Unfortunately, I don't have such a father. "
This is what my high school deskmate Xing Xing told me. She is an unmarried person, and always has been.
I used to think she was joking. I always advised her: You watch too many TV plays, and you won't think so in a few years.
But I was wrong. Eight years later, she is still an unmarried person. She said she wouldn't believe in love, and she was even afraid because of her background.
Being single or getting married is our personal choice, but it is often our family background that affects our choice. Just as many children living in happy families want to have a happy family, children living in unhappy families are always afraid to form their own families.
I often think of the stars. I envy her and feel sorry for her, but I have more feelings about her life experience. ...
When the star was very young, her biological parents divorced because her father cheated her in the marriage.
Soon after, her father remarried, and the other party was her father's cheating object, more than ten years younger than her father. Soon after, her mother remarried.
Stars live with their grandparents.
Star's mother warned Star that she must be kind to her stepmother so that Star can live a better life. So the stars always call their stepmother.
But it didn't work, because soon after the stepmother's child was born, dad took his new wife and children to do business in other places, leaving Star alone at home. Later, her father gave birth to two children in succession.
Stars always smile and say to me: I am not even a left-behind child. At least the left-behind children can still feel the love of their parents, and I only have their money.
She envies me for having a happy family, which can be seen from her reply to me.
I didn't tell her at that time, in fact, our family was not happy. I have a selfish and unreliable father. Our family often quarrels because my father can't make money. Even if he does, he will lose gambling. ...
This is a sore point in my heart, so I have never mentioned it to outsiders, even my best friend.
Most happy families are similar, but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
The star once secretly asked his father why he cheated in his marriage.
Dad said: Your mother is too strong. Men don't like strong women because there is too much pressure. A gentle, virtuous and sensible woman like your little mother will make men addicted.
Stars often sigh with me: maybe my parents are really inappropriate, and two strong people are doomed to have no good results.
The year before last, she told me that her father cheated on another woman and gave birth to a son. I met that woman, a strong woman, who opened a department store by herself, not as young as her little mother, nor as beautiful as her little mother.
Ten years later, the star asked her father again, why did she cheat in marriage?
Her father said: I like women who are independent and have their own careers. Not a woman who depends on men for everything.
The star smiled. She said: If a man wants to cheat, he can always find various reasons. Moreover, every man has a cheating heart in his heart. The reason why many people don't cheat is because they don't have the courage or ability.
Later, after the star graduated, she traveled to many places and basked in all kinds of beautiful scenery and food in her circle of friends.
Our contact is getting less and less, but I know that she has always been suffering from loss when dealing with feelings. She tried to fall in love several times, but all failed. ...
She said that she is still an unmarried person, and she will be single until she is old. Because her father made her stop believing in love.
But she still loves her father, although he often misses her growth; Although he didn't give her enough fatherly love; Although he didn't set a good example for her; But she still loves him because he is her father.
I know, because I love my father, too, even though he never makes money; Although he always likes playing mahjong, fighting landlords, frying golden flowers and bullfighting. Although I am often angry with him; However, I still love him.
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Write at the end:
I always think of her recently. When I open our dialogue box, I don't know how to say hello.
Looking through the past chat records, I found that we had a long talk all night. I can't help feeling a little sad. Those happy, sad, excited and boring memories are always stranded by us. We are all moving forward, but we have long been separated by the fork in the road of life.
Perhaps, we can never go back to the past, and I can only silently wish her happiness here.