?Foreword

As the beginning of the year, people also pay special attention to the Spring Festival. A variety of programs and unique customs make this Spring Festival rich and colorful. New Year's Eve begins, and the Spring Festival officially begins. From lighting firecrackers to celebrating New Year's Eve, we let the whole night resound in the sky. From visiting relatives to paying New Year's greetings in the distance, we keep our feelings from being diluted by distance. From grabbing red envelopes to playing mahjong, the entertainment atmosphere makes Spring Festival is no longer boring. Next, let’s hear about the things I like to do during the Spring Festival.

?"Special Favorites of Childhood" 1. Setting off fireworks and firecrackers - "The sound of firecrackers marks the end of the year, and the spring breeze brings warmth to Tusu."

Basic introduction:

As soon as it soars into the sky, it becomes colorful again; crackling, festive red comes into view. When the New Year comes, in addition to the sun, white clouds, stars and moon, there are also gorgeous fireworks blooming in the sky. Whether it’s firecrackers or fireworks, they were my childhood favorites. We will meet up with a few friends, buy a bunch of fireworks and firecrackers with the New Year's money, find an open space, and create our own new world.

? How will we play:

When I was a child, I would use my pocket money to buy cheaper firecrackers before the Chinese New Year, such as the Monkey King and sand bubbles that cost 50 cents a box, which was a bit luxurious. At one o'clock, I would buy a box of sky cannons for five yuan.

The basic way to play is to throw it into an open space or into a puddle. In the advanced gameplay, you start to explode things, such as bottles, or covering them with boxes. The most impressive thing is to explode cow dung. After playing with firecrackers in the morning, I will play with fireworks in the evening. There are various types of fireworks, some that rotate, some that fly, some that are continuous and some that are intermittent. If firecrackers are for entertainment, then fireworks are for appreciation. Reason for liking:

Set off fireworks and firecrackers is one of my childhood hopes for the Chinese New Year. Every time, I look forward to when the canteen downstairs will stock the fireworks and firecrackers, and then put a sign on the door that says "There are fireworks inside." Firecrackers for sale”. Looking forward to "replenishing" goods from the canteen one by one during the Chinese New Year. Enjoy the liveliness and excitement of everyone running away after setting off firecrackers, and the scene of fireworks blooming in the sky. 2. Watching the New Year's Eve - "People stay up late on New Year's Eve, and they are tired of being dull and sluggish to welcome the New Year."

Basic introduction:

Shou Sui's Eve, also called keeping the New Year's Eve, refers to Staying awake on New Year's Eve waiting for the arrival of the first day of the new year. On New Year's Eve, at twelve o'clock in the evening, you will hear the sound of firecrackers one after another, resounding through the sky. After setting off the firecrackers, you will still find that every house is brightly lit, that is, on the New Year's Eve. There will also be various activities on the night of the New Year's Eve. The old people are chatting and the children are playing. When the sky gradually lights up, The second round of firecrackers will be set off to welcome the New Year's Day.

How to celebrate New Year's Eve:

1. Early New Year's Eve: On New Year's Eve, we will first have the New Year's Eve dinner, which is also the reunion dinner, to celebrate reunion. After eating, we will start watching the Spring Festival Gala. The Spring Festival Gala is usually set to twelve o'clock. At twelve o'clock, it ends early on New Year's Eve. 2. Mid-term of New Year’s Eve: At twelve o’clock with the arrival of spring, we will start to set off fireworks and firecrackers, replacing the countdown with the sound of firecrackers and fireworks. At twelve o’clock, it is also the busiest time in the sky. You will find that There are fireworks rising in the southeast, northwest and northwest. After setting off the fireworks, we children usually play with small fireworks and firecrackers by ourselves, while the adults chatter, play cards, and play mahjong. Everyone is in high spirits. In this way, in the middle of New Year's Eve it's over.

?3. New Year’s Eve deadline: At around four o’clock, New Year’s Eve deadline begins. At this time, all kinds of entertainment will stop, and children will go to pay New Year greetings to their parents. Ask for red envelopes. After asking for red envelopes, the family will also start to pack up and prepare things to worship the gods to welcome the first day of the new year. When the sky lights up, that is, the second wave of firecrackers arrives, and each household will compete with whose firecrackers set off louder to support the scene in their own homes. The late New Year's Eve is over, and the New Year's Eve celebrations have come to an end.

