Lead: "When a man divorces for you, what is your first feeling?" Many people may say without hesitation: "moved!" -naturally, someone will marry him because he is "moved". This is the so-called "extramarital affairs are made into positive results". "Do you dare to marry a man who divorced for you?" When a man abandons his marriage and leaves his wife just for you, it shows to some extent that he is a man who lacks responsibility. Therefore, when you face such a touch, I suggest that you might as well refuse to be touched first, and then ask yourself: Can such a man marry? Can you marry a man who divorces you with six tricks to build slender legs? Oral story 1: After she became a full member, she still carried a fox's name on her back. I thought that I only appreciated him. When I was at school, I liked reading all kinds of love novels. In my spare time, I always quietly look forward to my future love. In my imagination, he should be a "Prince Charming", handsome, romantic, steady, capable and considerate ... In the eyes of my classmates, I am an excellent girl, not only with excellent grades, but also handsome and lovely. There are naturally many boys who pursue me, but I just regard them as "buddies", because in my eyes, they are just young boys, which is very different from the "Prince Charming" in my heart. Seeing that one boy was rejected by me, many students said that my eyes were too high, and they even looked forward to seeing what kind of boys could impress me. In a blink of an eye, four years have passed since the university, but this boy has never appeared. With my grades and the help of my relatives, I found a good job smoothly after graduation. I was 22 years old that year. Once, I went to a friend's office and met my friend's boss, Jun Hao (a pseudonym) by chance. That year, Junhao was 32 years old and was a department manager. He is not handsome, but he is somewhat manly. The way he arranges work for his subordinates is capable and calm. At noon, my friend invited me to dinner. At the gate of the company, I met Junhao who was going to buy fast food, so the three of us went to a western restaurant together. At the dinner table, Junhao chatted with us kindly and humorously. Junhao loves to travel, and the anecdotes he told me when traveling around the world made me listen with relish. Junhao also has a lot of research on food, which makes me, who also likes food, quickly find the same language with him. After this meal, Jun Hao and I chatted very speculatively, and we left each other's phone numbers. Soon after, I had some trouble at work. Because I had no experience, I not only failed to do the task assigned by the leader, but also inadvertently offended an old colleague. In the dissatisfaction of the leaders and the exclusion of colleagues, I was a little at a loss. I asked my classmates and friends for help, but they are all newcomers who have just started working. It's ok to listen to my complaints, but there are no practical good ideas. It suddenly occurred to me that Junhao, maybe he can help me. Holding the mood of trying, I dialed Junhao's phone. Junhao happened to be busy. After hearing about my purpose, he said to call me back. I was a little lost, thinking that he was perfunctory. But what can you do? We only met once. In the evening, my mobile phone suddenly rang, and there came the voice of Jun Hao's apology. Junhao said that he was too busy today to call me back until now. I poured out all my troubles and grievances. Junhao listened to me patiently, analyzed the problems I faced one by one, and told me the measures I should take. That night, Junhao accompanied me to talk that my mobile phone was dead, and the knot in my heart melted in his warm voice. Under the guidance of Junhao, I quickly solved the problems at work and improved my relationship with my colleagues. For Junhao, my heart is full of gratitude and appreciation. I fell in love with him, and I waited for 8 years. Because of gratitude, I invited Junhao to have a meal. Soon, Junhao invited me back. After a while, we became good friends who talked about everything. Watching Jun Hao and I get closer and closer, my friend kindly reminded me: "Jun Hao has a family, so you'd better not get too close to him. If you fall in love with him, you will be finished. " I don't think so: "No. I know he has a wife and children. How can I fall in love with him? I just admire him as a big brother. " Junhao's wife and children are in a county town far away from Haikou. Because of the long distance, Junhao only goes home once a month or two. When I am free, Junhao often invites me to play with some friends. Looking for food in the streets of Haikou is a reserved program for our group. Unconsciously, Junhao became the person I often think of in my heart. When I find something delicious, I will definitely invite him to taste it together as soon as possible. I am always willing to tell him about the happiness and troubles I have encountered in my life and work. Every weekend, the time to travel with him is always the happiest. An aunt tried to introduce me to her boyfriend, but I refused. Aunt smiled and asked, "Do you already have a boyfriend?" I quickly answered "no", but my mind flashed the shadow of Jun Hao. That night, I lost sleep. I found that I fell in love with someone I shouldn't have loved, which was unfortunately said by my friends. I am a traditional girl, and I