Author | Ai Secondhand

When Angie was 4 years old, she was watching TV with her father Sha Yi at home. Unexpectedly, there was a kissing scene on TV. Sha Yi quickly said, "Angie, go and pour a glass of water for my father.

Angie has gone to hell.

Unexpectedly, after a while, the kissing scene appeared again, so Sha Yi had to say to his son, "Go, pour another glass of water for Dad!

Angie quit this time and asked Sha Yi, "Dad, are you thirsty when you see others kissing?"

I almost burst into tears when I saw the conversation between the father and son.

A netizen commented: "I envy Angie for joking with her father. If I talk to my dad like that, he will hit me!

That's right. Many parents think that their children are rude, and interpersonal communication may hit a wall everywhere in the future.

as everyone knows, "neither big nor small" is a potential advantage of children.

Sha Yi took two sons to participate in Where is Dad Going, and Angie's performance was dubbed by netizens as "Son with Dad".

When she got up in the morning, Angie dressed herself quickly without waiting for her clumsy dad's help, and then went to brush her teeth and wash her face, completely ignoring her dad's existence.

Sha Yi couldn't peel an egg, so he peeled it and brought out all the yolks. Angie squinted and frowned, educating Dad: "Your eggs are not as good as mine!

so, how is this child who is "neither big nor small" with his father growing up?

he is independent and brave. Angie wanted to climb a steep slope, but Sha Yi felt it was dangerous and wouldn't let him climb it. So Angie thought of a reason to convince Sha Yi: "Liang Zi is younger than me, and we can do it.". Finally, the father and son successfully climbed up.

he is warm and kind. When the companion can't fold the quilt into tofu, he volunteered: "You can't, I'll make it for you. From how to roll the paper to how to fold it in half, he did it very well.

he is sensible and responsible. In the program, I kept on protecting my younger brother Xiaoyuer, helping him put on socks and shoes, helping him when he got off the bus, and carefully wiping his cheeks ... < P > I was really warmed by this little boy!

Educator Suhomlinski said:

Children should be allowed to do what they try to do when they grow up, and give them a free development environment to help them grow up better.

It's not that the "no big or small" children don't know the meaning of respect. In the process of making bold attempts and flying freely, they have accumulated independent ability and brave strength.

Yesterday, I was thanked by a parent.

It turned out that my daughter was "neither big nor small", which avoided her daughter's embarrassing experience of "wetting her pants".

At the end of class, Lele, my daughter's deskmate, wanted to go to the toilet, but the teacher said, "Wait a little longer, class will be over soon.

Seeing Lele's face flushed, my daughter immediately lit up her loud voice: "Teacher, please let her go, the living can't let the urine suffocate!

the teacher quickly agreed.

The parents of female classmates praised my daughter: "Your children are really excellent, and they dare to speak.

I couldn't help but stand tall: "Haha, this child has always dared to speak since he was a child, except that the sentence was a little rough, and there is nothing wrong with it!

In our family, our daughter has the full right to speak. Although she is young, she has the right to speak on an equal footing with us. As a result, my daughter showed strong expressive ability at an early age.

First of all, I dare to speak. My daughter dares to express all her inner thoughts.

I remember when my daughter was four or five years old, I slapped her ass twice for disobedience, and she complained to her father in a big way, with an exaggerated expression: "Mom hit me, please control your wife, it's inhuman!"

in the shopping mall, I saw a child being beaten by his mother and crying there, so I went up to the mother and said, "You are a bad mother, and a good mother doesn't beat children."

The second is "being able to talk". My daughter can always express exactly what she wants to express.

In order to let me take her to the movies, an idea came to my eyes in a blink:

"Mom, I seem to be going to lose sleep tonight. I have never lost sleep before! "

" why?

"I'm worried that no one will take me to the movies at night ..."

I'm going to be late for work. When I grabbed my backpack and rushed out, my daughter excitedly said, "Run, mom! Because of my daughter's words, I feel less nervous in a hurry.

Finally, she knows how to solve problems through expression.

When my daughter was in kindergarten, there was a dance program in the Children's Day class that needed cheating. My daughter didn't want to practice, so she said to the teacher, "Teacher, I don't like dancing. My mother won't force me to practice, so don't force me. If you want me to practice, I'll cry. If I cry, I won't coax anyone!

it didn't work.

the next day, my daughter went to the "soft grinding" teacher again, pointing to her broken mouth, and said, "Teacher, don't make me dance. You see, I get angry. I love getting sick when I get angry. I can't get up when I get sick. Isn't that a waste of dancing?

The teacher was amused, and finally she took part in the recitation instead.

Only when children are willing to allow them to be "no big or small" will children not be afraid of authority and shackles.

Only children who dare to express themselves reasonably and are good at solving problems can go forward bravely in the journey of life, and even turn the tables against the wind.

Wang Zengqi, a famous writer, grew up in a "no big or small" family. His father was easy-going and loved playing with children, so he was called "the head of children" by his family.

Wang Zengqi, who grew up in such a family atmosphere, has experienced many setbacks and bumps in his life, but he has always maintained a calm and broad-minded attitude and made outstanding achievements in various fields such as literature.

influenced by his father, he thinks that his parents are awesome and his children are "straight in writing", which is the most boring.

Wang Zengqi is an "old man" in his family, and even his granddaughter and grandson call him that. When the granddaughter doesn't like grandpa Wang Zengqi's vernacular articles, just tell grandpa, "No, because there are no words.

Wang Zengqi likes cooking. When cooking, my son will follow, and he will do anything without interference. After his father's death, his son Wang Lang inherited the family tradition and became a famous food writer.

Behind every "no big or small" child, there is a family that doesn't pretend to be deep, and children who grow up in such a family are often excellent.

So, how to raise an excellent child who is equal, free and "no big or small"?

the trick is two words: respect.

A few days ago, Chen Kun's son celebrated his birthday, and Chen Kun wrote a long article to celebrate his son's birthday, calling him Mr. Chen Zunyou. I hope my son will love and respect himself, and sign: Love you and respect your father.

For more than ten years, Chen Kun has been doing the same. He has always put his children on an equal footing with himself, respected his nature and preferences, and encouraged his personality development.

In this growing environment, Chen Zunyou has grown into a very good child. Chen Kun once proudly said, "My son is great in every way.

As Ji Bolun said, respecting children is the warmest parenting.

Respect for children is manifested in:

Give them firm support when they try bravely;

When a child encounters setbacks, give him warm-hearted encouragement;

when the child has the wrong way, give him the right guidance;

When the child expresses loudly, give him gentle listening ...

Give the child enough space and the right to speak, and the child will have the courage to dare and be willing to speak. The child who is "neither big nor small" in the eyes of adults is often the child who has gained more freedom.

In the face of that "no big or small" child, parents can be more tolerant and guide, and create a space for them to grow up freely.

in this way, they can bloom the splendor of life and write a wonderful future!