Breakup is the end of a relationship between two people. It is difficult to maintain a relationship through the efforts of one person alone. The other party has decided to end the relationship, then we should learn to withdraw from the other party's life and respect the other party's decision and choice.
After a breakup, under the extremely sad mood, we often cannot handle the final ending. Many people make some drastic and irrational actions because of unwillingness and sunk costs. They think they are infatuated. It's only natural, but it's actually very priceless behavior. So what behaviors will be very priceless after a breakup?
1. Slandering and spreading rumors after breaking up
2. Stalking
3. Harming yourself
4. Threatening the other person< /p>
4. Ask for back the gifts given before
1. Slander and spread rumors after breaking up
No matter who is sorry to whom, no matter what the other party has done, I’m sorry for you, I’m sorry It’s about your relationship. The moment your relationship ends, you no longer have feelings, so why bother settling past emotional scores. When you are together, you are a couple, you rely on each other, and you can and should sacrifice for each other. But everything in the past after a breakup is the past and has nothing to do with your future life alone.
After breaking up, restrain yourself and don’t talk about the other person’s shortcomings in your own circle or in the same circle. As the saying goes: “Leave a thin line in life so that we can meet each other easily in the future.” Don’t say anything. Being too full and not doing things too much will leave an image of yourself in this relationship.
It is true that you should break up with dignity. Shared decency is at least respect for two people, and it is also the last bottom line of a broken love, so it doesn't matter whether you love it or hate it. After a breakup, if you don't want to shake hands and make peace, then at least save some kindness for the other party and some kindness for yourself. After all, we are all adults. Falling out is what children do, but adults should say goodbye with a smile, and never see each other again.
So when looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend, don’t find someone who will speak ill of his ex, slander or spread rumors about his ex, because they will say that about his ex now, and if you break up, he will say the same about you. In short , whether it is from the perspective of two people in love or from the perspective of others, this kind of behavior of slandering and spreading rumors about the other party after a breakup is very cheap.
2. Stalking
Many people still firmly believe that the other person is the other half of their life after breaking up, and they will continue to express their attitude to the other person without knowing the importance. In fact, after two people break up, this is called entanglement and stalking. Your behavior will not only fail to impress the other person and make him change his mind, but will also make the other person feel a lot of pressure. How can he cause such a trouble like you. Some people even threaten each other with death after breaking up, and beg the other person to come back. This kind of behavior will make the other person hate you even more, and it is really worthless.
In fact, if two adults who truly love each other do not break up because of impulse, then there is no need to recover at all. After all, the reason why you break up must be because you feel it is inappropriate after rational analysis, or because some irreparable damage has occurred. Even if you get back together, you cannot promise the other party's happiness.
The correct thing to do after a breakup is to disappear from the other person's life, as if they never appeared. Learn not to disturb or contact each other, and give each other a comfortable living space. You should leave a final good impression on the other party, rather than continue to pester the other party.
3. Hurt yourself
Breaking up is just the departure of a person who has walked with you for a while. In the future, you will meet someone who will accompany you for the rest of your life. The essence of breaking up is to make each other live a better life, so there is no need for us to give up our own pace just because someone who has walked with us for a while leaves. You must know that breaking up is the same for the other person or for you. Stop losses promptly.
If you end a relationship because you are not suitable for the other person or the other person is not suitable for you, it is for your own sake and for the other person to have a better life in the future. If you hurt yourself because you lost the other person at this time, wouldn't it be counterproductive and run counter to the essence of breaking up?
We should love ourselves more after a breakup than before, because only by learning to love yourself first can you learn to love others. You might as well give yourself some rewards and encouragement to make yourself better.
4. Asking for a gift back
When this request was made, everyone’s feeling was without exception: How could I fall in love with such a person? After all, this is more than just a matter of picking. Gifts represent the affection of lovers. Taking back gifts means taking back the previous feelings, which is equivalent to denying the time you spent together. Not only is it hurtful, but it also looks ugly.
For the other party, just go back and have to meet again, which is embarrassing. Don't give it back, it seems like you care about something so much and are greedy for money. In general, the person who made this request is not only stingy, but also really tasteless, and seems to be very, very low-priced.
We will all experience breakups more or less several times. Learning to deal with things after a breakup may be more important than how much we paid for each other when we were together, and it can also better reflect the quality of a person's character. After breaking up, not disturbing, slandering, paying attention to the other party, and not hurting yourself is the best guarantee for yourself.
Everyone who appears in your life is no accident. The same goes for your ex, he will definitely teach you something. Life, work, or the way you look at people... Only after the Supreme Treasure lost Zixia did he truly become Sun Wukong. In a relationship, two people love each other, but when the fork in the road comes, the next section of the road will also be full of roses. Although the moon does not belong to you in that relationship, the moonlight did shine on you for a moment.