What is the meaning of celebrating New Year’s Eve:

Saying New Year’s Eve can be seen as retaining the old year and sending it away, or it can also be seen as welcoming the new year. Wait until it comes. New Year's Eve is the junction between the old year and the new year, where feelings of nostalgia and regret, as well as expectations and hopes, coincide with each other. Hai Ri is born and the night is over, and Jiang Chun is entering the old year. The remaining night faded, and a new round of sun gradually rose. The natural principle of replacing old things with new things can also be reflected in Shou Da Ye.

Reason for liking it:

When we were children, we were always full of energy, and each one of us was more excited than the other when we stayed up late. We, who are usually urged by our parents to go to bed early, finally have the freedom to stay up late for once, and we must be very happy when we are sleepless. Not only that, the children from each of our families will play together, and we will also make an appointment to gather somewhere at dawn to set off firecrackers. When there are expectations and promises, who can not like it? 3. Visiting relatives - "Visiting relatives and friends, returning home urgently to look for the orange trees in Dongtingshe.

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Basic introduction:

Visiting relatives, in layman’s terms, means visiting relatives. During the Chinese New Year, we will buy some fruits and New Year’s goods to visit relatives and friends. Children all go out. Firstly, to connect with each other and exchange greetings, and secondly, to pay them New Year greetings. Many children also receive more red envelopes when visiting relatives.

What do you usually do when visiting relatives? Do:

First of all, we will definitely notify each other in advance. On the first day of the new year or New Year’s Eve, we will make a phone call, verbally wish you a happy New Year, and say Happy New Year. When will it arrive? Come to your home to play. Arrange a good time with the other person to avoid the embarrassing situation of the other person's time not matching yours.

Secondly, we will prepare some New Year gifts to express our feelings, although many times. You would say the classic saying, "Come just come and bring any gifts." But Chinese people who pay more attention to etiquette will definitely not come empty-handed. These gifts can be New Year's goods or various specialties. , just express your feelings appropriately.

Finally, after coming to the door, express your blessings first, and then you will see the two families chatting happily together, and the relatives will talk about it. If you have eaten, just eat together and then leave. Don’t be too polite and refuse.

Is there anything you need to pay attention to when visiting relatives?

1. The order should be clear: When it comes to relatives, we have so many relatives, so we have to figure out the order. Generally, we don’t visit relatives on the first day of the Lunar New Year. We only visit our immediate relatives, such as our father’s family to pay New Year’s greetings to our grandparents. The second day of the Lunar New Year is when the son-in-law visits his father-in-law and mother-in-law. At the end of the year, it is very important for the daughter to return to her parents' home, so usually after the third day of the Lunar New Year, she can start visiting other relatives.

2. Etiquette should be sufficient: Etiquette here not only refers to giving gifts to relatives, but also paying attention to clothing and behavior. After all, we are guests, so etiquette and etiquette must be in place. Be generous and appropriate, and dress a little more festively. When chatting, pay attention to the topic, don't be aggressive, and don't say negative things to make people feel uncomfortable.

3. It is always important. Treat yourself as a guest: Although the other party will definitely say, be easy-going and treat this as your own home. However, we still have to remember that we are guests, and we should not do things beyond the scope of guests. You can’t touch anyone, you can’t enter the room, you can’t talk nonsense, and you should always treat yourself as a guest?

Reason for liking it:

I only remember that when I was a child, I loved being with my parents. When I visit various relatives behind my back, I have a strong belief that keeps me going, which is that I can "receive red envelopes". Although it is a bit snobbish, it is true, if there is nothing to play in the other party's house after receiving the red envelope. If there are children who come, it will become difficult to let go if there are children who are playing. 4. Watch the Spring Festival Gala - "The *** celebrates the New Year with laughter, and the ladies of Hongyan give plum blossoms."

Basic introduction:

On New Year's Eve, the family eats hot During the reunion dinner, in addition to our laughter and laughter, there was also the sound of the Spring Festival Gala on TV. After the news broadcast on TV, it turned to the stage of the Spring Festival Gala. Basically, the Spring Festival Gala was shown on TV in every household. Although the format of the program has not changed, its content has always been rich and colorful. The Spring Festival Gala will also count down with us from New Year’s Eve to the New Year.

