If you want to ask about weddings and funerals, the following is all there. If you are missing something, ask me about the etiquette, customs and taboos of Fuzhou’s traditional banquets. There are many etiquettes, customs and taboos in Fuzhou’s traditional banquets, because they all have certain meanings and are not complicated. They can be solved with a little attention.

Yes, many innovations have been made, and these customs and taboos can still be preserved.

Linguistic politeness: When hosting a banquet, when a guest arrives, the host usually says "Excuse me, please". When a guest celebrates a birthday, he clasps his fists and says "blessings", or fashionably says "health and longevity"; for other celebrations, he says "congratulations".

Only at funeral banquets, it is better for guests to express their grief in solemn silence, bow their heads and hold the host's hand tightly, or at most say "take care". A thousand words can be said in one sentence, and even "silence is better than sound".

At a banquet, the host persuaded the drinker to say "please drink again" and "the food is not good, so I lied to you" (because I received the red envelope, I had to say "cheated"); the guest said "have eaten" but did not say "eat"

Finished” (unlucky) or “full” (rude).

What to eat and what not to eat at the banquet: Birthday banquets and other wedding banquets in Fuzhou must include a bowl of Taipingyan.

Taipingyan is called a big dish. When the big dish is served, firecrackers must be set off. After the firecrackers are set off, the host must wait for a toast. Before that, chopsticks are not allowed to be used.

If there are children who don't understand the rules, adults will stop them. They are waiting to be eaten.

Not eating is the last "whole head fish".

A fish with a whole head "has a head and a tail" and is a symbol of excess, so how can it be eaten?

If it is not eaten, it will be put away by the owner and used as a "meal" (meal) for the later stages of the festival or as a gift to neighbors, relatives and friends to enjoy.

The importance of dishes and dishes: There are two types of banquets: weddings and funerals. After finishing a dish, dishes and dishes should not overlap, and the staff should not weigh them when they come to collect them. This is for fear of triggering "heavy mourning" and "bigamy"

Luck.

Other than that, most others can be heavy.

Dos and don’ts in dishes: Pomfret should not be served at wedding banquets and "Miyue" banquets. Both pomfret in orange juice and stewed pomfret are homophonic with "prostitute", so they are not suitable. Funeral banquets must have a bowl of mutton, commonly known as "mutton bag".

Because sheep understand the kindness of suckling and have the habit of kneeling to suckle, eating mutton represents filial piety.

"According to milk" (mother) cannot "do eighty": There is a curse word in Fuzhou called "According to milk and do eighty", so if the mother's birthday is either 79 or 81 years old, even if she does it every year, the eighty-year-old

Not even for a year.

Because in Fuzhou dialect, eighty is homophonic with "straightening" (death), so doing eighty means "straightening".

Aojiu Festival and February 2nd, the 29th day of the first lunar month are unique traditional folk festivals in Fuzhou.

"Aojiu Festival" is also known as "Later Nine Festival", "Xiaojiu Festival" and "Send the Poor Festival".

Early this morning, every household uses glutinous rice, brown sugar, peanuts, red dates, water chestnuts, sesame, longan and other raw materials to cook sweet porridge, called "Yujiu porridge", which is used to worship ancestors or give gifts to relatives and friends.

Married daughters must also send a bowl of "Aojiu porridge", some with Taiping, eggs, pig's trotters, etc., back to their parents' home to honor their parents.

In addition, any person's age is nine, such as nine years old, twenty-nine years old... (called "Ming Jiu"), or multiples of nine, such as eighteen years old, twenty-seven years old, thirty-six years old... (called "Ming Jiu")

"Dark Nine"), you should also eat a bowl of "Taiping" just like celebrating your birthday, in order to seek peace and health.

In the traditional concept of Fuzhou people, "Nine" is a difficult time. Fuzhou people have taboos when it comes to "Nine". They believe that "Nine" is a time of misfortune. Therefore, anyone who is "Nine" years old should eat too much.

, we should also send "nine" to our parents, so that they can be safe and healthy.

Three days after the "Aojiu Festival", it is the second day of the second lunar month. This day is also a unique legendary festival in Fuzhou, referred to as "February 2".

On February 2nd, people in Fuzhou do not eat sugary porridge but eat salty porridge instead.

Salty porridge is a salty porridge cooked with glutinous rice, celery, onions, garlic, dried shrimps, oysters, shredded pork, etc.

After February 2, the days of ordinary people's simple life began again.

Since the second day of the second lunar month comes from cleaning and cooking the surplus food from the first month, some people will cook it if they have surplus food, and they will not cook if there is no surplus food.

February 2 promotes Fuzhou people’s traditional virtues of not being extravagant and wasteful, and being diligent and thrifty.

The New Year's Eve "Debt Avoidance Play" Fuzhou Folk Troupe used to have a traditional class custom, that is, every year starting from the 23rd day of the twelfth lunar month, the play box must be "sealed" (that is, the play box is sealed with a red paper strip).

It means that the troupe members go home for the holidays to celebrate the New Year, and the performance will not officially start until the first day of the first lunar month of the next year.

The stage in the Wanshou Shangshu Temple, an ancient building in Taijiangwuwei, Fuzhou, is extremely lively with gongs and drums every New Year's Eve.

In ancient times, Taijiang had developed commerce and trade, and there was an imbalance between rich and poor.

Rich people's New Year's Eve is a feast of lights and tables full of delicacies.

However, poor people are most afraid of creditors coming to collect their debts as the New Year approaches.

Out of sympathy, some philanthropists raised funds and hired a Fujian opera troupe with high remuneration. They made an exception to perform at the Wanshou Shangshu Temple on New Year's Eve, and stipulated that they would stay up all night so that the poor debtors could gather in the temple to watch the opera.

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If a creditor comes to the temple that night to press for debt, firstly, the crowd will be crowded and it will be difficult to find the person, and secondly, the poor people will crowd in and attack him.

Therefore, the New Year's Eve play at Wanshou Shangshu Temple is free for the poor to watch, and it is commonly known as the "debt avoidance play."

At dawn the next day, it was already the first day of the first lunar month, which was considered the Chinese New Year. It was inconvenient for creditors to ask for money from the poor, otherwise they would also feel unlucky.

Folk funeral customs in Fuzhou In the early years of Fuzhou, there was a set of unwritten rules for funerals, which have been continued. Until now, many of them have been gradually reformed and simplified, but there are still residual traces.