During my internship, I met a senior who was in the first year of high school. She was single, slightly fat but pretty, with pretty facial features, big eyes and a straight nose.

Senior sister’s circle of friends is quite refined, sober, and very comfortable to look at. From the circle of friends, we can feel that she is a person who pays special attention to the quality of life and inner cultivation. She has a good impression of senior sister inexplicably. Must be an interesting person.

One day at nine o'clock, I had breakfast with my senior sister. The senior sister arranged the coffee, burgers and hash browns neatly, and took a photo with a particularly beautiful filter. With the caption "The breakfast I had two hours ago gave me full energy, it's another beautiful day (cute little sun)" and then quickly finished breakfast with me.

Another time I went to a boutique with my senior sister. The store was very well decorated. The senior sister took a photo after choosing an angle in the store. It was already a very good-looking photo, but it took a long time to retouch it before posting it. Then she added a sentence that had nothing to do with our happy shopping. I forgot what it was. .

After knowing the truth behind her sophistication, I don’t think much of her. I just get impatient waiting for her to edit her Moments sometimes. Fortunately, the frequency of posting to Moments is not particularly high. .

Judging from the circle of friends, she is doing well now. She is married. The husband in the photos is not the handsome type she liked before. He should have other talents and advantages that are more attractive to her. After giving birth to a baby, the baby followed her and grew very cute. The work is very stable. Of course, doctors are a little tired, and occasionally they will enjoy the night shift at dawn.

You saw her lunch in the circle of friends. It was carefully arranged in red and green dishes, with a beautiful tablecloth and a bouquet of flowers. Then the slogan reads: Healthy life makes me happy

You saw her outfit on Weibo: How does a plaid shirt look better with a pleated skirt? How do different bags reflect different temperaments? How does lipstick represent your mood and temperament? No matter what the subject is, I always go out with my whole body, makeup is meticulous, and I don’t wear the same clothes every day.

You see in life: The only table in her room is filled with all kinds of dazzling cosmetics. Many lipstick colors are completely indistinguishable in your opinion but can be used. Say 1234. The clothes that couldn't fit in her small wardrobe were either hung on the clothes drying rack or dumped on the bedside. Fortunately, she had a small and portable garment steamer. She searched online for various Japanese tableware and various small fresh tablecloths, and used them to decorate tasteless meals. Then she sat at the dining table and spent an hour or two looking for pictures, P-pictures, and posting on WeChat Moments.

Her monthly Huabei and Jingdong Baitiao are fully utilized, and sometimes she even has to use Borrower and various credit cards. She managed to survive by demolishing the east wall to make up for the west wall and using her superb arithmetic skills, but she could not save a penny and even paid monthly installments.

Many people often wonder where their money is spent? No matter how expensive cosmetics are, they can last for several months or even a year at a time. No matter how many clothes there are, one person can't fit them all. Every delicious meal posted on WeChat Moments seems to be enough for a few people, but isn’t the appetite just that big, and is it necessary to control the weight and lose weight? And why do they often queue up and post photos of internet celebrity attractions and internet celebrity food?

This is the life of many exquisite young people we see in WeChat Moments.

Modern people’s definition of “exquisite” is: wearing uniform and beautiful clothes every day; never appearing in photos without makeup, never posting on WeChat without photos; never going on a hunger strike if you gain weight It took two days to lose weight, but after losing 3 pounds, I had a reason to eat as much as I wanted.

However, no matter how beautiful their clothes and makeup are, no matter how many hungry meals they eat, they can't hide their poor physical appearance, their awkward walk, their eating habits, and their talk.

They would rather spend money on various big-name cosmetics, and their true colors will be revealed after taking off their makeup every day, than decorate their brains. They would rather go hungry for a few more meals than take a few steps to the gym or community garden. They would rather enrich their wardrobe than their wallet.

They know that Internet celebrity food is not delicious or even healthy, but good-looking food is enough to satisfy their vanity and make them look radiant throughout the day.

They all think that sophistication is the capital of youth, but many people in middle age or old can still stand out from the crowd and live their own elegant and free life.

Look at "Saga's Super Grandma", how an old man who was impoverished during the war years raised his children and grandchildren exquisitely?

At that time, the entire society began to undergo rapid changes: doubling of government budgets, rapid economic growth, appreciation of the yen and depreciation of the U.S. dollar, continuous university student movements, surge in campus violence, economic bubbles, oil crises, employment Difficulties...

Under such circumstances, grandma (grandma) can still live her life of poverty in full swing

There is a saying in it: Life is very interesting. Instead of focusing on appearance, it’s better to work on the inside.

