1. I have finally reached the age where I am urged to get married.

A few years ago, my mother suddenly called me and told me that my cousin had introduced me to a blind date and asked me to take some time to go home and meet.

In fact, I do not reject the form of blind date. On the contrary, I am more curious because I have never experienced it.

As a result, after meeting, the two of them started to pick their feet in embarrassment.

Putting two strangers who have never met together, even finding a topic seems very awkward.

In short, it was the most painful meal I had ever eaten. The table was full of delicious food but tasteless. I wished I could finish the meal early and go home.

Then, there is no more.

However, my mother has always been obsessed with this matter and kept repeating how rare the other party's conditions are: introverted character, wealthy family, owning a house in the local area, and most importantly, a harmonious family background.

And they instilled in me some concepts that "it is difficult for girls to find a partner when they are older, and good men have long been taken advantage of".

Even though we didn't talk much about each other, in the eyes of the elders, it seemed like this was a good marriage destined by fate, so I was told to seize this opportunity.

The following is from a conversation between me and my mother: "But I want to find someone I like and someone who likes me too." "It's not that easy to find. You have to like it and be rich." "You don't have to be rich, just like it.

"Okay!" "You're stupid! How can you do it without money! Marriage and love are different." "What about love?"

He will buy you whatever you want. Isn’t it good for your relationship?” “Of course we can’t be too poor. We can make our own money.” Finally, she said, “Your father and I have suffered a lot.

Yes, I don’t want you to suffer like this in the future.

She also said that only by marrying a rich man, your future life will not be so sad.

? 2. A few years ago, I might have objected vehemently to what she said.

But now, perhaps because I have truly seen reality and experienced life, I don’t even know how to refute.

We have to admit that the remarks we don’t like to hear from our elders are their summary of their past life experiences.

Although people of that generation did not have so many pursuits and thoughts, every conclusion they came to was achieved step by step, in a down-to-earth manner, and with personal experience and lessons.

Maybe I can't generalize, but my idealistic reasoning will inevitably look pale and frivolous in front of the mountain of reality, as if I have "never been beaten by society".

I remembered the day I saw a post on Somewhere. The person who posted it described his marital status: Neither party had cheated, but the other half's indifference and indifference had long since turned the relationship between the two into dead water.

Not only did she have to take care of her children, but she also had to bear heavy work pressure. The thought of divorce occupied all her thoughts.

There was no part of her speech that did not reveal the pain and suffering of drowning. Even through the screen, I could feel the suffocation of the person involved.

In current popular terms, this is a completely widowed marriage.

Someone asked: In this case, why did you choose to be with such a person in the first place?

The respondent's answer is: When they were in love, they were a very compatible couple. They could catch each other's jokes and laugh happily at the simplest things.

When gathering with friends, they often look at each other and smile when they talk about points that only two people can know.

When I saw this, the love between Siwen and Cheng Lu came to my mind, and it was exactly the same.

I once thought that this was the best form of soul mates and love.

You understand me as I understand you.

But who would have thought that even this kind of love would end up being like a piece of cake and live like "brothers sleeping on the top bunk".

3. It is undeniable that in this era, it is difficult to give people the courage to enter marriage based only on the so-called heartbeat and hormonal love.

After all, love is fluid and so complicated and unpredictable. In the remaining decades of our lives, we cannot guarantee that it will not flow to the other side.

Everyone tells you, don’t settle.

But they didn't tell you that those unrelenting feelings could not escape the sanction of time in the end.

No matter how sincere and passionate love is, it seems that it will burn out one day.

It’s not that love is not important, but we have to admit that when we have limited chips, it is difficult to pay for “expensive” love.

Everyone wants to have both love and bread. Just like everyone has struggled with whether to choose Tsinghua University or Peking University when they were young.

But the problem is that most of the time, most people simply don’t have that many options to choose from.

I can only swing one shot in a hurry before the bell rings.