Review of the Spring Festival Gala classics:

There are always a few famous scenes of the Spring Festival Gala that have become the White Moonlight in our hearts.

1. 1998-"Meet in 1998": Although I have not watched the 1998 Spring Festival Gala, I specifically searched for the Spring Festival Gala programs of that year. What impressed me deeply was that that year Faye Wong and "Meet in 1998" sung by Na Ying. In 1998, Faye Wong attended the Spring Festival Gala for the first time. She wore two balls on her head and a pink dress, looking cute and cute. Naying, on the other hand, is wearing a long skirt, elegant and decent. The fusion of the two people's voices and lyrics is like the imprint of the times, making people dream back to 1998.

2. 2005-"Thousand-Hand Guanyin": When I first watched Thousand-Hand Guanyin, I couldn't help but think of the quintessence of Chinese culture. The Thousand-Hand Guanyin's movements are clean and powerful, and any movement will not appear redundant. The yellow clothes are paired with sparkling jewelry, and the impact it brings to people as it dances to the song can be said to be shocking. When I learned that the performer was a deaf-mute actor, I was not only shocked but also filled with sincere admiration.

3. 2009-"Magic Hand": In 2009, it was Liu Qian's first time on the Spring Festival Gala, and everyone was conquered by this novel program. Magician Liu Qian was able to turn Dong Qing's ring into an egg without anyone noticing, which is incredible. Although it may seem that there is nothing surprising now, it is just a simple blind trick, but at that time, magic was not popular in China. It was the first time to see a magic program at the Spring Festival Gala, so it was unavoidable. Very memorable.

4. 2009-"Not Short of Money": I just remember that in 2009, the name Xiaoshenyang and the red cropped skirt became popular all over the country. I only met Xiaoshenyang at that time.

"Not Short of Money", as the last skit to appear, still received a lot of laughter, and was awarded the first prize for the sketch of "My Favorite Spring Festival Gala" in 2009. That year, "no shortage of money" became a well-known mantra. Reasons why you like it:

Watching the Spring Festival Gala is different from watching TV in ordinary times. You will find a sense of belonging and feel that everyone is watching with you, not only the family sitting next to you, but also people from all over the country. audience. After watching it, various programs of the Spring Festival Gala have become a chattering topic among friends. It seems that not having watched the Spring Festival Gala is a kind of "backwardness". The whole family sat in front of the TV, eating melon seeds and laughing at the TV. Maybe this is what the Spring Festival Gala is like.

?"My special favorite when I grow up" 5. Playing mahjong - "There is energy and spirit hidden in the chest, and luck is rooted in the human heart."

Basic introduction:

When I was young, we would set off firecrackers during New Year celebrations, and the adults would play cards and mahjong there. At that time, I would watch them play without any problems, and see how they touched the cards. Gradually, I also understood what touch is and what kong is. I was so influenced by it that I naturally got started easily. During the Chinese New Year, we will play with relatives. It is also regarded as an entertainment activity during the Spring Festival. It uses your brain and can also create a lively atmosphere, relaxed and enjoyable. How will we play?

1. Mahjong rules: We generally play mahjong according to the Guangdong mahjong style, which is somewhat different from playing mahjong in other places. If we don’t eat, we can bump into each other. There are also different differences between big Hus. There are bumper Hus, all of the same color, and there are also missing ones, grab-bar Hus. The corresponding rewards and punishments are also different. There is also a big way to play, called "catching birds". When someone messes up, they will draw a card in order, and the punishment will be determined based on the card drawn. If it is a combination of one, five, and nine, the punishment will be doubled. According to different combinations, there will also be a full-game penalty for the opponent. Punishment and so on.

2. Clear rewards and punishments: Our punishment is generally to create a group first, and then the losers will be given red envelopes in the group. The person who was the first to misbehave does not need to give out red envelopes. The other three will be given according to the situation. The size of the red envelope. Therefore, the winner only has the right to grab the red envelope, and does not need to give out the red envelope. But it is different from ordinary red envelopes. The person who is the first to cheat can decide how many packages will be sent. If only one package is given, you can only win, but the amount will be small. If you give out three packages, the amount will be larger. Lucky to grab.

3. Entertainment first: When playing mahjong, we usually play with peers. People older than us also have their own ways of playing. We also play mahjong for entertainment, so we adhere to the principle of entertainment first. We usually play in a small way, not for making money, so it will not hurt our friendship, and there will be no situation where a person loses and doesn't want to play.

