She has helped countless people change their views on financial management and built a moat of risk for more families. I also realized the freedom of wealth in this profession.
If others feel uneasy about every change in life as an uncertain prediction, she can turn every change into an opportunity according to her own actual situation.
Besides being an investor, she is also an expert in self-management and time management. Listening to her share her understanding of self-driving today may also bring you some inspiration from different angles.
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My present state
I'm Shui Mei Storey. At present, there are three companies, among which Changtou School, which is doing online education, is in its seventh year and has a high reputation. In 20 15, a new private equity fund company was established, and in 20 17, a new company was established in Japan due to interest in Japanese real estate.
The living condition is that there are three babies, Dudu is almost 4 years old, and the twin sorbet sisters have just turned 1 year old, all of whom are lively and active.
In addition, I basically keep reading 100 books every year, and the company writes 4 articles every week, about 7000 words.
How?
Let's talk about how to do this. To balance the interests of work, family and self, we must first arrange our time reasonably. I wrote three articles, "Let Your Day Have 192 Hours-Start Being a Time Management Cheat for Sambo Mom" to explain my time management.
The following is more information about how to multithread and multitask.
Multithreading and multitasking is a very common time management idea.
Like going to a children's playground.
For example, one of the most common means for most parents to take their babies is to take their son Dudu to the Children's Paradise. But what I often see is that children are very old, and their parents follow closely in the children's playground for fear of falling down. Children and children compete for toys, and parents rush to solve the problem at the first time.
The most exaggerated thing I have ever seen is that grandparents, parents and children bring a 4-year-old baby together. Every five minutes, the mother will take her children out, feed them with water, fruits and snacks, wipe their sweat and take off their clothes.
As for me taking Dudu to the children's playground, I was about 1 half years old, and I began to let go. I fell down and got up again, arguing with my children for toys to solve it myself. I read and write selflessly in this long blank time.
In this example, taking care of the baby (family part), career (working in different places) and interest (painting books and drama) can be completed in a period of time. Of course, working in the children's playground is definitely not as efficient as working in the office, but at least it's finished.
Like taking care of the baby on weekends.
Let's give another example. On Saturday, I took my baby and went shopping in the subway with Dudu. The purpose of following the subway is simple and takes time. It takes 65,438+00 minutes to go out from home, 65,438+00 minutes to wait for the minibus, 65,438+00 minutes to take the subway, 20 minutes to take the subway, and soon it will take an hour.
Many parents with children like to drive directly to their destinations. Send them to children's playgrounds or interest classes, thinking that interest classes can bring knowledge and ability to babies.
I don't know. In fact, there is learning everywhere in life. I remember when Dudu was more than 2 years old, it took more than half an hour to learn to buy tickets at the subway station, and it took 20 minutes to play after passing the security check. He kept asking me to put my bag in the security checkpoint and repeated the security check five times. Finally, the security inspectors were finished with him, and I watched. This kind of life experience and knowledge is far more vivid and useful than the interest class.
At the same time, the task of taking care of the baby has been completed during the journey, which itself follows the idea of this multi-threaded task.
Shopping also follows this idea, besides taking him to play, of course, it will not delay me from visiting my favorite clothing store and my favorite grocery store. Of course, there is also a snack bar that we all like. In this process, I didn't delay my fun, nor did I delay taking care of the baby.
Not only that, observing people around you, interacting with salespeople, knowing how to buy things, calculating prices, and even experiencing how to choose to endure desires are all very important life education. These experiences can't be given by interest classes.
One day after taking care of the baby, I bought my favorite clothes. He learned mathematics by price, learned words by toy packaging, and even learned cross-cultural communication (we once met two foreigners, one of whom was very good at Chinese and talked to me about the educational concept of 1 hour, and the other who didn't know Chinese played in English and toot toot for a long time). I also learned how to buy subway tickets, how to chat up children in toy stores, how to praise the little beauty who sets the table in restaurants, and so on.
In this process, I had a full communication with Dudu one day, and he also had a more direct experience and study of real life, which was successful. When I go home at night, Dudu often says, well, I'm satisfied. I'll come out to play next week!
Like blind date
Multi-thread and multi-task thinking mode should run through life. I once chatted with a friend, and she said that she had been dating frequently recently, and sometimes she couldn't get rid of the introduction of acquaintances, which was very boring.
