Many people are thinking about a question, what is the purpose of marriage? Maybe different people will give different answers. Some people think that marriage is to make their love blossom and bear fruit, and marriage is the end of love; Some people think that marriage is to spend a lifetime with one person, have children, and have someone to accompany you when you are old.

In fact, everyone gets married for different purposes. The only thing that is the same is that all married people want to have a happy marriage.

Marriage is made up of men and women. It is always said that men need women's discipline in marriage. Many married women take this sentence seriously. Every married woman wants to turn a man into what she wants.

In fact, women transform men and men transform women. In the final analysis, it is just a run-in between men and women, and there is no real problem of who transforms who.

If everyone wants to reform each other, it will be a fruitless war. Think about it, love itself is transformation, because transformation without love is futile, and with love, transformation becomes redundant.

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What do women fear most in marriage? I think it is probably an irresponsible husband and an unreasonable mother-in-law. These two points, in a marriage, are simply women's nightmares.

In the final analysis, marriage is still between a woman and a man, that is, between husband and wife. When there are differences or even contradictions between husband and wife, how to solve them becomes the most important thing.

And I found many contradictions in marriage, most women want to solve them, and many men will choose to escape. Maybe they subconsciously just think that their wife is unreasonable. This idea is actually not good.

Actively face contradictions, communicate with the other half and find solutions. This is what a responsible man should do in marriage.

In the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the attitude of men is equally important. It can even determine whether the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be resolved. But in real life, few men can do this.

In fact, many men have some male chauvinism, thinking that since their wives are married to themselves, they should listen to themselves in everything. Filial piety is also a matter of course. But this idea is obviously wrong.

Not to mention that men and women have long been equal in today's era, it is unnatural for a daughter-in-law not to be filial to her in-laws, because her in-laws did not raise her, and the responsibility lies with the man himself.

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When a woman marries a male chauvinist, she will be very passive in the face of the relationship between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, because no matter what she does, her husband-in-law will find fault. This kind of life is not pleasant.

Kobayashi used to be such a hot day.

Xiao Lin is famous among her friends for being virtuous and gentle. She has a good temper and gets along with everyone, so she has many friends. Everyone is wondering which man will have the honor to marry her.

Fate arrival is wonderful. Kobayashi meets Liu Bin, a tall and strong man. Xiao Lin likes this strong man very much because she feels very safe. In addition, Liu Bin was kind to her, so they soon got together.

No one expected that two people could finally get together. Because everyone you know knows that Liu Bin is very masculine and always has a condescending attitude towards women. Many women can't stand this, but Kobayashi can stand it and agrees to marry him.

There is not much difference between the two families. Each family took out some money to buy a house for two people and moved in after they got married. Started married life.

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At first, Kobayashi was satisfied with his life. Although Liu Bin is a little male chauvinist, it's not bad for her. However, Xiao Lin is gentle and can tolerate Liu Bin's bad temper. Generally speaking, married life is still happy.

But this happy life didn't last long. Although they didn't live with their in-laws after marriage, their mother-in-law would come to visit them every once in a while. Many times, Xiaolin just came home from work, and she would see her mother-in-law sitting in the living room with a serious face.

Xiaolin's mother-in-law is a strong woman, and she is used to saying nothing at home. Originally, she didn't agree with her son to move out after marriage, but it was difficult for him to agree. But she is not at ease, so she will come to stay with her son for a while every few days. As a result, she was even more unhappy.

Because this house is dirtier than she thought, she thinks Xiao Lin is a lazy woman and doesn't do housework at all. Can your son live a good life with such a woman?

Sure enough, less than half a year later, her mother-in-law called the couple and expressed her dissatisfaction. And she also decided to live in it for a period of time and teach Xiao Lin how to be a qualified wife.

Liu Bin has no objection. Although gentle Kobayashi felt a little uncomfortable, she thought her mother-in-law was doing them good and agreed.

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My mother-in-law showed her strength as soon as she moved in. Everything at home, big or small, should be listened to by her. Moreover, she also asked both of them to give her a unified salary, saying that it was to teach them how to manage money.

Liu Bin did so. He told Xiao Lin that his mother wouldn't stay here for long, so he gave it to her first so as not to make her sad. Xiao Lin listened to Liu Bin and handed in his salary.

Next, Kobayashi's life began to be difficult. My mother-in-law is like a coach, standing beside her every day and watching her do housework. If she doesn't do well, she will be reprimanded.

And I only give Xiaolin 1000 yuan a month to buy food every day. Xiao Lin can't even afford new clothes. On the other hand, Liu Bin's mother-in-law did not restrict him from spending money. Every time he asks for money, she gives it to him When Xiaolin asks for money, she will let her mother-in-law complain for a while.

Xiaolin thought her mother-in-law would leave soon, but she didn't expect to wait for more than half a year.

Kobayashi has been tortured by her mother-in-law for six months. But every time I complain to Liu Bin, his male chauvinism makes Xiao Lin feel chilling. He always said, that's my mother. She did it for our own good. Can't you learn? Later, Kobayashi and he had little in common.

If it weren't for that, Xiao Lin might not have made up his mind to divorce Liu Bin.

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That's because of Kobayashi's salary, because Kobayashi took a few days off last month, deducted the Man Qin Prize and some subsidies, and his salary was reduced by 500 yuan. When her mother-in-law received the transfer from Kobayashi, her face changed.

She found Xiaolin and said strangely, "Daughter-in-law, aren't you happy to give me my salary these days?" I'm telling you, I don't want your money. I saved it for you. It's in the bank. If you are unhappy, just say so. "

Xiaolin was puzzled by her mother-in-law's training, so she asked her mother-in-law what was going on.

My mother-in-law continued: "The salary you transferred to me today is 500 yuan less. Remember, when you marry into our family, you are a member of my family. We agreed not to save private money. Did you save the money and secretly give it to your parents? Your parents, I know, have pensions and don't need you to raise them! " After that, she added in a low voice: "It's impossible to prevent, impossible to prevent."

After listening to her mother-in-law's words, Xiao Lin broke out, no matter how good her temper was. These days, her resentment made her hysterical: "I tell you, this is my salary, and I can spend it how I want." I have never seen a mother-in-law like you as your son's home. I've had enough. Remember, I won't wait on you. I will divorce your son tomorrow! "

Xiaolin's outbreak shocked her mother-in-law, and Xiaolin ignored it and packed it directly back to her parents' house. Later, with the support of his parents, he divorced Liu Bin.

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Many times, the mother-in-law's self-righteousness will ruin her son's marriage. But she always thinks she means well, but she has done something wrong.

In fact, in my opinion, all the mother-in-law who excessively interfere with her son's marriage and deliberately make things difficult for her daughter-in-law to stand out are all ill-intentioned.

Those old people who are a little more reasonable will know that this is their son's marriage, not their own. You can't interfere at will. But in real life, there are always mothers who do good things for their sons, but they do harm to their sons.

What marriage needs is silence between husband and wife, excluding mother-in-law and mother. Rushing in will only make the marriage worse, but it is better to let go, leave a good impression on the daughter-in-law and give the son a good marriage.

If you want a happy marriage, husband and wife should also do their mother-in-law's homework.