Reason for liking it:

When I was a child, watching them play, I felt like I was touching a square piece of mahjong, and then I would hit the mark from time to time. I felt more and more curious about things I couldn’t understand. I have always wanted to try it out. From gradually not knowing how to touch oneself, to understanding that one can see all kinds of nonsense at a glance. Playing mahjong comes with a sense of excitement, whether it is when drawing cards or playing tricks, this excitement makes people play more and more energetically. 6. Grabbing red envelopes - "The joy of acceptance is profound, and the amount of money makes you happy."

Basic introduction:

Grabbing red envelopes means grabbing red envelopes online, and now almost everyone has it There are several family WeChat groups. During the holidays, in addition to the emoticons of the seven aunts and eight aunts, there are also many red envelope bombs. Generally, those who are active in the group are basically responsible for grabbing red envelopes, while those who are not very active can always I saw him on the red envelope. One person sends it and many people grab it, some people get it and some don't, some people have more and some people have less. This is the fun of grabbing red envelopes.

The correct way to open red envelopes:

1. Find the right time: When we grab red envelopes, we must find the right time. Don’t find that the red envelopes have already rained down, only to find that they are all empty when you click on them. "The red envelopes have been robbed." Family groups often compete for red envelopes in waves. During the holidays, we should check the activities of the family group from time to time to see if there is any initiative to give out red envelopes. If so, we should pay special attention to it. If not, see if there are any words or phrases for sending red envelopes, and find the right time so as not to miss a red envelope.

2. Switch the network: grabbing red envelopes not only requires a certain test of hand speed, but also a great challenge to the Internet speed. If it is fast, it will be gone in one or two seconds. Sometimes others have already finished grabbing it, and you The red envelope has just popped up, so we can’t afford to be slower on the internet speed. We need to know how to switch networks at any time. For example, if the wifi we use at home is slow, we need to switch to 4g5g. Or if there is no signal where you are going, just see if there is wifi that you can connect to.

3. Learn to be grateful: While we are grabbing red envelopes, we should also learn to be grateful. Thank you can be a typed thank you, or you can send a small emoticon, both are very good.

4. Refuse to grab red envelopes without giving them out: Although it is good to grab red envelopes, we cannot just grab them without giving them out. People who give out red envelopes will be tired if they give out too many red envelopes, and their wallets will be tired, and only grabbing them without giving them out will make people feel tired. I think you are a bit stingy, and you are not willing to send one even after taking so much money. You can also use luck king relays or something like that, so that you won't have a situation where one person is always sending, or no one is always sending. The red envelope doesn’t have to be big, just send a few with appropriate meanings.

Reasons for liking it:

1. Create a lively atmosphere: Although you are grabbing red envelopes from a distance, the lively atmosphere in the group will not diminish at all. The adults in the family group will tease everyone because their hands are not fast enough, and the children will also get a bargain because they grab it. With various voices and playful emoticons, two people can still be in the same place even if they are thousands of miles apart. group and feel the lively atmosphere.

2. Breaking through the traditional model: When we were children, we all only had paper red envelopes. We used a red envelope to enclose the money and distributed it to the children. Nowadays, with the development of science and technology, sending red envelopes online has broken through the traditional model of sending red envelopes. People can send red envelopes remotely and grab red envelopes. Wish you New Year's greetings and send red envelopes remotely, which is no longer limited to paper red envelopes, and has become more convenient.

3. Nervous and exciting: What I like most is the tense and exciting feeling when grabbing red envelopes. When grabbing, you have to keep your eyes on the screen for fear of missing one. If you have quick eyes, you also need quick hands. When opening a red envelope, it is also a kind of excitement. The amount of the red envelope determines the excitement level after grabbing the red envelope. You can also see who is more lucky than others. This nervous and exciting feeling makes people feel happy. Very top. ?7. Online New Year greetings - "The universe, the sun and the moon remain the same, but there are similarities and differences last night and today."

Basic introduction:

Compared with the visiting relatives when I was a child, I prefer the current one New Year greetings online. Online New Year greetings can not only be given to elders, but also to friends and classmates. "Congratulations on getting rich, bring me the red envelope." In the eyes of people like me who are afraid of society, it is difficult to say it offline. In reality, we are only obedient, and online we are With a heavy blow, we will not face embarrassment or be speechless when we say New Year's greetings online. After we say goodbye to one, we say goodbye to the next. If we can, we will say goodbye to each one.

