Psychology: What is more terrifying than having no money is "poor heart". It is recommended that girls read "I want a lot of love. If there is no love, then I need a lot of money" - this sentence comes from the famous writer Yi Shu

A novel "Xi Bao".

"Xibao" tells the story of the protagonist Jiang Xibao, a smart and beautiful Cambridge international student. In the early days, he always defaulted on tuition arrears and almost dropped out of school because he had no money. He was often worried about his livelihood.

Later, by chance, I met Xu Conghui, the daughter of a wealthy family, on the plane home, and they hit it off immediately.

Xu Conghui saw that Xibao was smart and lovable, so he invited her to the Xu family's banquet.

Unexpectedly, it was this banquet that changed Xibao's life: at the banquet, Xibao met his smart father, the rich man Xu Cunzi. Xu Cunzi admired Xibao's intelligence and transparency, and Xibao had the vitality of a young man.

, so he offered to support her and offered to send her to Cambridge.

In the end, Xibao gradually fell under the temptation of wealthy wealth, accepted Xu Cunzi's conditions, and lived a luxurious life.

Later, Xibao slowly fell in love with Xu Cunzi while accompanying him, but by this time Xu Cunzi was already an old man over fifty years old.

Soon after, Xu Cunzi died, and Xibao inherited a large amount of inheritance. Her dream came true. She had a lot of money, but she found that she had long lost the courage to love and the motivation to live, and was addicted to alcohol all day long.

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Xibao's popularity is precisely because it is a story that tears apart fairy tales and faces love and materiality.

Xibao is the epitome of many girls in reality.

In reality, there are many girls like Xibao who are materialistic and their goal in life is to marry a rich businessman and be happy once and for all.

But even if Xibao is with a wealthy businessman, her life is rich, she can have as many banknotes as she wants, and as many luxury cars as she wants, her heart has died in the end.

There is a scene at the end where Xibao is surrounded by a lot of banknotes, but she feels worse than death. She has completely fallen, like a refugee in the mud.

She is "poor", so poor that she only has money.

There is no love, no relatives, no friends, no motivation to survive in her life, so what's the use of having so much money?

What is more terrible than poverty is poverty of heart.

In this materialistic era, money seems to have become a very important thing.

Life is difficult without money, and even basic survival is a problem, let alone improving living standards.

Therefore, the biggest task for people in this era is to strive to pursue wealth and escape poverty.

Some people realize their own value at work and get money at the same time through hard work. There are also many people like Xibao who sell their emotions to get money. They use their youth and beauty to attract rich people and gain their appreciation.

, taking the opportunity to "make money".

The way these people get money is effortless, but as time goes by, their youth will no longer be there one day, and their beauty will also fade one day. What awaits them is only being abandoned and feeling poor.

Xibao in the novel is an international student at Cambridge University after all, but in reality these people are not as highly educated as Xibao. They are useless without the rich, have no ability to make money on their own, have lost hope in life, and become a complete loser.

The utter poor - the poor at heart.

What does a poor-hearted person look like?

I have lost confidence, I have lost hope, and I no longer believe that I can reap happiness again.

Just like Xibao in the novel, even if she has a lot of money, so what, she has no desire to live and has no motivation in life. She is addicted to alcohol to numb herself all day long, and she is stuck in memories and her life is worse than death.

Material poverty can be obtained through one's own efforts and hard work, but when a person is poor in his heart, he will not be creative in life and have no idea of ??struggle.

Those who are kept by rich people are glamorous on the outside, but extremely poor on the inside. They cannot survive without the rich because they have lost their creativity in life and have no strength to fight.

Psychologist Maslow proposed the famous theory of five levels of human needs.

The lowest level is to meet basic physiological needs, such as eating, drinking, sleeping.

The second level is safety needs, the third level is belongingness and love needs, the fourth level is esteem needs, and the last level is self-actualization needs.

The realization of these five levels needs to be achieved step by step. Only when the lowest level of physiological needs is realized can one develop to the higher levels.

Physiological needs and safety needs are only low-level needs for survival. To develop to the third level or higher level, you need to establish your own value and establish emotional connections with others.

Those money-worshiping women who blindly pursue money can often only reach the second level of the hierarchy of needs.