People are really weird sometimes. When they talk, do things, speak and behave, they always have to show something that makes people sympathize with, in order to make their life seem "valuable".

do you know?

The way you try to gain sympathy is really ugly.

1. Xiaomi chased a boy some time ago. He was the type she particularly liked. He was "kidnapped" when Eleven was a bridesmaid. It was love at first sight.

Every time I chat with her, she always talks about all kinds of things about boys: they are very "busy" and have a fulfilling life, with lots of parties, socializing, and fun.

It's completely different from Xiaomi's current lifestyle.

I said venomously that you are too old, too lonely, and are in a hurry to get married.

When Xiaomi gets off work every day, she will wait in front of her phone at 11 o'clock or 12 o'clock until the other party is free, chat for half an hour, and say good night.

Xiaomi told me: After reading the zodiac signs, they are a perfect match; after calculating their height, they are a perfect match; after asking about their ages, they are a perfect match.

Regarding everything about the other party, she had already imagined the most perfect situation.

So, she naively thought that the other party had feelings for her, so she revealed herself without any scruples.

I said it when I was in a good mood, I said it when I was in a bad mood, I talked about the past, I talked about the present, I talked about the future... but the responses I got were mediocre.

Soon, Xiaomi felt that this unilateral payment method was inappropriate.

I angrily deleted the other person's WeChat account. Before deleting it, I said some harmless words to get the other person to take the initiative.

However, after waiting for a few days, there was no response from the other party, so he took the initiative to add it back.

After that, he sent text messages without replying, sent messages without replying, and completely disappeared.

We have all experienced several love affairs that ended in vain, and most of them did not reach the end for the same reason as Xiaomi. They threw all their wounds and weaknesses to the other person, hoping to gain love by gaining sympathy and trust.

The greatest poverty in life is actually the poverty in the heart, and the same is true for love.

Love is never beautiful, or even cruel. When you start to gain sympathy and give blindly, that is the beginning of your loss of love.

2. The consequences of soliciting sympathy without getting a response are terrible.

Take children as an example. In childhood, we are the best at pretending to be cute and pitiful to gain sympathy.

Sometimes, behind this pretending to be cute and pitiful, there is even frightening malice.

I heard a story from a friend: My friend’s colleague Xiaoyan is a very optimistic and cheerful girl who especially likes children.

One time Xiaoyan was taking the subway and met a young mother who was 6 or 7 years old and had a very pleasant appearance.

At that time, Xiaoyan was holding a box of ice cream she had just bought from outside the station, and was eating while looking at the child.

Children generally have little resistance to delicious food.

Seeing Xiaoyan eating ice cream makes her a little unbearable.

Acting coquettishly, I asked my mother for ice cream.

The mother seemed to be in a bad mood and said coldly to the child: "If you want to eat, you won't ask your sister for it!" After hearing this, the child ran to Xiaoyan and decisively acted cute and pretended to be cute.

I hope Xiaoyan will give him the ice cream in her hand.

It's not that Xiaoyan didn't want to give it, but she didn't dare to give it after hearing what the child's mother said.

Everyone knows that character development is very important for children during their growth period.

This kind of begging is likely to have a serious impact on the child's future.

So, although she couldn't bear it, Xiaoyan politely refused.

Who would have thought that at the moment the train pulled into the station, this cute child seemed to suddenly turn into a devil. Without thinking, he pushed behind Xiaoyan hard.

According to Xiaoyan's recollection at the time, at the moment she was pushed, her mind went blank and she could not accept that a child would behave in such a way that ordinary people could not understand.

Afterwards, she was shaking all over and almost paralyzed to the ground.

The child and his mother, without even looking at Xiaoyan, got in the car and left... Fortunately, there was a kind-hearted person beside her who had been watching. Just as the child pushed her, he decisively pulled her away.

A handful, otherwise she couldn't imagine what the consequences would be!

Why do people gain sympathy?

Most people who seek sympathy do so in order to obtain certain benefits from others.

If someone continues to show weakness to you and gain your sympathy for a period of time, you must be aware that they usually have plans for you.

Of course, if you don't accept it, then I'm sorry, but the consequences you need to bear may be like Xiaoyan, who was pushed by a naughty kid at a critical moment.

I just don’t know if you were that lucky at that time!

3. In my WeChat Moments, when I open it every day, the most common posts are photos of my various “efforts”.

The photos are real, but I don’t know if the “efforts” are real.

Two years ago, I met a "hard worker" who relied on his circle of friends to survive.

His daily activities include all kinds of fitness, running, traveling, reading, cycling, photography, postgraduate entrance examinations, certification exams, guitar learning... Positive and upbeat, he seems to be involved in everything.

And every time we have dinner together, we listen to him "show" how hard he works.