Welcome to read, I am Ye Mangxing. Don't let yourself be kidnapped by pretended sophistication and live for the sake of face. I saw a hot topic before: fake sophistication in the circle of friends.

For how many young people, their circle of friends shows a glamorous and exquisite life, but their real life is indeed a mess. In order to pursue "exquisiteness" and pursue high-end brand food and clothing, the surface is bright and beautiful, but behind it is a huge debt.

There is such a girl in the friend group, let’s call her K girl for now. K girl is an administrative assistant in a private company with a monthly salary of 6,100. Her salary is at the upper-middle level in the industry, but for a K girl, this salary is not enough to support her, and she is even in debt. Having said that, girl K still lives a very glamorous life in her circle of friends. She lives a bourgeois life with a cup of Starbucks in her left hand and a piece of tiramisu in her right hand every day. Even if she wastes an entire afternoon waiting in line, she should follow Trends have not fallen behind either. She wears exquisite makeup, wears brand names, and walks between office buildings in 12-centimeter high heels. During the day, she poses for Instagram-style lunches, and at night, she toasts to J?germeister at the high bar. She completely forgets about the flowers she hasn’t paid off last month. They don't care at all that their consumption level is out of proportion to their actual financial resources. Every month, they are either earning money or losing money. It's a good thing to live a sense of ritual, but it's not worth it to drain your wallet and heart and live a miserable life for this fake sophistication.

I remember a scene in "Friends": ROSS met a girl with a hot body and beautiful makeup. After sending the girl home after the date, the girl invited ROSS to sit at her house. But Ross, who had just walked in, was deeply shocked by the scene in front of him: the sofa was piled with countless dirty clothes, the floor was full of garbage, and there were various uneaten snacks on the table. The girl picked up a potato chip jar and looked for her missing pet hamster. In this messy home, there is almost no place to stay. It is unimaginable that the exquisite and beautiful girl in the circle of friends has such a messy room?

I have watched "False You", a satirical short film about social networks. The short film shows the difference between you on Instagram and you in real life.

-On Instagram, you have fair and flawless skin, and you take a photo of you and your boyfriend getting up lovingly. But the reality is that when you get up, your face is shiny and unkempt, and your boyfriend is sleeping unconsciously next to you. ;

-ins wears a riding helmet, just like an outdoor sports enthusiast, but what is really happening is driving a car, seeing the outdoor scenery, and quickly taking out the helmet to pose;

-The neat desk, water cup, keyboard, and binding machine on the ins are clean and concise, but what is true is that there are half-eaten apples placed next to the keyboard, take-out boxes that have not been thrown away after eating, and a messy pen holder;

- A harmonious and happy dinner for four people on Instagram, but the real side is that they each sit down and play with their mobile phones, ask the waiter to help take pictures, and then turn around and immerse themselves in their mobile phones;

Looking at you in the circle of friends , so glamorous in Instagram, I really want to ask, are you really living as well as you are in the circle of friends? Most people are living peacefully in their circles, but the reality is just a mess, and your so-called refinement is actually just a show and an illusion. Real refinement is not the "high quality" and "petty bourgeoisie" life in the eyes of others. True sophistication comes from within and is the true meaning of living with your heart.

An exquisite life is not about squandering oneself like this. Real refinement must be about cultivating both internal and external aspects, being self-reliant, and living a pattern recognized by universal values. Not only should we pursue the details of life, but we should also pay attention to taking care of our own spiritual garden. Even if there is chaos outside, there will still be a calming needle.

External appearance and conversation, inner temperament and self-cultivation are always the goals that a truly exquisite woman should pursue and practice throughout her life.

"If you have talent hidden in your heart, time will never defeat the beauty." Thanks for reading, I am Ye Mangxing.

People who are "fake refined" may not be happy.

Yes, in real life too many people pretend to be "refined". They each have their own purposes, but they all embody a kind of sadness.

There are three main reasons for the exquisite disguise.

1. Save face

If you open your circle of friends now, you will see many people showing off in various ways. In fact, what many people show off is not what they really own, but what they show off. Because when I see others showing off, I feel that my life is not as good as others, so I might as well show off.

2. Your life is unsatisfactory

When you open your circle of friends, you will often find that many people post some inspirational chicken soup or make various "wishes", which are actually their real life. Dissatisfaction in life can be vented in another way, and it can even be used as a means to inspire one's own ideals.

3. Love of pseudo-exquisiteness is actually a disease of inferiority complex.