I suggest that you make a list of delicious restaurants you want to eat in Shanghai, and choose a restaurant you want to go to every date, no matter how boring, at least you have a favorite restaurant. If you date dozens of times, you will become not only a dating expert, but also a food critic.
To make matters worse, like me, I write a WeChat official account every day. Every time you observe the blind date, you can make up an article or a food review in the restaurant. Well done!
In this way, we can make the boring blind date interesting, turn the embarrassment of blind date into a date to taste food, feel better, and of course have fun.
Like a weekend trip.
When Dudu grows up, I will take him to the neighboring cities of Jiangsu and Zhejiang to meet new friends on weekends. Take the train, stay in different hotels, meet new friends in different cities and visit new places. Eva had a good time, and I also enjoyed the trip.
Now that the twins have grown up, I sometimes take them with me when I go out. Of course, I must take my aunt, and I can go wherever I want. Twins can recruit a children's tour group when they grow up. I can't help but look forward to it, haha.
I don't have 25 hours a day, and I don't have one more leg than others. What I can do is to try my best to improve efficiency, or at least make myself happier and more comfortable.
You should learn to be lazy about how to make yourself comfortable.
The most important guiding ideology in life: laziness
Being a lazy mother is the most important guiding ideology for me to take care of my baby, and being a lazy leader is the most important guiding ideology in my work. By extension, laziness is simply the most important guiding ideology in my life!
Apply it to work
At the beginning of 20 16, I found myself pregnant with a second child. Soon after, I was surprised/horrified to find that I was pregnant with twins. The problem at that time was that Dudu was only 2 years old, and Changtou School began to make great strides. When she was pregnant with twins, her reaction was particularly serious, including drowsiness, irritability and serious physical decline.
What are we doing? Only lazy!
When you are pregnant with twins for about three or four months, your physical strength is seriously reduced and you are often short of breath. I had to carry a small oxygen bottle with me, so I began to greatly reduce my working hours, which could not exceed 4 hours a day. Rest time is to lie down, sleep and rest.
However, my work will not stop because of this, so I have been thinking about what is the most important.
Choosing reliable working partners, formulating clear strategic goals and standardized workflow should be what I want to do. The rest is that you don't have to do everything yourself, fully empower your colleagues to work hard towards their goals.
Honestly, I did it. After the third trimester and a period of postpartum leave, the working hours were insufficient, but the team continued to create good results. Especially in the month when I was confined, the team performance reached the highest value, which made me think for a long time whether they would do better without me, hmm!
Laziness won't make my work worse. On the contrary, because I am diligent in thinking about "what is the most important thing", I can concentrate more, so that I can take care of my career and family.
So what I often say to the team now is: "Imagine that you are a pregnant woman who is seven months pregnant and can only work four hours a day. What is the most important thing you will choose to do? "
Thus forcing them not to work overtime blindly, but to think about more efficient and focused working methods.
Apply it to the baby.
Next, I will consider DuDu and send him to a nearby kindergarten. Before that, he was always brought by his grandparents during the day and by myself at night. To tell the truth, if it weren't for the second child, I might not have sent him to preschool so early, but fortunately Dudu quickly adapted to this rhythm.
Then I started slacking off in front of him. My mother is so tired that she wants to sleep. My mother wants to hug and kiss. My mother wants to drink water and chew watermelon. Please help her. Yes, during that time, Dudu was very good and learned to do all kinds of things within his power.
As a lazy mother, Dudu is more caring and independent.
After the twins were born, I continued this lazy style. Oh, mom doesn't have time for hugs. Go and play with my brother. Now the three little guys can play together for a long time. Alas, this little popsicle colleague, I don't have time to make a decision on this matter. Why don't you discuss a solution with other colleagues (such as DuDu, such as sorbet)?
Mobilize the masses to fight the masses, but being a mother and a leader is the best kung fu.
Of course, being a lazy mother also includes not over managing your life.
For example, our twins have no elaborate complementary food stage. At first, breast milk was mixed with milk powder, and soon it was replaced with milk powder. Then rice noodles. Add complementary food after 5 months, and then feed porridge directly. Basically, I haven't experienced other children. I bought all kinds of food and broke it with a blender. The reason is simple, there is no time.
