Text: Ying Xi Making a living is instinct, seeking love is a choice.

Only when our lives are comfortable, we will have more choices for love.

Don't wait until the right person is close by and you can only tell him/her: I want to give you everything, but I have nothing.

August 10 ? Thursday ? Sunny 1 In our twenties, we have the age that seems most suitable for falling in love and a heart that has nowhere to go.

Last week, I had dinner with my cousin. Before we even exchanged a few words, my cousin asked me if I had a boyfriend.

I smiled awkwardly and could only say: "Don't be in a hurry. I can't even support myself when I just started working. How can I talk about a boyfriend?" My cousin said with a disapproving look on his face: "Why don't you be in a hurry? It's too late for a high-quality partner."

I have been picked. Find a suitable partner first, and then get married after two years of dating..." Seeing my cousin's excitement, I had already planned my life in just ten minutes.

I only felt scared in my heart and didn't dare to yearn for it at all.

I have been single for a long time, and many people have asked the same question: "Why don't you find a boyfriend first? Isn't it boring to be alone?" Aren't two people together to be boring?

Isn’t it really boring for two people who are incompatible with each other and fall in love for the sake of love to force themselves to be together?

I can't live a happy life by myself. I have a lot of worries after work. I can't even take care of myself. How can I give extra care to another person?

When my life is easy enough to be enjoyable and comfortable even if I am alone, and I still have extra care to accommodate someone, then the love that comes at this time is just right!

After all, what single person doesn’t want a quality couple?

Make a living first, then find love, this is my attitude.

2 Too many girls regard love as a timely help, and their lives are in a mess, but they are eager to use love to save themselves, and the results are often unsatisfactory.

After all, life is not an idol drama. The drama of the domineering president falling in love with me will not happen in reality, let alone the fairy tale of the prince rescuing the fallen princess, not to mention that we are not princesses.

Love in life is so realistic that everyone is asking: You are not that good, why should I love you?

Danbao's "love" is a living example. After graduating from high school, Danbao chose to enter the melting pot of society to forge himself.

Life is not easy. In one year, Egg Bao has changed many jobs. He works hard for a long time every day, but his life is hard to come by.

All her relatives, including her parents, told her: "Why do girls live so hard? Take advantage of their youth to find someone to marry." Maybe it was too hard, so Danbao chose to compromise and met her current husband under the introduction of her relatives.

After a sweet relationship, Danbao got married in a hurry after less than a year of dating.

When they got married, Danbao was already pregnant. Danbao, who was already unemployed, was even more inferior in the eyes of his parents-in-law. Even the wedding banquet was hastily arranged.

Her parents-in-law said, "I'm getting married anyway. You enjoy happiness at home every day, so why do you need so much?" The funny thing is that her parents thought that she didn't have a job anyway and had to rely on others to support her, so they married their daughter off hastily.

He also advised her: "You still rely on others to support you. If you feel wronged, just be a little bit more aggrieved. How can there be a life without grievances." After getting married, Egg Bao gave birth to a baby soon, and she spent most of her time at home. After taking care of the baby, she still had to wait on her.

My parents-in-law are bossing around even when my husband comes back.

Where is the love in this?

Her husband just married someone else, and if it wasn't her, it would be someone else.

The lack of independence before marriage turned her into a free nanny for the whole family year-round.

So, girl, stop relying on love to save yourself. The only one who can save you is yourself.

What falls from the sky is never a pie, but a meteorite. Once it hits you, it will only kill you.

3 Love is never a help in times of need, but the icing on the cake.

Only if you are good enough can you have unexpected and beautiful love.

Sister H and Egg Castle are completely different types of people, and their love results are exactly the opposite.

When she met Mr. Y, Sister H's life was already enjoyable.

She has her own stable job, the salary is not high but it is more than enough to support herself.

If you can afford the clothes, shoes and bags you like, go to the movies if you want to watch them, go out to look for delicious food if you don’t want to cook, and go on a spontaneous trip wherever you want to go.

She has become envious of others by living her life alone.

She said: "When I was single, I thought it was good to be alone. I was free and could do whatever I wanted. I never thought I had to find someone to fall in love with. It wasn't until I met him that I felt it was better for two people to be together."

"Last year, they got married.

The honeymoon trip went to her favorite place.

The two of them lived a happy life. Mr. Y never felt that housework was her responsibility alone. He even rushed to do the laundry and cooking, doting on his wife with his strength.

Dates to eat and watch movies are commonplace. The two often meet to play basketball, take walks, and go rafting...