Those who love others will always love them; Those who respect others will always respect them.

We often base our joys and sorrows on how our lovers view ourselves, and gradually lose ourselves and just cater to each other blindly.

if you want others to be nice to you, you must learn to be nice to others first; If you want others to love you, you must learn to love others first.

everything is like this.

Love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. Throughout the ages, the touching love story has made many people cry.

precious feelings should be equal, not humble.

when you love others, you should never ignore your feelings, and don't hurt yourself or force yourself for that love.

11

Xiao Fang likes cooking very much, but it's not delicious.

She doesn't have the talent to cook delicious food, but she always watches the news about food safety and worries that her husband is eating unhealthy outside. So I bought pots and pans and cooked lunch for my husband every day.

Every time, my husband won't dislike her poor cooking. Even if the cooking is terrible and fails again, he will look at her smiling and eat it all, and praise her cooking loudly.

It is her husband's encouragement that makes her more motivated to cook and more energetic in cooking. It used to be done once every few days, but now it's done every day and every meal. My husband's three meals a day are contracted by Xiao Fang.

Slowly, he found that her husband didn't have much to eat. He often brought back a lot of lunch boxes left unfinished every day, and often advised her to go out for dinner with her children.

she felt a little puzzled. She thinks she can cook, so why go out to eat and waste money?

the money left over is not a decimal. Besides, cooking outside is not as healthy and secure as cooking at home.

once, they quarreled over whether to eat at home or go out.

In desperation, the husband told her from the bottom of his heart: "Can't you taste the food you cooked so badly? I didn't eat it until I saw that you were so hard. As a result, I didn't expect you to pour out, intensify your efforts, and start cooking every day. Do you mean to torture me to death by cooking such terrible things every day? Actually, to be honest, I don't mind that you can't cook at all. Everyone has something that they are not good at, but we can cook less if it tastes bad. What's wrong with going out to eat occasionally to improve our food? We don't need this money. If you really want to cook every day, go to the bookstore to buy more cooking books, study the recipes, or sign up for a cooking class and learn to eat well. "

12

After listening to her husband's words, she suddenly felt wronged. She spent so much time preparing, but her husband still disliked herself. But I also feel bad for my husband. In order to take care of her feelings, I force myself to eat bad food every day.

So she said, "Okay, okay, you don't have to worry so much, just eat by yourself. If you don't like it, don't eat it. Let's go out to eat. When I learn to cook, I can cook a delicious meal and then cook it for you. "

when the husband heard this, his anger gradually subsided, and the two men got back together.

For this woman who can't cook, cooking may be a challenge every time.

She may think to herself that if she cooks for her husband so hard, he will always read his own good.

But she neglected a question. Does her husband really want her to make such sacrifices and pay?

who said it wasn't?

those unnecessary efforts can actually be done less or not.

You let yourself suffer injustice and do things that look good for each other. He may benefit from this, but you have gained deeper sorrow. Is this good for your relationship? No.

if you don't do it, although the other party didn't benefit from it, he won't have any complaints, and you won't feel unwilling because of injustice.

it won't have any bad influence on your relationship. It's better to do more than one thing, and it's also appropriate to use it here.

13

I saw a woman's opinion of her husband on Zhihu, which made people reflect.

She used to quarrel with her husband, who told her: Don't do anything you don't want or like for me, so you will feel wronged. If you suffer any more injustice because of those things, and you will take it out on me again, it will make me feel bad. That's not what I asked you to do. If you don't feel wronged, just do it, but if you feel wronged, don't do it before it's too late. It's not good for both of us.

Later, she gradually changed, and no longer forced herself to do things she didn't want to do to cater to her husband. Over time, the relationship with my husband has become better.

Besides, the stories of Nicholas Tse and Cecilia Cheung also make many fans sigh.

The love-hate entanglement between them made everyone feel very worried.

As long as I think back on their marriage, both Cecilia Cheung herself and her fans are constantly talking about how much she has devoted to this marriage.

Cecilia Cheung knows that Nicholas Tse likes a little plump women, so she doesn't try hard to be slim.

Her usual diet has become less regular than before, and the number of exercises has gradually decreased. She knew that Nicholas Tse didn't like dogs and was allergic to dog hair, so she sold her six precious dogs at a low price. Knowing that Nicholas Tse loves playing the guitar, she looks for things with guitar elements everywhere.

what was the result? What did she get? What she gets is the indifference of the other party to herself and her children, and an indifferent figure who has been playing video games, regardless of herself and her children.

She often stares at that indifferent figure for hours.

When she divorced, Cecilia Cheung was heartbroken. She didn't know why she changed for him, and he did such cruel things to herself.

But from Nicholas Tse's point of view, is it because Cecilia Cheung is tired of not becoming better, but becoming more humble and less original?

maybe. After all, when he left Cecilia Cheung to go back to Faye Wong, they had a good life.

14

Cecilia Cheung once told an artist that he might be wrong. If he could do it all over again, the ending might not be like this.

actually, she didn't do anything wrong.

There is nothing wrong with her loving her husband and her family. What is wrong is that she puts too much emphasis on giving.

She sacrificed her hobbies to cater to each other's hobbies, and as a result, she gradually lost her own characteristics and became unattractive.

So, in love, both men and women should not lose their own characteristics.

when you become better, you will find that the world is so beautiful. In this way, you will become more and more confident, and more people will start to like you because of your confidence.

what attracts you is the bright spot in you;

No matter what reason you change yourself, it also shows that your attraction to the other person is gradually disappearing.

there is nothing wrong with being kind to others. What is wrong is only the object of payment. People who don't trust you with their kindness are simply not worth paying again.