Happy guests: Hu Xiao and Jiang Xuemei

Interview time: afternoon of October 11, 2006

The joining of the Chengdu singing area has made Super Girl more and more popular In Chengdu, it was the unremitting efforts of Hu Xiao and his colleagues that made dream-chasing girls Li Yuchun, Zhang Liangying, He Jie, Tan Weiwei, Ji Minjia, and Zhang Hanyun walk on the Avenue of Stars. Today, Hu Xiao, the chief director of Super Girl's Chengdu singing area and the host of Chengdu TV, visited our emotional studio to tell you the story of his romantic, sweet love and happy marriage with his wife Jiang Xuemei.

The husband is a famous TV host in Chengdu, and the wife is the CEO of a company. This marriage combination is enviable. With the development of their careers, their marriage once faced a test. Despite the disturbing rumors of divorce, they still loved each other deeply after knowing each other for nearly 20 years.

Knowing each other, chatting all night but not talking about feelings

In 1987, I was admitted to the Department of Foreign Languages ??at Sichuan University, and Jiang Xuemei was already a second-year student in the Department of Chinese at Sichuan University. We were admitted to the Sichuan University Broadcasting Station at the same time. I worked as an announcer and she worked as an editor. The first time I met her was at a meeting in the old auditorium of Sichuan University. The autumn sunshine slanted in from the two-meter-high window and shone warmly on her body. She was wearing a white sweater and was surrounded by the golden sunshine. She began to introduce herself: "My name is Jiang Xuemei, a grade 86 student in the Chinese Department." A gentle voice, golden sunshine, and a girl in white. At that moment, I felt like meeting a fairy and fell in love with her at first sight. I kept this beautiful feeling in my heart for two years.

Later I became the director of Sichuan University Radio Station and she became the editor-in-chief. In the hustle and bustle of life, the two of us are always quiet. On the afternoon of April 25, 1989, I invited her to have coffee at the "Little World" cafe at Chengdu University of Science and Technology (now Sichuan University West District). I went around and around, and after two or three hours, I finally confessed my love to her, but she refused, and I was very frustrated. In order to vent my frustration, I ran around Sichuan University. When I returned to my residence at Sichuan University Radio Station, I found her sitting at the door. It turned out that the girls' dormitory was closed, so she had to come back to find me. I lit a row of candles on a big table, sat face to face with her and chatted without talking about feelings, and unknowingly we stayed up all night long.

The next afternoon, I wrote a long letter and gave it to her along with a tape I had recorded for her. I still remember that on that tape I recorded Qi Qin's "The Train Hurry Up" and a few English songs. At noon on the third day, on the way to the canteen to get food, she gave me two movie tickets. I asked her doubtfully: "If you give me two tickets, who should I go with to see it?" She smiled sweetly: "Why are you so stupid?" She turned around and walked away. Looking at her back, I suddenly understood and felt ecstatic in my heart.

The memory of falling in love is full of sunshine

In order not to affect our studies, we deliberately kept a distance. But in order to keep in touch with each other, I often put pinwheels or beads in the small cabinet at the door of the library, and she puts a few strawberries or apples inside, or writes letters and cards to each other and puts them inside. The small cabinet for students to store their schoolbags has become our treasure. I open it every day with anticipation, not knowing what surprises the other party will create. At that time, we were used to express our words by writing them on cards or letters, just like we do now by sending text messages.

In May 1989, she went to live with her aunt. One afternoon I went to see her, but I didn't dare to go upstairs, so I sat downstairs by the flower stand and whistled GreenSleeves. After blowing for half an hour, she opened the window and looked down. I thought she would come down soon, but I had to wait from 5 pm to 10 pm. On the way, I picked the largest red sweet potato flower in the flower stand, quietly went upstairs and stuck it on the door before coming back down. At 10 o'clock in the evening, suddenly, the light of several flashlights shone at me: "What are you doing here?" I said I was waiting for someone, but who was I waiting for? upstairs. Which one? I didn't dare to say anything, so I was invited to the security room. Because I was afraid of being detained for a night, I still did it. Her uncle came downstairs and took me away. The red sweet potato flower was given to her by her uncle.

During the winter and summer vacations of that year, we wrote letters, sent express mails, or sent telegrams every two days. I wrote in French: "You are my bride."

