In the face of your illness, life will be much easier if you don't escape, don't pretend and show your truest heart. Indeed, without disguise and pressure, the spirit will relax and help to heal. It's too painful to get sick anyway. What's the use of that worthless face
Many patients are afraid to tell others that they are ill. In fact, they are afraid that others will not understand and think they are monsters. Therefore, the more they are afraid of others knowing, the more they care about others' words and eyes, which eventually leads to paranoia and insanity.
I am serious. People live for themselves. Don't worry about what others think of you. It's all someone else's business Only you know whether you are happy or not. Why is pretending to live so tired?
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Life is full of emotions, many things make people have mixed feelings, many things make you reluctant, and many people make you like or hate. Anyway, do you accept these people, these things and these things with an open mind? But not everyone can do it, including myself. I remember when I graduated from college and two years later, many things were suffocating and uncomfortable, but I pretended to be happy in front of my classmates and nothing happened in front of my parents. I am a real depressed patient who pretends to be happy.
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At that time, my family was poor, such as graduation party, graduation karaoke, graduation trip, graduation photo and so on. , all need money. My parents raised me so big, so I tried to refuse them. I was afraid that my classmates and friends would look at me differently. So I want to find a job quickly and reduce the burden on my parents. So I confided my troubles in my life to my friends, worried that I would not find a job after graduation, and later found that my friends were gradually leaving me. So I pointed my finger at my boyfriend, and then I kept quarreling and gradually ignored me. Obviously, I am the young dissatisfied housewife, no! So, I disguised myself, happy, calm, without distress, without too many words, and I gradually appeared. . .
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Later, I looked calm. If I smiled, it was like a happy smile. At that time, I was very concerned about other people's opinions, often suppressing my own thoughts, not arguing with others and not expressing myself; I will also suppress my anger and suppress it to my heart; I will also suppress my work, afraid of being known and afraid to share it with others. Resignation is also pretending to go to work, afraid of parents' worry and others' strange eyes. I pretend to be happy and live a healthy life. My classmates, colleagues and even myself think I am a happy person. Gradually, depression came to me. I was angry with people and things who were depressed, quiet and escaped from real life. I was alone. . .
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In the blink of an eye, several years have passed, and now I am much better. During that time, I quietly searched online for ways to treat psychological problems and depression, and found some ways to communicate with people. I also tried running, hiking and so on, but it didn't work. Until I met her who was equally calm, me and Xiaoping, who just entered the company. She told me her similar experience with me. Xiao Pingzi said: "People who are depressed will not be stimulated by depression. She had read Haizi's Facing the Sea, Spring Blossoms. Later, after learning about Haizi's experience of lying on the track, she suffered from depression and the idea came into her mind. I thought it would be lighter, but it stopped. She said that life needs to know how to be grateful, think more about the beauty of life, and can't always stay in that melancholy circle to bind yourself. That's called getting out of the cycle of melancholy, and the wind is light and the clouds are light. "
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Later, we became good friends, confided in each other and faced the truth of life together. We worked hard together and won the appreciation of the leaders; We also bought food and cooked together, climbed mountains together, cried or laughed at the theatre together, and gradually fell in love with life and fireworks.
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It is precisely because we shed our disguise and fell in love with life that people in life gradually fell in love with us. Until I met my boyfriend and later left the company, we were able to face the truth of life and stop pretending. We live with a good and positive attitude. Therefore, depressed people pretend to be happy, but as long as we give life a smile, life will give us a smile!
It will be worse than others. When I was inadvertently told that I was deeply depressed, the whole circle of friends exploded. The first thing I said when I contacted my friend was-even if you say that you are terminally ill, I believe it, but how can you be depressed ... In fact, people with depression will force themselves to pretend to be alone, and all kinds of messy ideas will emerge one after another.
People with depression will not only pretend to be happy, but also pretend to live and work normally.
How does depression come about? Depression is related to self-depression. Depression almost hides the true self and shows the false self in the eyes of outsiders. Obviously, depressed people are not happy, they will be even more unhappy, because they have to pretend their emotions.
