The person who has no bottom line that you can forgive will hurt the person who has no bottom line.

What is the bottom line? The limit that a person can tolerate something or someone, the minimum. Born as a man, you may not know what you should do, but you must know what you can't do. This is also your bottom line and principle.

Forgiving others is a kind of generosity, generosity and wisdom.

But easily forgiving others' mistakes is equivalent to giving that person more unscrupulous capital.

People will make mistakes all their lives, and they should also give others and themselves a chance, but the opportunity should be reserved for those who cherish this opportunity, not just anyone. Don't let people think you are a fool, so gullible.

Being too kind sometimes makes us lose our value and dignity.

If you change your mind one day, be sure to tell me first. I swear I won't pester you and let you go generously. Don't lie to me. Besides, I can ignore anything. ?

This sentence, Dalin said to her husband more than once, including when she was in love.

It's just that women are always soft-hearted and like to comfort themselves. Many times, even if you know that persistence is meaningless, you will make up a lie for yourself in an attempt to deceive yourself. I just dare not admit that this dream and fantasy are woven by myself.

After seven months of pregnancy, I first found out that my husband was having an affair outside.

After a woman gets married, there are always too many people who can't control themselves. They never forget their bottom line, but are influenced by those who can't let go and can't bear it. For example, a child born. Even though her husband's behavior has touched his bottom line, he found that he was not as cruel as he thought.

Comfort yourself, in a special period, it is understandable to be confused for a while. Anyway, things haven't reached the irreversible stage.

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The days will go on, and after two days of trouble, it will turn over.

Life truth: No matter what happens, there will be a second time for the first time. The first time is the most difficult to adhere to, and it is also a checkpoint. Soft-hearted people will have a second time because they are soft-hearted for the first time; An unfaithful person will be unfaithful the first time.

When the child was 9 months old, the last thing Dalin wanted to happen happened, which originated from her husband's betrayal.

I dare not tell my parents or my friends, for fear of losing face.

She hid all her pains and grievances in her heart. Facing her husband's assurance, Dalin relented again. Look at yourself in the mirror like a crazy woman, but you can't vent. I was exhausted and asked myself in the mirror:? How did you become who you are today? I look down on you a little. ?

Dalin feels that the biggest harm in the world is this.

Unexpectedly, the later husband not only hurt himself again, but also didn't care about his bottom line and feelings. Without saying hello, he said that he would not go home all night without any explanation.

Even, he is not afraid of Dalin knowing that she is with people outside, and even refuses to deny it.

In other words, he deliberately let Dalin despair, so that he can divorce himself and fulfill himself. He forgot the bottom line of Dalin, thinking that in this case, the roles of the two people would be exchanged. It is no longer Dalin's initiative to admit her mistake, but Dalin wants to cry and beg her to change her mind.

In marriage, when a person thinks he can get another person, he can't go on.

When a person forgets another person's bottom line and finally makes a mistake, he must be fearless. Leave the remaining dignity to the other party to trample on at will.

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Forgive easily, and you will get bottomless harm!

All the first injuries were actually premeditated by him, just testing and challenging my bottom line. From the moment I first relented, my end was sealed.

You can forgive those who hurt you, but you must not forgive those who don't care about your feelings. ? Advice from Dalin, a 34-year-old woman.

Those who do whatever they want have no feelings that are hurt from the beginning.

A person's lawless capital is not because of how powerful he is, but how cowardly you are.

Later, it was your tolerance again and again, which made the other party feel that they had eaten you, and then they gradually became unscrupulous and pushed their luck. You are sad, why doesn't he care about your feelings? It's not that he doesn't care, but that you make him feel that he can ignore it.

When I was young, my mother never let me go to the river.

Then I snuck in, and nothing happened. I was beaten by my mother. Since then, I still want to play with my friends, but when I think about the consequences, the steps I just moved out immediately shrink back.

There is a simple reason. I have no money to go to the river, otherwise I would have gone.

Of course, I'm just giving an example, not saying that this kind of education is feasible. If a person doesn't pay for his mistakes, he won't remember them for long. Even if he can admit his mistake, he won't think how serious his mistake is.

It is not unforgivable to forgive easily, but people will pay the price if they make mistakes.

You should stick to your bottom line. The bottom line won't make you passive. If you feel passive, it only means that you are wrong about someone.