Very well. Soon, she will be a senior. I helped her copy her graduation thesis word for word. Her hometown is Zigong, and her parents hope she can go back. But I hope she will go to my hometown, Chongqing, to wait for me to return after graduation. In the end we decided to let her stay in Chengdu. But easier said than done? We didn’t have any connections or backgrounds, so we had to look for it from unit to unit, hit a wall, look again, and hit a wall again. Later, she managed to get a job at a pharmaceutical factory in Tianhui Town. To meet, we had to ride a bicycle for an hour and a half. Communication was not convenient at that time. In order to answer her call, I had to run to the next floor from where I lived. One time I heard the phone ringing, and I didn't have the key with me, so I climbed through the window and went in to answer her call. To answer the phone, she had to come out of the dormitory building and run to the office building more than 100 meters away to answer the call. One night, she vaguely felt the phone ringing, and rushed over in the darkness. After answering the phone, she went back to the dormitory alone in the dark. It was so eerie that she felt scared. It was so hard to love at that time, but it was also very happy. Now when I look back on the past, my memories are full of sunny days, pure, beautiful and happy, just like Jiang Wen's movie.

Getting married was like a party

In July 1991, I graduated from college and applied for a job as a program host at Sichuan Economic Radio Station. 1,000 people applied for the exam, but only me and another young man passed. What impressed me most was that I moved 8 times in the first year after graduating from college.

At the end of 1992, we decided it was time to get married. At that time, we had no idea about having a banquet or receiving bride price when we got married. The wedding was planned by my buddy at the radio station. On the wedding day of September 9, 1993, a group of buddies drove up to our downstairs in a car they borrowed from somewhere. They said, "Let's get married!" and took Jiang Xuemei and me away. The wedding was held in a bar owned by a friend of mine. The whole wedding was like a party, we didn't even eat, we just drank water. All 20 or 30 hosts from our radio station took turns to host the ceremony. The men would talk about how much they admired the bride, and the women would talk about how much they admired the groom. The whole wedding was made a joke by everyone. After the wedding, I was extremely grateful and invited everyone to my house for instant noodles and wine. My wedding was very involved. It seemed like everyone was getting married except Jiang Xuemei and me. It is estimated that Hunan Satellite TV later borrowed the entertainment elements and launched the "Happy Camp" program, haha.

It’s interesting to talk about receiving wedding gifts. Our director gave me a warm water bottle with a plastic shell. Dong Lin, the host of our station, gave me a copy of "Marriage Law". We still keep the list of all the betrothal gifts. I miss my time at Sichuan Economic Radio very much, and I am very grateful to those buddies.

Giving a daughter, my heart aches when I look at my daughter

In the summer of 1994, she became pregnant. We didn't even have a rental house at that time, and the most decent furniture was a TV. Our combined salary was less than 2,000 yuan.

In this way, I, a big boy who has not yet woken up, became a father in a trance. She had an attack three days after her due date. I was tired of waiting and happily sent her to the hospital. Her father carried the washbasin and quilt, and I carried the tape recorder and stereo. From the onset of the attack to the birth of the child, she was in pain for a full 7 hours. Her mother's and my hands were scratched blue, but she never screamed. I had to have a caesarean section, and my hands were shaking when I signed the contract. This is the life of the person I love most. For the first time, I was in awe of life.

When the nurse brought my daughter to me, I was not filled with happiness like other fathers. I was just heartbroken and felt an overwhelming burden. "I held it in my hand for fear of falling, and held it in my mouth I was afraid. "I bought a bouquet of roses, tore off the petals, and spread them all over my daughter's crib. Looking at my daughter’s peaceful and sweet sleeping state, I suddenly remembered a passage from a certain book: “When I looked at my cute little daughter, I thought that somewhere in this world, there is a girl wearing crotchless pants and The kid with the runny nose would take her as his own, and it made me angry to think about it.”

After we had our daughter, we moved again. I first rented a house in Shuanglin, cleaned it, then packed my luggage in Ximen, and moved to Shuanglin like an ant moving. This is the first time as a man that I feel responsible for my family. It is so realistic. In the past, I only thought about whether there would be wine, moonlight, music, and flowers. This move gave me a sense of accomplishment because I designed this home myself.

Staying together, all the ups and downs are happy

After becoming a father, I became quieter and quieter. After 1995, our emotional life entered a period of calm. By the time I turned 30 in 2000, I no longer coveted the wonderful things outside as before. Instead, I longed to go home, calm down and read a book, and live a rural life away from the hustle and bustle as a family of three on weekends. I used to like drinking coffee, but since last year, I have become obsessed with tea culture and Peking Opera.

Just when I kept trying to take myself back, my wife devoted herself wholeheartedly to her career. First, there was the long-term night shift, and then there was the business trip to various parts of the country, traveling around for half of the year. We all long for each other's understanding and support, but no one can convince the other. We started to have conflicts, had a cold war, and didn't speak to each other for several days. This indifference tightens the bonds of marriage. Although we never quarreled and only argued loudly, there were still rumors that we were divorced. However, when we have conflicts, as soon as our daughter gets sick, the huge conflicts can be put aside, and the two of us will immediately unite in a family with our daughter as the core. Gradually, we learned to adjust and tolerate, and sunny days returned.