Use it to give yourself a vacation.
Of course, laziness also includes leaving enough time and space for your mother.
On my typical day, I wake up at about 7: 00, and the chicken flies like a dog. My father and I (he usually left the baby) and 1 aunt (another aunt left at 6: 00 to buy food) take turns washing, eating breakfast, changing clothes and feeding the baby, and then sending Dudu to kindergarten. Leave for the company at 8: 30, and then it is a strict working time until 6 pm.
Arriving home at 6 o'clock until 8: 30 in the evening is the time to play with the baby, and take care of the baby all day on Saturday. But my grandparents helped me toot toot toot on Sunday, and this day belongs to me completely (of course, I don't rule out baby's illness, business trip, emergencies, etc. ), read a book, watch a play, eat a good meal, and occasionally go out to see a movie by yourself.
Rest on Sunday and be a hero on Monday!
Some people question that 100 book has no time to read. Come on, let's do the math. Every night at 8: 30, I sleep with Dudu. I will wake up automatically in the middle of the night 1 1 (the sequela of feeding before) and start reading with kindle for about 2-3 hours. In addition, on Sundays, I spend about 12- 15 hours a week reading, and it is a whole uninterrupted time. I used to read faster, not to mention three books a week.
Of course, laziness requires some preconditions.
In fact, my life is basically divided into work, family and personal interests. At work, bury yourself in your work. When you take care of your baby, you will basically be isolated from your work, and then leave some time for yourself, whether it is reading, watching a play or chatting.
Such a life is certainly not perfect. When the baby is sick, he will be exhausted, but basically, he has not delayed anything.
Of course, laziness requires some preconditions.
The first is the economic foundation.
Once, my aunt took my baby out to play and said that the children's playground was so expensive. I joked that the biggest expenses were my aunt and the house. Children's paradise can be played for less than 2000 yuan for one year, and two aunts earn more than 10 thousand a month, which is simply incomparable.
Money can buy time and human leverage. In other words, if you have no money, of course you can have a second child, so you must spend enough time on it yourself.
Secondly, we must make some choices.
Some people will say that your own company, with flexible time, can certainly do a lot of things. Yes, my own company, the time is very flexible. But it is also a business. Why do some entrepreneurial mothers work overtime all night and can't take care of the baby at all, but I can get off work on time and set aside time to play with my baby?
That's because in my values, career is very important, but family and children are also important. I will not sacrifice my career for my children, just as I will not sacrifice my family for my career. If we add the third factor, it's the same for me. Reading is my pleasure (so is writing about WeChat official account). I won't completely sacrifice myself for my career and family.
Compared with ordinary working mothers, my extra time is mainly on my way to and from work, 5 minutes' walk from my office to my home and 3 minutes' cycling. But it's also an option. I choose not to buy a house, but to rent a house. I think time is more important than the house.
Finally, of course, it is the support of people around you.
Thanks to my two full-time aunts, it seems that there are many people, but considering that they have to rest for three days, take care of two twins and cook lunch for 50 people in the company five days a week, I have to say that compared with me, our aunt is really versatile!
Dad also bears important responsibilities, such as twins waking up early in the morning, aunt going out to buy food and cook early, aunt getting up early to wash, and mother accompanying DuDu. So dad pushed one on his back, and a man walked around the neighborhood with twins for more than an hour, bought breakfast and went home.
Grandparents are responsible for DuDu's entertainment activities from class to dinner. Although grandparents live far away, they usually don't participate, but when the baby is sick, they are obliged to carry luggage for a few days until we tide over the difficulties.
Dudu once took an advertising paper and recorded a thank-you letter to grandpa's mobile phone. At first, I said I love you, mom. Then I said that I also love my grandpa and aunt, and I also love Aunt Qu and Aunt Zhou. Then it's my father's turn and my two sisters' turn.
Doodle's words are also from the heart. A home is not enough just to be a home. Only the support of people around you can make it a home.
A company can't be a company with only founders. It needs to be composed of 50 full-time colleagues, 100 part-time colleagues and more than 100 users.
Only with such support can I distribute my limited 24 hours to three companies, three children and 100 books.
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