There is a kind of warmth called eating with parents. When I got home in the evening, I saw the usual meals on the dining table, a plate of cabbage stewed with tofu, a plate of peanuts, and a plate of radish stewed with chicken. My parents ate and made homemade meals with me. My parents ate very well. My mother cooked all the dishes, and my father ate them all his life, but he still ate with gusto and sweated all over. Although I have my own space and my own friends, I try hard to find topics to talk about and get closer to my parents. Spend about half an hour with your parents and watch them eat.
I used to be a person who didn’t care about my parents’ affairs. At that time, no matter how big things happened to my parents, it had nothing to do with me if they had a huge quarrel. Because I know that no matter whether they are Guo Potian or my parents, I am still their child. But one day I was suddenly afraid that one day I would lose them. I'm afraid that one day I won't be able to knock on the door anymore. Although I have listened to them quarreling all my life, now I open the door and see their silver hair covering their temples, their cloudy eyes, and the corners of their eyes covered with wrinkles. Seeing that they are well fed and well-fed, I am very satisfied.
I still remember when Zhang Shuguang, the former director of the Transportation Bureau and deputy chief engineer of the Ministry of Railways, was tried in court for a suspected bribery case. During the final statement in the court, Zhang Shuguang said when talking about his family that the most sorry thing was that he was over eighty years old. He has not had a meal with his old parents in 10 years. He asks his parents to forgive him.
The law will make a fair decision on how much bribe Zhang Shuguang, a corrupt official, should receive and how he should be sentenced. What the public is concerned about is that Zhang Shuguang has not had a meal with his parents in 10 years. Is such an official still considered a human being? Is Zhang Shuguang busy with work? may be. As the first batch of college students to resume the college entrance examination after the "Cultural Revolution", Zhang Shuguang should be capable; after becoming the director of the Transportation Bureau of the Ministry of Railways, China's high-speed rail has taken three steps in seven years, and Zhang Shuguang has won the title of "China's No. 1 High-speed Rail". However, these are not the reasons for Zhang Shuguang not to have dinner with his parents. Which official is not busy at work? It is a natural characteristic that officials spend less time with their parents, but officials like Zhang Shuguang who have not had a meal with their parents in 10 years are indeed rare.
Does Zhang Shuguang really have no time? Definitely not. Lu Xun once said that time is like water in a sponge, as long as you are willing to squeeze it, there will always be some. "The Book of Songs" says: I mourn my parents, who labored hard to give birth to me; Mencius said: There is nothing greater than respecting relatives for a filial son; who cares about an inch of grass will be rewarded with three spring rays; crows have the meaning of feeding back, and sheep have the kindness of kneeling to breastfeed... In Zhang Shuguang's heart, parents have no status, and are even dispensable. For 10 years, he has not even given his parents a chance to have a meal together. Can such a person still be considered a human being? Is such an official qualified to be an official? The Italian Amici said: "If a person makes his mother sad, no matter how prominent his status is, no matter how famous he is, he is a despicable person." Amici's words were used in Zhang Shuguang It couldn’t be more appropriate to wear on your body!
The Frenchman Lafargue said that being respected in old age is the first privilege that appears in human society; another Frenchman Stendhal also said that being respected in old age is the most important thing in the human spirit. A wonderful privilege. However, Zhang Shuguang's parents not only did not enjoy any of the privileges of the elderly, they did not even enjoy the basic filial piety and respect. The elderly are most afraid of isolation and loneliness. They don't want their children to go home and make much contribution, but they just want their families to enjoy family happiness together.
You should show your filial piety as early as possible. Whether you are an official or a human being, this is common sense and a truth. If an official is not filial to his parents, even if he has made great contributions to the country and society, he is still not worthy of imitation and respect in the eyes of the world. Don't deceive the world by saying "loyalty and filial piety cannot have both". In today's "people-oriented" world, it is entirely possible to have both loyalty and filial piety. I hope everyone, especially officials, can learn from Zhang Shuguang and carry forward the traditional virtue of loving and respecting the elderly. ?
When you eat with them, chat with them carefully and drink a few cups with them. I will not use gorgeous and impetuous words, I will only use sincere and simple words to remind you. Time waits for no one, sit down and have a meal with your parents attentively.