When the other person simply said I miss you, she was ecstatic. Every time Qin Ying wants to say something sweet to Qiu Yingying, he is brewing to talk, and Qiu Yingying obviously shows surprise. Before his first sentence was finished, her surprise broke out uncontrollably.
Qin Ying's expression is a capital circle, and he is even more surprised that Qiu Yingying is so easy to satisfy. Contentment is a virtue, but Qiu Yingying obviously misunderstood contentment. Therefore, after experiencing the incident of director Bai, she was still moved by a few words and meals. Even when she was beaten and humiliated because of him later, she still wanted to post.
Why is Qiu Yingying's "nature" repeatedly rejected? Because in love rat's eyes, this is stupid. In the eyes of the predecessor, this is cheap. It's really hard to see her releasing her "true nature" in front of her neighbors on the 22nd floor.
One of Qiu Yingying's negative teaching materials is that he thinks stupidity is his nature and never thinks twice before acting.
Smart and unsophisticated is simple.
Guan Juer's inner persistence seems sophisticated, but in fact it is a feeling of humility and intelligence. For example, she disagreed with Qiu Yingying's words, but instead of mocking and refuting them, she sought common ground while reserving differences.
For another example, in the face of the pursuit of blind date, she humbly asked Andy and Xiaoqu for advice. When the other party vigorously demonstrated his Excellence and "infatuation", Guan Juer was good at analyzing and guessing, and gave up flatly after discovering the true face of the blind date.
For example, in the process of contact with Xie Tong, she still faces the secret investigation of Qu Xiaoyu. Xiao Guan made it clear that she respected her friend's privacy and didn't want to know what the other person didn't want to tell her. Even if she knew, she wouldn't ask or question.
Even Fan was amazed and said Xiao Guan was a wise man. If she could do the same, she wouldn't be led by the hole step by step.
On the day when Guan Juer and Xie Tong played in Disney, she confided her heart to Xie Tong and agreed to Xie Tong's pursuit. This is Xiao Guan's decision after confirming that he has no feelings for Dr. Zhao and Xie Tong's sincerity and love.
A girl like Guan Juer, whose love and marriage are not bad, is also a textbook worth learning and learning from.
Therefore, if you don't want to be like Qiu Yingying, you should first distinguish between what is stupid and what is simple. Don't turn infatuation, innocence and simplicity into stupid excuses.
03 blindly forcing others to clean up her mess.
Secondly, Qiu Yingying always wants others to pay for her setbacks in marriage and love. Who hasn't talked about an unforgettable failed love? Who hasn't experienced a broken marriage?
Is it just because of my setbacks and failures that I can confidently ask my friends around me to always tolerate her? Put down life and work and always be her trash can?
Qiu Yingying's first lovelorn love not only failed to thank herself for getting rid of the distorted relationship, but also resented Qu Xiaoyu blindly. Although Xiaoqu's approach was somewhat unkind, it did help her. Forget it. She blocked the door like a bitch and accused Andy of kindly proposing to her.
Fan and Guan Yu, who lived with her, suffered more, and they became her bosom friends. For everyone's advice to her, Qiu Yingying completely fell into a vicious circle, saying that she wouldn't listen, listen to it, didn't understand it, knew it and didn't do it.
When Qiu Yingying was lovelorn for the second time, she lost the bottom line again. Most people lose their minds when they are lovelorn, and she goes straight to the bottom line.
First of all, I pestered Fan Meisheng and Guan Juer and kept crying. I can't do it. I can't let it go. How can I do it? What else can I do? Animals know how to hide in the corner and lick wounds silently. What can they do except fight hard?
Just when everyone was exhausted by her noise, she went straight to Guan's room, accused Xiao Guan of being heartless, and took it out on Dr. Zhao, who was kind to her, as if all the people in the world were her parents and owed her.
The most exasperating thing is that when the neighbors on the 22nd floor tried to pull her up by gentle, sharp, rational and other means, she was still beaten back to her original shape by Qin Ying's three or two pitiful entreaties. This proves once again that Qiu Yingying has the characteristics of attracting love rat, and Mimi exudes this characteristic to attract love rat, not her bad luck.
Just like Guan Juer asked her, "You finally got back to normal, why do you want to make the same mistake again?" He broke up with you and has a fiancee. Is he a friend or a fellow villager? What does it have to do with you? "
Qiu Yingying also naively said that she just loves Qin Ying and can't let him go. Even if she can chat with him, she is very happy. Qin Ying is love rat, and Qiu Yingying is undoubtedly a mistress in the name of fellow villagers. No wonder Qin Ying's fiancee was framed by an unlikable person and would be regarded as an adulterer and an adulterer.
