They don't vent their negative emotions at will, they don't talk about their past easily, and they don't talk too much.
They will leave time for themselves, their families and their interests, so that their lives will be rich and colorful, and they will never be entangled with rotten people.
Because "hiding" is the modesty of the wise.
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"hide" emotions
A woman who can't hide her emotions will often vent her negative emotions on people around her, and even hurt the hearts of people who care about herself.
When I was young, I wanted to cry. It is a kind of beauty to laugh simply. However, with the growth of age, it will become a bad phenomenon to keep this "simplicity".
It's not that adults should mute their crying, but learn to think twice before seeing them.
When we have negative emotions, we will feel happy when we vent our emotions, but no one wants to be a trash can with negative emotions all the time.
After all, it is not only happiness but also anger that can infect others.
In psychology, there is such a "cat kicking effect", which will spread bad emotions:
A father was criticized by his boss in the company and came home with a lot of negative emotions. He just saw his children jumping around on the expensive sofa and rushed forward to scold them.
In this way, the father's negative emotions were passed on to the children, and the children transferred their anger to the cats playing around. The innocent cat had to escape into the street when a truck came and the driver ran into children on the side of the road to avoid it. ......
Bad mood will spread like this, maybe it will eventually come back to you.
Therefore, smart people will self-regulate their emotions, will not vent on others, and will not let people around them pay for their emotions.
Hiding emotions, keeping self-cultivation, and not letting emotions form a vicious circle, such people are really powerful people.
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"hide" the past
I like this sentence very much:
On the way of growing up, everyone will not only be illuminated by sunlight, but also encounter storms. It is an adult practice to heal while being injured.
A clever woman will not easily tell others about her past, whether it is happy or painful. Things of the past have become a routine. They have melted into our eyebrows and become something called "experience".
So, there is really no need to tell others.
Especially for strangers, talking about your past is a disaster. You don't know the other person's personality, and you don't know that the other person is close to your purpose. It's like giving you a handle.
How many people talk in a simple way and tell their own stories when they are not familiar with each other, but what they didn't expect was that the other party turned around and told it to others as a joke, and even became a weapon for others to hurt you.
After all, few people will really applaud your past achievements, and few people will really cherish your past pains. Heroes don't ask the source, rather than telling the past, it is better to look at the present.
A truly powerful woman will not reveal her past easily. A woman who can keep things in her heart will definitely not let her life revolve around rotten people.
Hide the past and don't make trouble for yourself. Even if it's not a simple life, it can be simple.
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"hidden" discourse
Amy and Nora entered the same company at the same time. Amy is introverted and intelligent. Although she speaks slowly, every word is powerful. Nora is very lively and always chirps like a bird.
Naturally, Nora is more popular than Amy.
However, at the end of the internship, Nora was eliminated. Nora asked the leader unconvinced, but only got a sentence "You talk too much".
It turns out that Nora always gossips about others to get closer to her colleagues, which creates a disharmonious atmosphere among her colleagues.
In fact, a really smart person will shut up instead of talking.
It took us a year to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime of practice to learn to shut up.
The more you talk, the better. Sometimes, if you talk too much, it will bring you trouble, which can be described as "disaster comes from your mouth"
A really smart woman learned to shut up very early:
In the unit, there is no gossip, they will use the time to improve their business and fall into the real place of promotion and salary increase;
At home, they will spend time taking care of flowers and cooking delicious food to make life more interesting.
Don't talk nonsense, don't gossip about others, leave more time for yourself, talk to yourself and enrich your heart.
Such a woman is a really powerful person.
Hiding is a kind of wisdom, but also a life rule:
Hide your emotions, be an emotionally stable person, and reap blessings;
Hide the past, be a person who never looks back, and grasp the present;
Hide your words and be a sunny person, warm and bright.
What is hidden is the uneasiness given by fate, and what is revealed is the open-mindedness after cultivation.
People who know how to hide, have character, self-cultivation and more strength are more likely to get happiness!
Author | Zheng Zaixiu
An old driver who is more emotional than the five senses, pay attention to me and take you out of the emotional dilemma.
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