Looking back now, although it was painful at the time, all the twists and turns and ups and downs were very happy, because they constituted memories and conversation topics between us. I even think that there must be bumps and bumps in order to make our relationship thicker and to know what it feels like to feel heartache for each other.

I work in a TV station and do entertainment programs, so there are naturally many beauties around me. But when looking at beautiful women becomes a daily routine, beautiful women will no longer become a fatal temptation.

From the time we met, we each spend our own money and never quarrel over money. If I buy something big, I will contribute 60% and she will contribute 40%. This is true for cars and houses. But neither of us has any private money, and this model of running a household relies entirely on trust. When I wear a watch that costs more than 100 yuan, I can buy her a GUCCI watch that costs more than 4,000 yuan without hesitation.

We have known each other for almost 20 years, but we still maintain our passion. After graduating from college, I taught her how to play tennis, and I played exclusively with her for more than 10 years.

During the Spring Festival of 2004, we flew to a Hilton Hotel in Thailand to play tennis. It was her birthday during the Spring Festival last year. I booked a beach bar in a hotel on Langkawi Island in Malaysia to celebrate her birthday with my friends. A special band played for us, the chef was busy making delicious food, and the moment the champagne was opened, she was extremely moved.

Jiang Xuemei talks about

“Manage marriage with care”

Hu Xiao’s wife Jiang Xuemei is the boss of Borui Printing Company. This successful woman has What unique insights do you have on managing a marriage? On the 13th, during a telephone interview with our reporter, Ms. Jiang spoke of her and Hu Xiao’s “happiness story.”

The reason why our marriage is happy has a lot to do with the careful management of both parties. I used to be a good wife and mother, but in the past eight years, with the development of my career, I have changed a lot and I can no longer take care of my family. Hu Xiao felt that I had become very hard and cold, and the two of us almost broke up. But it’s not easy to build a family through hard work, and we really can’t let go of each other.

Recalling when we graduated from college, we stayed in Chengdu for love. We move around and don’t have to buy a bed, but we can’t afford not to buy the rugs and candlesticks necessary for a candlelight dinner. No matter how hard it was, we never gave up on this love. We firmly believe that as long as two people are together, there will be bread. It’s been almost 20 years, and we have gone from lovers to relatives and become part of each other’s bloodline. Therefore, no matter how big the conflict is, we will understand and tolerate each other. During our Cold War, I took a plane from Nanchang to Lanzhou. The plane made an emergency landing in Yinchuan due to mechanical failure. Shocked, I called him with tears in my eyes. He didn't say anything, but I knew that he was deeply shaken.

As a wife and company boss, I have always been confused about how to balance career and family. When our relationship was at its most tense and painful, I went to see a friend who was a psychiatrist. The expert made me reflect that I had indeed ignored him. I used to always tell him that I was very busy and had no time to take care of my family and spend time with him and my daughter. But in fact, these are all excuses. As long as you are willing, you can definitely find time to spend with your family. Sometimes it's really impossible to take care of both, but he can see your efforts. I don't have much social contact now. I go home as soon as I finish work. We would sit on the bed and talk all night, and I brought him into my work circle so he could understand me. He would also talk to me about his work and take me to the computer room to watch him edit films.

I have never worried that as a public figure, he will not be able to resist the temptation of the outside world. In the past, when he was a radio host, I would get jealous when a female listener presented her with flowers, but not anymore. One is based on self-confidence, and the other is that our feelings are too deep and we will never abandon each other easily. Hu Xiao is a man with a special sense of responsibility, vision and taste. His love for his daughter surprised me first, and then moved me. When his daughter is sick, he can hold her all night without sleeping.

A friend once said with emotion: "Many families only have one flower blooming, but your family has two flowers blooming, and the marriage is so happy, which is very rare."

Jiang Xuemei: A long marriage does make people feel tired easily, so we have to keep giving and creating.

Hu Xiao: I think love and marriage are separate. Love is an emotion that changes at any time and for some reason. Love must be passionate, crazy, and melt each other heart-for-heart. And marriage is the art of two people getting along, not the art of falling in love. This kind of relationship requires relaxation, whether far or close, close or distant. There are very few couples like us who got married to college classmates, and it has been nearly 20 years since we met, but their marriage is still stable and their relationship is getting deeper and deeper. I'm very proud of this.