Not long ago, a "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law war" shocked Shanghai.

Although conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not new, such bloody scenes are rare.

1. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has once again become the focus of society.

Recently, an original post by female netizen "Sunshine Orange Tree" "Eight Criteria for a Good Mother-in-law" has aroused heated discussions among many women on the Internet.

Subsequently, the tit-for-tat "Eight Standards of a Good Wife" came into being.

The discussion topic in this issue of "Tea House" will focus on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Host: Recently, a female netizen named "Sunshine Orange Tree" published her "Eight Criteria for a Good Mother-in-law" online.

These eight standards are: 1. Don’t be pretentious 2. Have no quirks 3. Don’t be verbose 4. Not conservative 5. Don’t ask too many questions about housework.

6. Do not speak to your wife in non-communicative language under any circumstances, including direct attacks, beating around the bush, and speaking ill of her behind her back.

7. Respect personal space 8. Don’t favor boys.

"From ancient times to the present, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been an important part of the family relationship, and it is also the most difficult one to deal with. With the development of social civilization, modern women pay more and more attention to the reflection of self-worth. Among these 'eight standards',

Four of them are about democracy, freedom and equality." Yang Shuiying first expressed his opinion.

"Indeed, this reflects modern women's call for freedom and equality. For example, asking mother-in-law to respect private space, not to favor boys over girls, not to be verbose, not to be conservative, etc." Zhuang Ju, who will be a wife at the end of this year, seems to be optimistic about the future.

My mother-in-law is full of such expectations.

"Actually, some standards are easy to achieve." Zhuang Ju believes that liking for impartiality is mainly reflected in material concerns.

When mother-in-law buys things for her children, don’t forget to buy something for your daughter-in-law.

Only when treated equally can a daughter-in-law feel psychologically accepted by the family; if she is not conservative, she hopes that her mother-in-law will not use her own aesthetics and consumption habits to demand her daughter-in-law, but learn to follow her daughter-in-law to accept new ideas; and respect private space.

I hope my mother-in-law will not inquire about her privacy.

If she won't ask, don't ask.

My mother-in-law should not just enter the room with my husband.

"As the saying goes: 'If you want to do things well, start with the big ones and then the small ones.' These eight standards of my mother-in-law also fully reflect the requirement of 'using the big to control the small'. Take my mother and wife as an example. My wife's mother died early,

My mother treats her as a daughter. She never puts up with her mother-in-law, works hard, and never speaks ill of our young students. But her mother-in-law is her elder, and her thinking habits have been formed, so it is difficult to adjust and modify them.

When getting along, the daughter-in-law and her son need to constantly adjust their handling methods and pay attention to their communication methods, so as to achieve a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Zhu believes that the mother-in-law has the habit of making the younger daughter-in-law uncomfortable. After all, the mother-in-law should be as tolerant and understanding as possible.

Her character and habits are the mark of her life. He said: “In our family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very good, and the whole family lives in harmony.

Because of this, although her mother has been dead for many years, her wife still mentions her often when she talks.

“In fact, many conflicts and differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law come from daily trivial matters.

For example, there will be huge differences in consumption concepts.

How many young people pursue fashion, but in the minds of many older people, fashion means burning money, which means they cannot be diligent and thrifty.

Faced with such differences in concepts, a daughter-in-law must not try to change her mother-in-law's consumption outlook.

In order to reduce conflicts, a smart daughter-in-law only needs to give her mother-in-law a 35% discount on her consumption.

"As soon as Wu finished his words, there was a burst of laughter from the guests present, but everyone agreed with his statement. "At this time, white lies can save a lot of trouble.

"The model of a good daughter-in-law follows the trend. The host: "The eight standards of a good mother-in-law" has aroused heated discussions among many female compatriots. Daughters-in-law have many standards for a good mother-in-law. Similarly, mothers-in-law also have "Some modern women, especially those born in the 80s and 90s, at home.

My hands are always hanging on my clothes, my mouth is open when I eat, I can’t cook, I can’t do housework.

However, when marrying into her husband's family, a good daughter-in-law must be skilled in making soup and be the nutritionist and gourmet for the whole family.

A family-sized portion of healthy nutrition right in your hand.

At the same time, you should be polite and decent when dealing with others, neither humble nor overbearing, speak appropriately, behave politely, dress modestly and generously, and be neat and pleasant.

"Zhu Song believes that being able to enter the kitchen and get out of the hall has been a requirement for a wife since ancient times. It is also a matter of pride for a man to marry such a wife. "In fact, neither mother-in-law nor daughter-in-law can ask too much of each other.

"Yang Shuiying believes that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is ultimately the fight between two women for the right to speak in family affairs. However, there is no standard answer to family affairs. In this regard, a daughter-in-law must learn to show weakness and learn to adapt, instead of looking for faults and comparisons. This is a

It’s a difficult but not high hurdle. Once you figure it out, you’ll suddenly be enlightened. If you get stuck, it may lead to an escalation of conflicts. “For example, if your mother-in-law’s cooking is not to your taste, you have to work hard to adapt.

If you can't get used to it, just do it yourself and have enough food and clothing.

You have the right to decide whether the hygiene is thorough, whether the floors are mopped, and the tables polished, but you also have the right to act.

Don’t blindly count on the elderly.

The elderly is not a nanny, and she has no obligation to serve you wholeheartedly.

"When it comes to her mother-in-law helping to take care of the children, Yang Shuiying also has her own opinions.