I asked some married female friends around me, and they said that women will undergo the following changes before and after marriage:

Some people say that the biggest change must be economic. Although her salary was not low before she got married, at the age of thirty she had a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan before tax and lived with her parents. But she used to live on a monthly basis, buying clothes and skin care cosmetics without hesitation, and she had to do it every week. A SPA costs at least 2,000 yuan in total every month. Every now and then, she and her friends would have a meal costing more than 100 or 200 yuan at a small restaurant outside. In terms of tourism, there is one domestic tour and one overseas tour each year. As for luxury goods, although I don’t buy first-tier brands, there is still no problem in buying one Coach or MK bag a year.

However, after getting married and buying a house, even though the down payment was provided by the husband's family, the couple's life suddenly became tight in order to repay the loan of more than 8,000 yuan a month. She and her husband have similar incomes, so the loan is shared equally between them. The budget for clothing and cosmetics has been reduced to 500 per month, and cannot exceed 1,000 at most. Normally, I basically have to cook at home. It would be nice to go out to a restaurant with my husband once a month. For the time being, we can only travel domestically once a year. We will consider overseas travel when economic conditions improve in the future. I no longer think about luxury goods. Just use those famous brand bags as long as they are still usable.

She said that this was still before she had a child. It was estimated that if she gave birth to a child in the future, the financial situation might be even tighter.

Some people feel that after marriage, especially after childbirth, the circle of friends becomes narrower. Before marriage, you can often get together with your best friends, old classmates, and colleagues to eat, drink, go to bars, sing karaoke, and have afternoon tea.

After you get married, you will spend more time with your husband’s relatives, including almost all the Spring Festival spent in your husband’s hometown. I can't always go to bars and sing karaoke, otherwise my husband will look bad, and my mother-in-law will secretly say that she is a bit unruly if she often goes to such places. Moreover, after giving birth to a child, she had to hang around the child all day long. Half a year after giving birth, she had almost no time to make friends. As time passed, friends or besties stopped calling her when they went out to play.

Some people say that the biggest change before and after marriage is actually the psychological change. Before she got married, she only thought about her own affairs. After getting married, she would think more about family matters. For example: When I was single in the past, when I went to the mall to buy clothes, I basically looked at the counters for girls’ clothing and OL clothing.

Nowadays, when I go to department stores, I mainly look at men’s and children’s clothing. Sometimes I also go to the elderly clothing counter, thinking about buying something for my mother-in-law to please her. In addition, in the past, when buying things, we paid attention to beauty and exquisiteness, and price came second. Now, we pay more attention to low price, and then good quality.

Some people say that a bigger change is the amount of thought spent on dressing up. She said that when she was an unmarried girl, in order to attract boys, she always wanted to leave the best impression on others, so she always dressed up beautifully before going out.

But after getting married, most women, including her, will neglect to dress up. In addition, they have been exposed to oil fumes in the kitchen for a long time. Many men will call their women yellow-faced women. This may be it. That makes sense. There are many people who have even changed their body shape from the slim ladies before marriage to the figures of aunts after marriage. The reason may be that after marriage, women feel that they have found a long-term meal ticket, so there is no need to spend this energy attracting the opposite sex. Of course, part of the reason is that women will spend more time on their men and children at this time. On the body, naturally there is no flaw in taking care of oneself.

To sum up, in fact, women still pay a lot for their marriage and family after marriage, not only for financial and physical freedom, but also for spiritual freedom. Therefore, I hope that all men who have married a beautiful woman will cherish the person in front of them. Finally, I wish you all a happy married life!

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