are you enjoying your present life?

are you what you want to be now?

what are your expectations for the future?

what is the possibility of life? How can it be better?

No matter what your answer is now, you should believe that there are always people in this world who are living in their own way.

about? Ah! That's who I am! It is such a book that you can see and believe that you can live the life you like.

Let's actively think, broaden our horizons, increase our wisdom, get inspiration and achieve better ourselves from reading.

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Reader | Five columns

About? Ah! That's who I am! "This book is published by the editorial department of Little Red Book about jointly with Houlang, and there are five columns in one * * *.

"One Life in Ten Thousand" is the core column of the book, interviewing 11 people with different ages, different occupations and certain achievements in their own fields, and truly presenting their career path, professional status and living conditions with readers, and using other people's life experiences to inspire readers who are prepared to take a similar route and have similar hobbies in the future.

For me, it is a great encouragement to see that someone is really living in their favorite way. In our daily life, in the circle that we meet face to face, everyone laments that life is hard and too difficult. Complaining about the big environment of the epidemic and complaining about people and things around us will inevitably be affected if we listen to it too much, and we will feel depressed when we think about our own pressure. However, in reading, let me see more possibilities. It turns out that I can enjoy my present life.

There are four other small columns in the book:

"Come and sit at home", a home with nothing, and a home full of green plants, both of which fascinate me. At that moment, I suddenly feel that minimalism is also excellent, and space and people nourish each other.

"People who know the taste", when we are calm, we are willing to take action to experience, and we can also prepare delicious food for ourselves.

"Walking together", where you can't reach with your feet, you can follow the editor to see the world. Every place has its own history and outstanding characteristics, and it is unique like people.

"spiritual food", movies, books, plays, classic recommendations, feel with your heart and experience the colorful world.

Through different angles, the reader is guided to know himself who is not paid much attention to at ordinary times but is used to it.

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Live | Enjoy the present

People who enjoy life live in the present.

how to live in the present?

Have your own rhythm arrangement, and don't live in other people's eyes.

Zhao Mengsha, curator of the art book fair, said, "I want to be a' time-wasting sinner' with peace of mind." She is the farmer and middle-aged punk in the city.

She doesn't have a concept of time, and she doesn't schedule her time to be full. She will observe plants and slow down the pace. Nature has taught her a lot, and she has broadened her boundaries to participate in the world as much as possible.

Cultivate your hobbies in life, coordinate your work and family, and do your favorite career.

I think my present moment is to do a good job. I don't struggle with boundaries, and I don't want to say anything if I have an idea.

Do what you can in life, such as reading, exercising, keeping in touch with friends, participating in offline social activities occasionally, and having fixed and important things to do every day.

Don't think too much, just do the important things at the moment. Just do what you want silently, and don't have to announce it widely before you get the result.

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Career | Do what you love

1) People who live freely are doing what they love.

Some people have defined their lifelong career from the beginning, such as Shi Du Daner, a post-91s philanthropist who went on an autism expedition.

He began to be a volunteer in college. As soon as he graduated, he devoted himself to the autism project as a lifelong thing. He would make such a choice, which has a lot to do with his family environment.

Shi Du Daner comes from a musical family, his grandfather is a famous conductor, and his mother is also in charge of the affairs related to the orchestra. He studied piano, violin and flute since he was a child, and he helped to record the concert before and after the concert in college.

Later, my mother accidentally learned that music is helpful for the healing of autistic children. My family has a natural advantage in music, and treating autism is a lifelong thing. The whole family supports my mother to devote herself to this cause, and Shidu Daner, like her mother, devotes herself to this charity full-time.

Some people don't set their goals at once, and they explore, reflect and discover in their actions, such as investor Li Haojun.

He worked in banks, logistics companies and consulting companies during his internship. He started his career as an Internet company. He didn't explicitly want to be an investor at the beginning, but now, he says that investment can be done for a lifetime.

He is good at self-reflection, often thinking about himself in front of him, seeking better ways to improve himself, constantly breaking through the dilemma and achieving himself now.

I think many people are the latter. It doesn't matter, if you are willing to explore sincerely and make efforts, you will always have your own world.

No matter what you do, you need to love, be good at and be valuable if you want to do it for a long time. Being valuable will give people a sense of accomplishment, and more importantly, a sense of mission, which will make people self-driven and continue to act.

2) How to persuade parents to support their career?

Xinhui Xiao (Dream Tears) is a top e-sports player.

In general people's cognition, playing games means doing nothing. When asked how he persuaded his parents to support him to take the road of e-sports, he said, "I solved the problem of survival first, and I can support myself by this".

At first, Dream Tears simply liked to play the glory of the king, and never thought that she would become a professional player, nor did she think that e-sports would develop so well.

He was honest and obedient since he was a child. At the age of 17, he suspended his studies and became a professional player. His relatives and friends were particularly opposed, thinking that he had been cheated. Only his parents gave him understanding and trust, which contributed to this decision.

He thinks that his parents didn't object. One important reason is that he was able to earn money and support his own life. If he did what he liked, he couldn't survive, and it was difficult to convince his parents.