Two statuses of online New Year greetings:

1. New Year greetings to the elders: New Year greetings to the elders, usually to elders who are not in the same place during the New Year, and it must be in a good manner. . After saying Happy New Year, there will also be many four-character idioms that the elders like to hear. You can also search for some long sentences that they usually send. In short, what you say is exactly what they want. If you say nice things, you will be happy to give red envelopes.

2. New Year greetings to ordinary people: New Year greetings to ordinary people are usually given to classmates and friends. It is more casual and does not need to be so formal. Just start with the emoticon package and you will know if there is one. The title is also very casual. It's just a piece of shit. When people pay New Year greetings to their peers, they usually do so to get some luck and cheer each other up, not to get red envelopes. If there is an unexpected gain, that would definitely be great. Reasons for liking it:

1. The gospel of social fear: For people like us who are afraid of society, online New Year greetings are simply gospel. There was a time when I was scratching my toes when faced with unknown names. There was a time when I was speechless and embarrassed. When you say New Year greetings online, not only do you no longer feel the pressure in real life, but your words can also be buffered, passing through your brain before exiting.

2. Breaking through geographical restrictions: During the New Year, whether relatives or friends, each has his own place to go, so there is a geographical restriction, and online New Year greetings can break through this geographical restriction. No matter where we are, we can send our blessings, and most importantly, we can also receive red envelopes from relatives who are not around. 8. Living in a world of one person - "If you have wine today, you will be drunk today, and you will be worried tomorrow."

Basic introduction:

As we grow older, we have been looking forward to the Spring Festival since we were young. , began to become a little afraid of celebrating the Spring Festival. This fear does not come from the festival itself, but from the behavior of various relatives that makes people shudder. Therefore, when I grow up, I like to spend the Spring Festival alone, without outside interference, and do whatever I want. This may seem simple, but it seems to be a luxury during the Spring Festival.

Various behaviors of relatives that make people shudder:

1. Questions from the seventh and eighth aunts: "Have you found a partner?" "How much is your salary?" "When are you going to get married?" Ah?" When hearing these questions, most young people have a reaction, which is a conditioned reflex that makes people want to escape. If you post on the Internet about your experience of being questioned by your seventh aunt and eighth aunt, you will find that many people feel the same way. Talented netizens even sang during the Chinese New Year: "The most fearful thing is that relatives suddenly care." Some netizens listed the top ten questions that relatives ask most during the Chinese New Year. You can imagine how many people have had the fear of being dominated by relatives. Therefore, the questions asked by the seventh aunt and the eighth aunt made people shudder. The top ten questions that relatives ask most during the Chinese New Year

2. Let you perform your talents: When relatives gather for a reunion dinner, you are faced with the fear of being dominated by your biological parents. Then It just asks you to perform a talent, and you will hear: "My daughter/son has learned xxx and asked her/him to show you his skills." And the truth is, in fact, you don't know anything, you just watched a few at that time video. I didn’t see the typical gourd, so I asked you to copy the gourd. Therefore, being cue for a talent show is terrifying. 3. Troublemaking by naughty children: When relatives come to your home to pay New Year greetings, in addition to facing various problems, there is also an ultimate boss, which is their children. The power of a naughty kid is that he is not sensible, but you have to be sensible and you cannot compete with him. There are three levels of naughty kids.

A. Simple: A naughty kid comes over and asks you, brother/sister, if you have any games on your phone, and is clamoring to play with your phone. This is considered an easy difficulty boss.

B. Difficulty: The naughty child will directly smash your Lego, break your lipstick, and destroy your beloved things as if they are fun. At this time, you should be alert. When you encounter is a difficult level boss.

C. Ultimate: When the above two things are involved, the bosses in easy difficulty and hard difficulty will know to stop losses in time, but the boss in ultimate difficulty is different. He can summon, who can he summon? Summon the Lord, how to summon him, eh, he cried, the louder he cried, this is the power of the ultimate boss, you are powerless to resist, you can't argue, June Feixue, you are more unjust than Dou E.