The reason why Qiu Yingying lost the bottom line is that when Qin Ying's mother and son are under house arrest by her in-laws, she will get into trouble. She blindly forces her kind neighbors to clean up the mess for her, but she still wants to go home.
Fan Meisheng comforted her by saying that people who don't respect her are not worthy of nostalgia. However, I didn't see her respect for these friends who donated money and made plans for her. On the contrary, she occupied their self-restraint and blindly asked them to pay for her mess.
In reality, if a friend is so kind, it is really a friend's self-cultivation. The real human nature is such that people have long been kicked out.
In order to protect her, friends tried their best to transfer her to another hospital. She is ungrateful. As soon as she got out of bed, she ran to the original hospital without changing her hospital gown, and rushed to the other ward without thinking. If Xiao Qu Que hadn't informed Dr. Zhao to stop it in time, he would have been beaten again.
Finally, Qiu Yingying had to force the neighbors to clean up her mess. After learning the true face of Yingmu, Guan Juer and Qu Xiaoyu took the initiative to negotiate with her. Xiao Qu devotes herself to gauze for her head and name, but Qiu Yingying, as a stirring stick, makes her neighbors thankless, and she is looked down upon by her mother more and more.
Even though Guan Juer and Qu Xiaoyu are tough and clear, they can't resist Qiu Yingying's own blindness and cowardice. Ying's mother was severely humiliated, and her brave neighbors were also killed, because from the beginning, they made it clear that they were Xiao Qiu's good friends to deal with this matter.
It is a kind of respect not to disturb friends too much.
Look at Andy's lovelorn state. She shut herself in the house and let the pain release silently. Worst of all, she's out on holiday.
Her love of singularity is not lower than Qiu Yingying's corresponding diligence, but she never adds a little burden to her friends. Even Tan didn't think she was a friend, so she confidently cheated him. But you should understand that you can't always share weal and woe as a good friend. This is the embodiment of respecting friends.
Look at Fan again. Her poor family background makes every relationship full of ups and downs. When she fell out with Wang Baichuan, did she talk to anyone? Even though her family background branded her with despair, she never complained to everyone, and caught her rich friends to pay for her misfortune.
There is also qu Xiaoyu. Her love for Dr. Zhao is unforgettable. Apart from pestering Andy and occasionally talking to Guan Juer, I didn't disturb everyone. Even when she was frustrated, she was still not decadent in her career. She did several good things for her friends.
Only by comparison can we know why some people say that the gap between people is sometimes greater than that between people and pigs.
When Qiu Yingying was lovelorn, why didn't he get sympathy from the audience and even be called stupid and hopeless? It is because she doesn't know how to save herself and appreciate the help of her friends. She just forces her friends to pay for her setbacks and failures, instead of summing up lessons and experiences and being a self-respecting and self-reliant person.
Marriage will be defeated by giant babies.
Finally, whether Qiu Yingying is in love or married, her state and thoughts are always a huge baby. Many people spit out this huge baby boy and want to stay away from him every minute. By the same token, if you want to fall in love or get married, no one wants to choose a huge baby girl to fall in love and get married.
When she was lovelorn, Fan couldn't bear to break the fantasy in her heart and comforted her that she might come back and get back together with her. Therefore, Qiu Yingying believed this and tried to cheer up. A few days later, seeing that Qin Ying had a new girlfriend instead of getting back together with her, her spirit collapsed again.
Andy wrote an email to Qin Ying to create an opportunity for them to communicate, but told Qiu Yingying clearly that Qin Ying's personality made it impossible for her to get back together. Qiu Yingying lost her love in an instant, and she looked lifeless on the way to the airport.
Andy couldn't bear to see her like this after all. In order to let her live a normal May Day, he told her a white lie and told her that Qin Ying was worth looking forward to. As a result, Qiu Yingying was alive and kicking again at once, as if Andy's words would come true soon.
Qin Ying doesn't like that Qiu Yingying is not a virgin, so she doubts her own value and thinks that she doesn't deserve a happy life. Later, Qin Ying felt cheated by his fiancee, so she came back to find her and said she was a good girl. So Qiu Yingying was secretly happy and began to feel good, so he would like it.
From beginning to end, Qiu Yingying didn't have his own ideas, but was influenced by others' ideas again and again. Even if she does marry Qin Ying, she will definitely become her mother's puppet. What mother should say, she will follow! If she is not Ying's puppet, then she must be her parents' puppet.
If her parents are too bourgeois, they will probably "teach" her a way to conquer her husband's family. Qiu Yingying, the giant baby, will be displayed one by one without thinking. In real life, there are too many girls like Qiu Yingying who have no opinions. She just did what her parents said, and in the end, her small family was restless and fell apart.