However, in today's fast-food work and life, we often don't spend too much time on "seeing people for a long time". We can only quickly identify whether the people in front of us are worthy of communication by subtle performance.
If you still don't know how to know people through nuances, you might as well start with WeChat, the bridge between people. Starting with WeChat, although it is not 100% accurate, it is undeniable and very useful.
0 1. Look at the avatar
Wechat avatar is our first impression of strange friends. Through an avatar, we can actually see the mood, preferences and status that the host wants to express at the moment.
If you find that among your friends, it seems that some people are obviously active, but they just don't like changing WeChat avatars more and more, then congratulations, such people are worth interacting with.
My friend Mu Zi is my college classmate. She is very lively when she studies, and the WeChat avatar changes almost every two days. When she is in a good mood, her head will turn into color, and when she is in a bad mood, she will immediately turn into gray and white.
But soon after graduation, she suffered a heavy emotional shock and once suffered from mild depression. At the doctor's suggestion, she fell in love with traveling and often took some amazing photos with her baby camera.
Once when I visited her home, I saw high-quality photos of scenery and people hanging on the photo wall. I can't help but sigh: where did you buy such a beautiful photo? I want it, too.
She smiled and replied: I didn't buy it, I just took it when I was traveling.
I'm surprised. Didn't you like to take your beautiful photos as your head before? Why not use it as an avatar now? Look at which one is great!
She smiled and shook her head: I took these photos to cure myself, not to show others. If I am happy, changing my head is not so important.
I am a little distressed to hear her say this lightly.
Behind this sentence, no one knows what she has experienced over the years, how many grievances she has suffered and how many tears she has shed. We only know that when she grew up, she began to settle down and feel and love the world with her heart.
In fact, if a person gradually becomes unwilling to change his head image, first, it shows that his mood has begun to become stable. Although his heart is turbulent, he still chooses to face it calmly and firmly.
Second, it shows that after he has experienced some things, his heart has become free and easy, and he no longer needs to attract others' attention to integrate into this bizarre world, only paying attention to whether he is full and happy.
02. Look at friends circle
Some people say: in the circle of friends, there is a person's attitude towards life.
Indeed, a circle of friends is like an autobiography, which can show a person's accomplishment and emotional intelligence, but it can better reflect a person's level and interest.
All kinds of people who complain in the circle of friends must be people full of suffocation and negative energy;
People who often show off in the circle of friends and like to compare with others must be full of vanity;
The circle of friends is full of sunny cafes, tempting food in the middle of the night, and a good book on the pillow. Must be a person who manages his life vividly.
Since a friend became a mother, the circle of friends has become an album of children's growth: children learn to call their mother for the first time, learn to walk for the first time, and go to kindergarten for the first time. ...
People can feel the happiness troubled by happiness through the screen, but in fact, she is also a person full of happiness in life.
Another old man spends almost every day in a circle of friends: orchids bloom at home, grandchildren grow up day by day, chat with friends under the tree and cook rich meals for their families. ...
We can see from her circle of friends how serious she is about life. No matter how busy she is, she has time to stay for life and record a little bit of beauty.
The circle of friends is not a trash can, but everyone's business card. What kind of life you live and what kind of attitude you have are all presented in it. We don't have to pretend, but we must take it seriously.
03. Look at the reply
I saw an interesting sentence on the Internet:
In the four torturous moments of life, you ate half the food, took a bath and waited for half the water, watched videos and advertisements, chatted and waited for half the reply.
When we chat on WeChat, we often encounter the situation that the other party disappears for no reason in the middle of the chat, and finally we are left alone to wait.
On the contrary, you can tell a person's character by replying in a chat.
People who reply quickly when chatting generally attach great importance to feelings, because the other person knows that you may be waiting for his news, so he can't bear to see you unhappy because your patience is exhausted.
People who often say "another day" and "come back" but have nothing to say are generally fickle and ungrateful people, because in his heart, you are a dispensable person, and it is only a fool to say that I will reply to you another day and give you an answer later.
When chatting, the person who answers each question is usually very delicate, because he is always unwilling to let your enthusiasm and expectations go up in smoke, and he doesn't want you to think because you can't get a reply.
In life, whether it is a partner, a friend or a family member, whether it is love, friendship or affection, every kind of person and every kind of feeling should have a response and deserve a response.
A sense of responsibility means receiving a reply, feeling comfortable, and giving an explanation. Even if you can't reply in seconds, as long as you reply seriously, it feels good.
Dear friends, don't underestimate every detail in WeChat. It can make your personal settings collapse and build a good image for you.
I hope you will make a good impression on both WeChat and WeChat.