Reasons for liking:

Why do you like living alone in this world? This doesn’t really mean you like it, it just feels like you are forced to do it. A person, free and happy, staying in his own small room and avoiding unnecessary "trouble". Faced with seven aunts and eight aunts, young people don't know how to speak politely, so they naturally have to avoid them. When faced with naughty children, young people should think about themselves and naturally avoid them.

Different times have different favorite things. When you were a child, you liked to ride on a rocking car, and the car model was a toy that you couldn't put down. When you grew up, you loved playing with yo-yos and looked a little disgusted at rocking cars. When you grow up, you will have thrown the yo-yo somewhere in an unknown corner. You like to pick up the camera and take pictures everywhere. When you see the yo-yo, you will not dislike it, but you will envy the children sitting on it.

Facing the Spring Festival, when I was a child and when I grew up, my mood was different, and my favorite things also changed. 9. Why do you like different things during the Spring Festival when you were a child and when you grow up?

Subjective:

1. Changes in mentality: A period of time. As the saying goes, people will change, and so will their mentality. When we were young, we loved visiting relatives because we were lively and liked to walk around when we were young. But when we grow up, when we face relatives, we can only think of countless nagging and unstoppable naughty children, so we grow up. When I grow up, I prefer to live alone in a quiet world rather than visiting relatives. This change in mentality is also a reflection of our growth, just like our emotions towards the rocking car, from love to disgust to envy.

? 2. A sense of gap: What is a sense of gap? Reality does not match your imagination, and this gap causes disappointment. Facing the Spring Festival, when we were children, we were carefree and spent the Spring Festival "carelessly". Every day, we were looking forward to the few days left to celebrate the Spring Festival. When we grow up, we will still look forward to being as carefree as we were when we were children, but reality will "slap us in the face". We cannot be like when we were children, doing nothing and pretending that it has nothing to do with ourselves and being high-spirited. A high-hanging attitude. As we slowly join the ranks of adults, the pressure gradually increases. Invisibly, there is a sense of gap between the Spring Festival in imagination and reality.

Objective:

3. New things replace old things: "The sun is growing in the sea and the night is dying, and the spring in the river is entering the old year." The natural reason why new things replace old things is also one of the reasons. . I liked the rocking car when I was a child, but it cannot always be the top one in my heart. That is because when I was growing up, I discovered that there are more interesting and fun things than the rocking car. With the yo-yo and the camera , the rocking car will only be left behind. The same is true for the Spring Festival. When we were children, we liked to use firecrackers to blow up cow dung and fry various things. But when we grow up, we are more obsessed with eating mahjong with banging bars. This is when new things replace old things. This is also the difference between being a child and growing up. 4. The result of objective factors: In addition to new things replacing old things, there are many objective factors that lead to this change.

A. Policy restrictions: Fireworks are not as ubiquitous as they were when I was a child. This is because many places are prohibited from setting off fireworks and firecrackers, but some areas can still set off freely. This kind of policy restriction prevents us from setting off casually, so I can only accept the situation and find other ways to have fun.

B. Popularity of social software: With the development of the times, the popularity of social software has become wider and wider. Maybe parents didn’t know what WeChat was before, but now they play it better than us. There are many, and the scan code payment that can be seen everywhere is also a good proof. Because of social software, we don’t have to travel far and wide to visit relatives’ homes just to say Happy New Year. Social software can also make two people far away feel the warmth of being close at hand. , The ends of the earth are as close as one's neighbor. With social software, we can also grab red envelopes from a distance, and even a cold chat window has become lively. ? "Epilogue"

Whether it is celebrating New Year's Eve as a child or grabbing red envelopes as an adult, the reason why they can become our special favorites is that at a special time, they Meeting someone special gives us special spiritual comfort.

?Things are dead, but people are alive. Looking at it alone, it is just an ordinary night. It is precisely because we stay up all night and stay up all night that it becomes It has to be meaningful. Putting aside red envelopes, a cold chat room is a place where people chat with each other. It is precisely because we continue to send red envelopes and messages that the screen is filled with red envelopes and text, and the cold chat room has become particularly warm.

?Many times, it’s not what we particularly like, but what we do that makes us particularly comfortable. Just like the taste of the New Year, it does not actually refer to "material abundance", but represents "spiritual abundance". In the context of the new era, things change and people change because we will grow, so we should adapt to the development of the times and follow our own heart.