I remember the little prince teacher sharing with us in class. When she first gave up her teaching career and went to Wechat business, everyone around her was particularly puzzled and unsupported, including her family.

her parents' idea is: since you want to do small business, you want to do small business. What did I do for you to go to college? We provide you with college education, just to let you take the civil service exam, which is prepared by teachers and stable.

Later, she really earned money and was able to support herself and her family, and her family was more willing to understand and support her career.

After getting a close look at how she works, her father said, I've found that you really can't do this small business without a little culture.

Now, her father helps her with the children, and she concentrates on her career.

the little prince said that the only way to solve the misunderstanding of our family is to make money. After earning money, give it to your family. Don't rely on money and be arrogant. Thank your family for their support.

Parents' original intention is for the good of their children. When they see that you are working hard to make money and have food and clothing, they will feel at ease and naturally stop interfering.

I remember that in recent years, every year, including last week, I received a message from my aunt asking me if I wanted to apply for a public institution. I know they are worried about me, so they don't want to bother asking me every year. Only when I live well and let them see that I am fine will they feel at ease.

3) Have you ever thought that you can influence your parents?

The story of the little prince teacher above is actually a case that he successfully influenced his parents and broke the stereotype of his parents.

Qianzhuang, the founder of pan-psychological brand, and the founder of Know yourself (KY for short) brand, is a person with special opinions.

During her growing up, the biggest external pressure she felt came from her father. Family education is particularly strict. When I was in primary school, I was required to get the first place in the exam. When I was in high school, I also had access control. I had to go home before 6:11 every night. Going out to play was also forbidden. I could only read books and watch dramas at home. I also had a big argument with my father in college.

However, she has been stressing to her father that she should choose her own life, she should pursue it, and she is not afraid of risks. Although there is conflict, with the conflict, parents know her better, and the bank can also feed back some values to them and influence their parents' ideas with her ideas.

All along, we all say that family of origin has a profound influence on us. However, when we really grow up, we have enough energy, a stable mind and a stable core, which will also have an impact on people around us and our families.

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Emotion | How do you handle it?

when we all come into the world, the first sound we make is crying, which is also one of our emotions.

Emotions are born and will accompany us all our lives. How can we manage our emotions and get along with them harmoniously?

Everyone has his own method, and see if there is one like you? Or can we learn from it?

Zhao Mengsha, co-founder of p>abC Art Book Fair, said: The best way to deal with anxiety is to pay more attention to your mental state every day, and don't wait until the signal is particularly obvious. Stop yourself if you are in a bad state, don't force yourself, take time off if you want, even if you are lying at home doing nothing.

Qianzhuang, the founder of Pan-psychological brand, said that she has been receiving psychological counseling since she was six years old, and she has been in contact with the counselor intermittently for more than ten years, and now she still chats every week.

it's not because of anything, but because she thinks it's a very comfortable lifestyle. It is her favorite thing to have someone older than you and who has insight into life, to accompany her regularly, to help sort herself out and analyze herself from the inside out.

Anthony, a lifestyle writer, said that when you have negative emotions, you will eat a good meal, meet your good friends, drink and go out for a walk.

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Everyone gropes for their own effective ways to deal with emotions in life. I find that I don't want to talk when I am emotional, and I can't be alone at the same time, otherwise I will think more and more pessimistic. I must go out, go to nature, go for a walk in the street, move my body, jump rope, run and exercise, which is also a good way to release my emotions.

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Reading | Keep a young mind

How to keep a young mind?

The most effective way to observe the world and people's living conditions and communication styles in different industries is reading.

Hulan, a talk show actor, spends at least 111 hours on reading every month. When he encounters any problems, he will look for what kind of books, serve his life and truly turn them into a ladder of progress.

Charles Munger said: There are no smart people I have met who don't read every day.

In the book, interviewees who have made achievements in these 11 fields also have the habit of continuous input, including reading, watching plays, watching movies, etc., and also share good books and plays.

reading, what books to read varies from person to person, and the environment, ideas and needs are different. You can read whatever you want, with a purpose or just passing the time occasionally. It is also excellent to calm down and enjoy reading time.

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Action | What can I do?

what really brings about change is action, action, action.

what you see is other people's lives, and the inspiration you get turns into real actions, so you can create your own life.

what can I do from now on?

1) Be grateful every day, look at what you have and calm down.

2) Face up to your current situation, face problems directly if you have any, and solve them. Practice according to the calendar and daily list every day, and implement the good habits and things you want to develop one by one.

3) Get into the habit of reading every day and write about your life. Reading in silence broadens your horizons. There are many things you don't know in this world, and ignorance can easily lead to prejudice. Writing keeps the original intention. I write my heart by hand to add some temperature, which is also a hobby of mine.

Write at the end

Meet a good book, meet a colorful and full of possibilities, and inspire a yearning life.

Read other people's life stories, reflect on yourself now, keep your love and vitality, go to yourself that you want to be and live the life you want to live.

please remember, no matter what life is like now, you and I will always have a choice, choose a relaxed and happy life, choose the life experience we want from the heart, just choose and do it.

now start thinking actively: what kind of yourself are you (me)? What will you be like in the future?

I hope we can all be what we like and the life that live high wants.