At first, I didn't understand Confucius' "color difficulty". Today, I will say-"color difficulty"!

Xia Zi asked Confucius, "What is filial piety?" Confucius said: "color is difficult."

Before, I only knew that being kind to parents was filial piety. I think giving money to parents, grandparents is filial piety, and buying things for relatives is filial piety. In short, in my understanding, giving material feedback is "feedback". In fact, the most difficult thing about filial piety is "color difficulty."

"color difficulty" refers to what kind of expression and mentality has been maintained in the process of honoring parents and elders. It is difficult for ordinary people to be kind and humble to their parents.

Indeed, if a person is filial to his parents on the surface, but he doesn't think so in his heart, I don't think such filial piety can be regarded as real filial piety.

I remember a passage in the Analects of Confucius: "My parents have made several suggestions, but they don't follow their wishes, respect their wishes and work hard." This means that if you serve your parents and see that their parents have done something wrong, you should protest gently. If your parents don't want to listen, you should still respect them, don't offend them, and just grieve instead of resent them. I think this embodies the core concept of filial piety, that is, "obedience", conforming to parents' wishes and not violently confronting. This shows that more than two thousand years ago, Confucius raised the problem of supporting parents to the height of caring for their mental health.

Sometimes I think of my wayward coquetry (some are similar to derailment), sometimes I always like to impose my will on my parents, and sometimes I blame the elderly for their mistakes. Although I am a close relative and unrestrained, this is filial piety, not real filial piety, but a rude attitude. Therefore, I feel very ashamed after understanding the meaning of "color difficulty".

"Filial piety" is a knowing word, which means that the old man leans close to his son. Its basic meaning means that children should be good at serving and supporting their parents, which is the concrete embodiment of family virtue. Nowadays, with the development of the times and different conditions, the meaning of filial piety has been very different from before. For example, filial piety, in addition to parenting, also includes some spiritual things such as respect, care and personality recognition.

We can't deny that our country pays more and more attention to economic development, but the inheritance of traditional morality is gradually disappearing. In people's minds, money is becoming more and more important, which is quite dangerous. We should drink water and think about the source-where does human life come from? How to realize it in life?

I've heard people say that Confucius' thoughts are out of date, not suitable for today's times, and so on ... I think Confucius' thoughts can't be separated from Confucius' times, just as we can't tear flowers and plants to see if their lives are gorgeous, we should learn from Confucius' thoughts and draw valuable essence from them for life and society. To sublimate "filial piety" into "love", I think a person should keep a true, kind and compassionate heart to do good deeds (including charity), whether to our beloved relatives or friends, to our neighbors or strangers, and to the society in a broad sense.

I think, even now, "filial piety" is of great significance to building a harmonious society.