How to keep fresh in love?

understand that no one has the obligation to pay, bear or accommodate blindly. Love itself requires both parties to run together, and success in love is also a part of success in life. Knowing this, it is fresh and the sense of success and honor is not far away.

There was a rotten saying before.

freshness is not to experience the same life with different people, but to explore the unknown world with the same people.

The dimension of freshness is really difficult to maintain. If two people can keep groping in their own tracks and evolve into better people, will they still like him in front of them? The ever-changing life and fragile and tired feelings make me choose again, and boys' sense of responsibility, character and personality will account for a larger proportion.

Duras once put forward a perfectionist plot from a female perspective: I am old, and one day, in the lobby of a public place, a man came up to me. He introduced himself voluntarily, and he said to me, "I know you and will always remember you." At that time, you were still very young, and everyone said you were beautiful. Now, I have come to tell you that for me, you are more beautiful now than when you were young. At that time, you were a young woman, and I love your ruined face more than your face at that time. "

It's a pity that Duras and Qiong Yao may be close at hand in their ability to construct the concept of love.

Love needs a sense of ritual to maintain, and the only way to break aesthetic fatigue is to create new stories. Why do we feel that life is passing faster and faster than before? Because when you are three years old, the length of the experience day is equivalent to being based on the denominator of three years old, and when you are thirty years old, the denominator is multiplied by ten times, and the sense of time passing is ten times faster.

Therefore, all those full lives are pursuing new experiences. No matter whether they are reading thousands of books or taking Wan Li Road, the demands behind them are to demand the scenery that is completely different from their memories, so that they can live in a changing environment and bear the corresponding risks and opportunities.

What you should think about is, how long has it been since you seriously planned a ceremony for your feelings? When was the last time you carefully selected a perfume to please your husband?

Find a time to treat each other as if they had met on the first day. Looking at it, are you interested? What do you like about it? Let's go, let's make a mistake, okay? Do something to please. A date? One last sleep?

In fact, all marriage guides will mention doing something "different", not just going to a field battle or something. The logic behind it is to break the already weak interaction. The challenge of lasting coexistence is that each other has become accustomed to each other's efforts and even doesn't think about returning, so the flow of feelings will gradually decrease with interaction.

On the first day of living together, your partner cooked you fried eggs for breakfast. You will be excited all day and buy gifts after work. In five years' time, you may not even thank you for the breakfast you deserve. So the emotional interaction came to an abrupt end.

or, do something you haven't done.

or, rediscover what happens every day.

and keep your charm at all times. What I call charm is by no means synonymous with royal elder sister or sexy. What I call charm is attraction. Two people together, it is by sex and attraction. The reason why you are with your partner must be what attracts you. And this kind of attraction varies from person to person, such as: the other person is serious; Good smell on the other side; The other party likes small animals very much; The other person is cute when he smiles ... and so on. But promise me, don't lose them after falling in love, okay?

It's as if you read a book that inspired you a lot when you were seventeen, and you liked it very much. You remember many classic sentences in it. When you are twenty-seven years old and want to read it again, you will find that it is only suitable for reading at the age of seventeen, but it is no longer suitable for you at the age of twenty-seven. So, you may still cherish him, but you never want to open it again.

this is the loss of attraction. You can talk to her about her hobbies, such as watching movies together, reading books together, playing games together, and being happy when you think about it.

Xiao Bian feels that life still leaves some surprises and gives himself more vitality. When the novelty passes, it will pass. What is important is how to arrange and create surprises in the future, which may be the most important thing. Finally, you may find that you are beginning to like old things, so please keep the way you loved him/her at first, even if you are the same as in the past, you don't want to face uncontrollable accidents.

I wish you happiness.