am very shameless about the third party. So, I decided to leave quietly before this relationship that should not have happened officially. For a week in a row, I didn't contact Junhao. When he called, I either didn't answer it or said "too busy" and hung up. That week, my heart has been empty, and from time to time there was a painful pain for no reason. The following week, Junhao didn't call. I should feel relaxed, but I can't stop crying secretly. I thought to myself, "Maybe it's just my self-love, and my departure has no effect on Junhao." After work that day, I walked out of the unit door, only to see Junhao standing not far away with a big bouquet of perfume lilies. Seeing me, Junhao smiled: "I went to Kunming on business. The flowers there are the most beautiful. I think you must like them. I picked each one myself. " At that moment, my determination to get hard was soft again, and I really couldn't say no to Junhao. That night, Junhao confessed to me. He said he knew why I was avoiding him, and he wanted to take the opportunity of business trip to forget me, but he couldn't. When he saw the lily in Kunming, he thought of me, because I was the beautiful and holy lily in his heart. I cried: "what can you do if you love me?" You are married! " Junhao held me in his arms and silently wiped away tears for me. I want to forget Junhao again and again, but Junhao is getting deeper and deeper in my heart. Finally, I gave up the struggle in my heart and became Junhao's girlfriend. According to friends, Junhao's wife is a virtuous woman with little education. She takes care of the elderly and children in her hometown without any regrets, even though Junhao seldom comes home. Junhao said that he didn't love his wife for a long time because he was separated from many, but he couldn't bear to hurt her with divorce. I believe that there is real love between Jun Hao and me. I am willing to wait and give him time to solve the problem. However, being an "underground lover" is really too painful. Because of Junhao's married status, we can only get along as ordinary friends in front of others. On holidays, Junhao has to go home, and I can only watch him find another woman. Everyone I know asked me if I was in love. I insist that I don't have a boyfriend. Because once you say you have a boyfriend, your friends will definitely want to know each other, but how can I introduce Junhao to them? In order to be with me, Junhao finally got up the courage to mention the divorce, but it was strongly opposed by the whole family, so things had to be put on hold for the time being. Looking at Jun Hao's face, I really can't bear to force him any more, so I can only wait silently. Year after year passed, and I gradually became an old girl in the eyes of others. At the end of love, there is only a silent ending. My family and relatives always care about my lifelong events, and I can only smile and say a word. Looking at their incomprehensible eyes, I can't say how bitter I am. Who knows the anxiety in my heart How much I want to be with my beloved aboveboard, how much I want to put on a wedding dress and marry him, but all this is so far away. Because of anxiety and fear, I quarreled with Junhao again and again. Every time we said we were going to break up, but in the end we got back together. Over the years, we have long been in the same boat, and no one can live without anyone. In a blink of an eye, eight years later, I still remain single on the surface, waiting for that hopeless marriage. At the beginning of this year, Junhao finally got divorced. This is the result I have been looking forward to for eight years, but I can't laugh. For eight years, I felt guilty about the woman I had never met. I imagined her crying and turning away, and my heart was particularly heavy. These eight years of waiting have exhausted me ... Junhao and I may finally get married, but the road ahead is still muddy. Junhao's mother hates me as a rumored "fox" and insists on not accepting me as her daughter-in-law. Junhao's daughter is even more hostile to me. I tried to touch them again and again with gifts and smiling faces, but they turned me away. I can understand their feelings, but who can understand me? In the eyes of most people, I just brought it on myself. I would like to be a good daughter-in-law and a good stepmother, but will they give me this chance? I just can't imagine, even if I marry Junhao, how can my life be happy if they refuse to accept me all the time? I feel more tired than ever. Whenever I despair of the future, I also think about whether I should break up with Junhao. However, we have been together for 8 years, and I have already regarded him as the other half of my life. Breaking up will be as painful as cutting meat. What's more, I'm 3 years old. If I leave Junhao, will I have a chance to find a new emotional home? Looking back on the road I have traveled, I really feel regret. There is nothing wrong with my desperate love for someone, but when I fell in love with a married man, I embarked on a road doomed to be full of pain. Now I seem to have entered a dead end. I can't go any further. My eyes are dark. Oral story 2: I can't keep it well when my lover turns positive. Whenever I walk alone in an empty community, there is always an unspeakable loneliness or sadness. This is the scene after I quit my job and stayed at home for half a year. My full-time wife and