The reason for pretending to be happy is that depression has been stigmatized by society. In a sense, depression belongs to a vulnerable group, which is the existence of exclusion and discrimination. Everyone is secretive and unwilling to talk about such an "inappropriate" topic.
Imagine that people with depression have many inner conflicts and are not recognized by society and family. What can ta do? I can only pretend to be a normal person to ensure that I will not be discriminated against and hated.
We should be more tolerant and understanding of depression.
You can often see people with bright and lasting smiles in your life. If they are not strong inside, they should be depressed patients or potential depressed patients.
These people usually feel depressed and angry in private. What they show to outsiders and hope to be recognized by outsiders is exactly what they lack in their hearts.
Not all people with depression are like this. Depression has various causes and manifestations. Some people will win the sympathy of others in a tragic way to gain acceptance; Others present positive images to please the outside world.
We will also find that some people in life, especially virtuous and capable people, are indignant in private, and are not as humiliated as they seem. These people need to be alert to depression.
I have a friend who is like this. On the surface, she has a bright smile, is capable and intelligent, treats people kindly and respects the elderly. When many old people talk about her, they will praise her and hope to have such a daughter or daughter-in-law. But in private, she not only taught me how to make all kinds of snacks and told me how she was liked by all kinds of people, but also complained about her husband and worried about her children. The content of the speech is sometimes full of confidence, and sometimes it is seriously inadequate. I'm worried about her because this split personality is very dangerous, but when it comes to this, she says she is confident. Recently, she is really sad, saying that her mother-in-law is not as good to herself as before, and she is worried that speaking ill of herself outside will damage her image.
These people are like this, they care too much about other people's eyes. In order to make these eyes friendly, they tried their best, but "pretending" could not last long after all. Therefore, these eyes will soon be full of hostility and degradation. Let these happy people fall from the peak of happiness to the abyss-the abyss of the soul.
In short, these people who pretend to be happy and perfect are usually because they look down on themselves and are afraid that the outside world will look down on them. So I pretended to be recognized.
In order to get out of the predicament, they need to break the persistent pursuit of praise from the outside world and break their false disguise. Realize your own pure and perfect authenticity.
In fact, a person's true self is more beautiful than pretending to be beautiful. People with depression who like to pretend need to realize this.
Depressed people will unconsciously pretend to be happy in front of others. Depression patients themselves have a problem, that is, negative thinking about people and things in the real world. This kind of negative thinking can't be shown in front of people, because most depression patients are smart and sensitive, but they seem a little dull and uneasy. It is only because they can't sort out and summarize in time when they receive a lot of external information, and they can't judge the priorities of things, but they have to keep their best state in front of people. The perfect way is to seek a sense of identity and be afraid of being disappointed in yourself, thus enhancing self-confidence. However, negative thinking lingers on the branches like a snake, eyeing it, and it seems that it will pounce at any time, which makes people feel helpless.
People with depression pretend to be happy in front of outsiders, which is a kind of self-defense psychology. They don't want people to feel unhappy. Their main manifestations are depression, loss of fun and lack of interest. There are often anxiety and anxiety, weakened will and behavior, and slow thinking. The concept and behavior of self-harm. Cognitive disorders such as memory loss and inattention. Abnormal appetite and sleep, etc. Mental symptoms such as hallucinations and delusions. Physical discomfort symptoms, etc.
Yes, some of the depressed patients we usually contact are smiling, happy on the surface, lonely inside, and even these patients have a higher risk of suicide, which needs our attention.
I think so. Early depression can't be seen by others at all, or even by yourself. It's normal in the crowd, even humorous. When I'm alone, I'm always in a bad mood, sensitive and want to cry for no reason. If you encounter some external stimuli at this time, such as the pressure of work and study and the harm caused by people around you, it is easy to aggravate the symptoms of depression. If depression is serious, it will cause physical symptoms, such as unexplained hair. If you suffer from severe insomnia, patients will still feel that life is boring and there is no hope for life. If it is more serious, you will choose to end your life by yourself, so that others will not see you when you get up early. When you realize that you have been in a bad mood, you must remind yourself to get rid of it quickly. Once you let this bad mood spread, you will easily be depressed for a long time. In your depressed state, your mind is dull. When you meet something, what do you do at this time?