If you want to play with water, you should think about what to do after getting wet.

Once I spent the night outdoors with my classmates from my school days. At noon the next day, the children were all high. I am not afraid of wading tension, scorching sun and wet moss. The stream is not deep, so we remind Zeze and Huabao to pull up their trouser legs. Huabao is looking at fish, and Ze Ze is piling stones.

With a splash, the child in the same class slipped and got wet through. The adults next to him jokingly threw water at him. He said, "It's wet anyway, so it's war." Of course, the child immediately stood up and forced a smile. Ze Ze saw it and looked forward to it. He turned to me and asked, "Dad." 」

Of course, I have scanned many answers in my mind, but when the child is getting older, I don't like to tell him directly, and parents will feel "good"/"bad" or "good"/"bad". I prefer to let him think for himself, because asking his parents is always the fastest way to solve the problem, and usually parents have already thought about the follow-up.

However, only letting children think is the beginning to let them learn to be responsible for themselves.

Only when you start thinking, will you be responsible for yourself.

"Dad doesn't mind. I replied, "You just have to think about what to do when your clothes are wet."

"Well ..." Ze Ze thought for a moment and slowly pushed into the war zone.

"You already want to know? Wait a minute. The clothes are wet. Can I exchange them? How can I change it? Where can I change it? How to put the changed clothes? I reminded him again.

"I have it all figured out." Ze Ze turned to tell me with expectation, and then he entered the war zone. Of course, it wasn't long before he came back to me soaked.

"Ha ha ha ha ha, fun? I asked.

"Super ~ good ~ fun." Ze Ze smiled happily.

"Come on, you go to mom's house first, I'll call my sister, and then you can tell me what to do next."

When Warburg and I returned to the shore, I saw Ze Ze's gloomy face. My wife seems a little unhappy about Ze Ze playing so wet. I immediately explained to my wife, "He asked me and I told him to think about it."

"Come on, son, let's talk as we walk. Do you have any clean clothes to change?" I asked Ze Ze.

"I remember how many clothes I prepared. Anyway, even if I don't have it, it doesn't matter if I wear yesterday's. "

"So ~ what do you want to use to wipe the body? 」

"If you wring out wet clothes, you can use them as towels first. Besides, the sun is so big that it should be dry soon. "

"Where do you want to change? 」

"I can change it in the car, but help me turn on the air conditioner first. It's too hot. "

"All right. How to wrap wet clothes? Putting it directly in the luggage compartment will get other clothes wet. "

"I want to put it in a bag with a ball. “

"No, just put the wet clothes in the back seat of the car and wash them when you get home." My wife took part in the discussion.

"Good method, thank you, mom. Ze Ze said.

"Oh ~ not bad. My son wants to be perfect! Then do it. "

Let the children think freely.

"Dad, can I watch TV? 」

"Have you ever thought about how much homework is left? What haven't you done before you go to bed? I have to get ready for bed at 9: 30 at the latest. Will it affect the time? If you think it's okay, you can watch it. But you can only watch it for 30 minutes at most. "

You don't have to finish your homework before reading it. Let the children think.

"Dad, can I have cookies? 」

"Did you feel a cough first? Will you be unable to eat later? If there is no problem, you can eat, but you can't eat too much. Then, I will observe your appetite. "

You don't have to eat cookies after dinner, let the children think.

"Dad, can I buy this as my birthday present? 」

"Anyway, dad's budget is so much, do you want to buy an expensive budget? Or do you want to buy more within the budget? As long as it suits your age, dad is fine. "

I don't have to buy a gift that my parents think is worth it. Let the children think.

Giving an answer is always the fastest way, but it is not necessarily the best. Especially when children are unwilling to listen, disputes and conflicts will certainly become more and more frequent, because the child's idea is "Why do you always listen to you?" ! Even if parents are always reasonable, it will even make children too lazy to think for a long time, as long as they listen.

When children are getting older, only through "reminding and asking questions for follow-up treatment"+"norms and restrictions of upbringing"+"letting children think freely"+"believing the answers after thinking" can children learn to be responsible for themselves and have the ability to solve problems.

# The age of the child is not completely applicable, because it is certain that everything will be promised first.