girlfriend chattered on the phone and said, I envy you, happy little woman. At first, I said it was boring. But the response was "I don't know if I am blessed", and I understood that to others, I was another kind of show-off. Therefore, if anyone talks about it again, I will keep my mouth shut and let them guess. Xinyuan should have the same idea, thinking that I am the happiest little wife. Every day, I sleep until I wake up naturally, tidy up my room a little, then watch boring soap operas on TV, occasionally go out for a walk and call Xinyuan at the right time. Then I buy food, cook, count the minutes, wait for him to get off work, give him a warm hug and start dinner ... I used to be always in a hurry, for my livelihood and for the future, and I have endless things to do, waiting for me forever. Now, suddenly stopped, with a lot of time, it is difficult to adapt. That day, after dinner, Xinyuan and I watched TV together. I said, Xinyuan, you chat with me. He turned to ask me, what to talk about? I said, whatever, anything. He asked, what's the matter with you, are you uncomfortable? I shook my head, no, I just want to talk, chat, anything. He was surprised to see my eyes. He must want to say, you are so happy now, what else do you want? His words didn't come out, but I could feel them. He always sleeps soundly, while I often suffer from insomnia. Looking at the dark ceiling, my eyes were dry, and I counted the goats helplessly, one, two ... I turned to hug him, and the warm person was by my side, but why did I feel my heart was far away? Xinyuan joked that it must be too idle and boring. He didn't realize that I tried so hard to find a topic and wanted to chat with him because I was lonely. A whole day, for me, is so long. Sometimes I call Xinyuan just to ask him whether he wants pork belly or tenderloin, or whether he likes something as trivial as watermelon or strawberry. He said, it's all good, it's all good, you can buy it at will. I know that he cherishes time like gold and can't wait to end this conversation, but I am reluctant to go. Who else can I bother besides calling him? This appearance is a little neurotic, isn't it? I want to laugh when I think about it once in a while. But for Xinyuan's liking, I am willing to stay at home, be his gentle wife, stay in this room when he goes to work, meet him at the first time when he comes home and give him a big hug. Before he got married, he said that this is the married life he wants and the wife he wants. Gentle and virtuous, waiting for him forever. Speaking of which, maybe many people won't like our beginning. When we met, he was still divorced. I reluctantly became a third party. I still can't remember exactly when and under what circumstances I suddenly became such an embarrassing role. At that time, I was a small editor in a newspaper, and my life was difficult. Everyone had to finish his own work and a certain number of advertising tasks. In order to survive, we can only do this, but we can run for a long time without landing. When I was disheartened, a friend said that he had a friend named Xinyuan, who worked as an advertising company and knew a lot of customers. He could help me introduce ... This thing was finally done, and Xinyuan really helped. When I met him, it was in a spring afternoon. He and my friend were waiting in the teahouse, wearing a light blue casual shirt and navy blue trousers. He looked only thirty years old, energetic and meticulous, and showed a pleasing elegance. My friend introduced me, but he didn't embarrass me. He just joked that you had to invite me to dinner after this was done! I nodded, of course! That day, I talked a lot. Xinyuan was very talkative and talked for a long time. Occasionally watching him shake his head, I secretly laugh. My friend said that Xinyuan has seen a lot of the world, so you should listen to him more and learn more. I nodded. Later? Later, I invited him to dinner as promised to thank him. Later, he began to send me flowers, a rose a day, which was handed to me by the boy of the courier company in the envious eyes of his colleagues; Later, we watched movies and had midnight snack together, which was similar to all couples. My feelings for him have accumulated little by little. At first, I didn't have that kind of heartache, just because I accumulated unconsciously, and I don't know how deep and thick the feelings were hidden. In the end, I couldn't contain them. When I learned that he had a wife, I felt that this hateful life was really like a movie, boring and melodramatic. I, on the other hand, am the most hateful and hateful third party who destroys marriage by brazenly being a few years younger. We were having dinner that day, and he went to the bathroom on the way. When his cell phone rang, I answered it for him. There's a woman over there, she asked. Where's Xinyuan? I said, I went to the bathroom. What can I do for you? She smiled, it's nothing, just ask him, I'm leaving, whether he will come to see me off or not ... I asked, who are you, and I can tell him. She replied, I am his wife! How dare you stay with him if you don't even know this, silly girl. Then, she hung up. I think I was dizzy at that time. I left the restaurant with a sad face, walked for a long time, and walked back to my residence. Xinyuan, he has been waiting there. He held me almost numb and said that we are getting a divorce and she is going abroad.