It is impossible for a person to be stress-free. If the above judgment is affirmative, it will be a wake-up call and a sign of mental unhealthy under pressure. If you want to change this situation, you can take the following measures to ease your mood and relieve the accumulated pressure.

(1): Facing the reality, real life is extremely complicated. Everyone has his own ideals and ambitions and demands on himself. However, this requirement should be based on reality and ability. People feel frustrated in their work and life, often because their self-goals are difficult to achieve, and they feel inferior and disappointed. Too high expectations will only make people mistakenly think that they are always unlucky and depressed all day long. Some people are "perfectionists" who want perfection in everything. And everything in the world cannot be perfect. Therefore, we should adjust our life goals, objectively evaluate things and ourselves, be complacent, frustrated and calm, and have a normal heart to face success and failure calmly while making positive efforts, so as to make ourselves feel comfortable. On the other hand, everyone has their own temperament, character and strengths and weaknesses, and others will not cater to your wishes, just as you may not meet others' requirements yourself. The higher you ask others, the greater your dissatisfaction will be. If the requirements for others are low, then you can easily be satisfied if you meet your wishes a little. So, don't be hard on yourself or others.

(2): catharsis: catharsis is a way to discharge the inner pressure so as to prevent the body and mind from being hit and destroyed. By catharsis of the inner depression, anger and grief, psychological pressure can be alleviated or eliminated, mental breakdown can be avoided, and psychological balance can be restored. "Emotion is invisible" will not only aggravate the trouble of bad emotions, but also lead to some psychosomatic diseases. Therefore, it is a good way to self-adjust to channel and vent bad emotions. An athlete was depressed after being reprimanded by the coach, and soon caused stomach trouble, and the drug treatment did not work. Psychologists suggested that he hit the ball hard in the face of the coach during training, and his stomach trouble really improved after adopting this method. This kind of self-catharsis method, which does not harm others and is conducive to resolving bad emotions, can be used for reference. However, this venting should be reasonable. It is not advisable to simply beat and smash, yell and scream, take it out on others, find scapegoats (husbands, wives, children, colleagues), or complain and say strange things. Venting should be civilized, elegant and humanistic communication. Some people say: "a happiness shared by two people will become two happiness;" A pain shared by two people is only half pain. " If you bury your worries and pains in your heart, it will only aggravate your own worries. If you pour out your worries, worries, pains and sorrows to your relatives and friends, even if he can't solve them for you, your troubles or pains seem to be only half of them if you get sympathy or comfort from your friends. At this time, your mood will feel comfortable. When it's time to cry, you should have a good cry, release the accumulated energy and adjust the balance of your body.

(3) Attention transfer: Its principle is to create a new excitement center in the cerebral cortex, and to induce, offset or dilute the original dominant excitement center (that is, the original bad mood center) through mutual induction. When you have an argument with someone, leave this environment immediately to play ball or watch TV; When sadness and sadness occur, avoid an object first, don't think about it or forget it, and you can get rid of it. When you are not in Yu Nu, you can relax your nervousness through activities such as sports, entertainment and walking. Consciously changing the subject or doing something else to distract attention can ease the mood. For example, Sima Qian suffered terribly from castration and wrote Historical Records, which was "the swan song of historians, leaving Sao without rhyme", while Goethe wrote the world famous book young werther because of his lovelorn experience. We should get in touch with things that are pleasant and make people laugh. Avoid and forget some unpleasant things. Instead of "unremitting struggle, diligent pursuit", and finally "the clothes are getting wider and wider", it is better to be smart and do something happy.