Later, I found that new york was a bottomless whirlpool, and I plunged into it unconsciously. What it sees is as beautiful as a kaleidoscope, and what it steps on is as thrilling as a blade. However, everyone living in new york seems willing to experience the ups and downs of life and look on coldly.
Leaving is a heavy word. It's hard to get out of this whirlpool. There are too many beautiful things to put down and too many stories to tell. Sadly, the people who broke into my life in two years and brought me countless memories left in a hurry.
This time, I invited five good friends to tell their stories. They are also new york people who travel through the reinforced concrete forest. They also work hard here with their bare hands like me, but they choose to leave for various reasons.
After five farewell meals, I watched them leave one by one like empty nesters. So where did they go and how are they doing now? I miss them very much. When I saw their words, my eyes were wet.
Really, every word pokes the heart.
"Everything in new york seems to be a dream."
In recent years, when I was studying in new york, I, a girl from an inland mountainous area, came to this city for the first time like "Chen Huansheng", seeking opportunities in this city where top talents are gathered non-stop. However, after entering the employment force, I found that my major was unfortunately classified as "other major".
There is a saying that there are only two majors in studying in the United States, "CS-related" and "non-CS".
For foreign students from ordinary families, does graduating from a top computer school mean that the speed of light is out of touch? Pan got in the exam, but did he play? Does B Huan owe Chu to dye light light blue? Violence? Master of Science in ata, get rid of the fate of "other majors".
However, on graduation day, I was embarrassed to wander around the house again. At work, I found an employer who could answer. First, I moved to share a room with my friends. Finally, I lived in the corner of Luodao's living room, with curtains drawn, and just put a bed and a table.
New york is a city ready to go, with more men and fewer women, so it is difficult to establish a stable marriage relationship. The central idea of parents who come to the graduation ceremony is to beat about the bush, end the life of a single dog as soon as possible, and then drift with you.
Standing at the fork in the road, I suddenly panicked. Through thick and thin, my best friend left new york with her boyfriend, which became the last straw to crush the camel. If you don't become a "minority" when you return to China with the same income, there will be more room for development. Why not choose a new path? So put away your bag and say goodbye to your waist.
In fact, looking back two years later, I found that this besieged city was a little hasty and impatient. I was too timid at that time. If you can grit your teeth and stay, you may also get good development and love.
My first stop when I returned to China was Beijing, a city with rich history and culture. This is my favorite place for people who "study hard and don't ask much" because there are family and friends there. With a good salary in Beijing, I don't need to rent a house for the time being. I often get together with my girlfriends and will be introduced by enthusiastic friends. I feel that I have returned to the embrace of the motherland with my feet on the ground, and I am no longer wandering abroad alone with the time difference of 12 hours.
However, before I could fully enjoy the convenience brought by the Imperial City, I bravely climbed the PM2.5 index around 1000, which made me cry and had a high fever for a week. Generally speaking, I have never been timid, so I can only give up the great opportunity of Beijing and roll up the quilt and run back to the south.
I went back to my hometown to recuperate for half a year and taught in the international department of my alma mater. Going back and forth to campus every day is like returning to high school overnight. Those familiar roads, those days when I was immersed in my study, those years of passionate struggle, and those ignorant feelings reappeared in the past ten years.
Life seems to have returned to the original point, and everything in new york seems to have become a dream. However, the little flame in my heart is moving vaguely. There seems to be a kitten in my heart, scratching my heart with its claws, prompting me to meet a more difficult and wonderful life. So, in order to show my determination to my family, I came to Shenzhen, a high-priced "fishing village" with sky blue and sea blue, and nothing was prepared.
When I first arrived in Shenzhen, I was cash-strapped, so it's better to stay at home in Beijing. This year, there is no shortage of chicken feathers, but I still thank my parents for their willful connivance and my friends for their help when I am in a downturn.
In the besieged city of returning home, many people look to the other side of the ocean. Whenever they are "intimidated" by the values imposed by the state, they all want to go abroad again and rush out of the city gate to fight their way back home. As for the sea drifters outside the city, they have returned to China, frankly speaking of the hardships and difficulties of being a "minority" outside.
This besieged city, people in the city want to go out and people outside the city want to come back. It is good and bad, but it is like a fish drinking water. In fact, high shore and deep valley, things are changeable, and impermanence is common. No matter inside or outside the city, I only want to grasp the present, but I want to be innocent.
New york is a symbol, bearing many growth stories.
I still remember the year when I first came to study in America. I took a 15 yuan bus in Chinatown and traveled from Cambridge, which is full of academic knowledge, to and from new york. Every time I see the Manhattan skyline from the Queens Expressway, I always remind myself that it is true, not a dream.
Every time I walk on the streets of new york, I feel a strong vitality when I see the bustling crowd and the energetic young generation. New york is very rough, and I deeply felt its roughness the day after I arrived in new york after a short stay in Tokyo. But on the contrary, it is this roughness that makes it eclectic and gives it an inclusive atmosphere that is not found in other parts of the city.
There are all kinds of people wearing strange clothes on the Lower East Side, but this is my favorite place to go on weekends. I tasted a cup of coffee on the street corner, ate a unique Chinese meal of China Mission, walked into a private collection store and sold my suit in a second-hand shop on Seventh Avenue. I felt that life at that moment was the most vivid.
Staying in new york became my biggest dream when I was a student. I don't know what inspired me to endure many setbacks and overcome all kinds of difficulties. I really stayed. This stay is four years. Before going abroad, a colleague who came back from new york said:
"Four years makes you a new employee", I think I am a qualified new york person.
I began to learn from the business tycoons in Manhattan to invest. I wear a suit and tie to go out to see the project every day, and walk on Park Avenue to talk about contracts with a group of Americans wearing brand-name leather shoes. That kind of feeling, as I once saw in the movie, is real and unreal.
I read documents with my American colleagues until midnight, ate strange overtime meals and discussed financing plans together. Later, everyone went to the new company to develop. When everyone gathered in the bar in Williamsburg again to talk about the past, it felt like it happened yesterday. Dave is giving a report, Chris is reading the hotel management contract, and I am making a financial model.
This is just a small microcosm of countless new york moments.
I decided to leave because I cherish it. It brought me a turning point in my life. Since then, new york is no longer a destination, and it is no longer my destination. It has become a necessary stop in my life, and I spent the best years of my life here.
Now, I have returned to China and started the same investment, but I have a lot in common in different markets. Perhaps it has experienced the complexity of new york, but in the face of the new environment, it has become calm and calm.
Come back, because new york will always be so beautiful, so near and so far away.
"It's like walking on the edge of new york."
I studied abroad for five years, and my undergraduate degree was in Europe. 13 moved to new york, and I stayed there wholeheartedly. Maybe new york has an influence on everyone who passes by. Here, you can get in touch with the most cutting-edge things in the world, and the constant freshness every day can give everyone who is new here unlimited enthusiasm.
From the day the plane landed at Kennedy Airport, I began to look for internship opportunities, entered the real work and life of Americans, and learned about the living conditions of many China people in the United States. Over the years, I have probably seen some foreseeable future for my personal development in the United States.
Seeing that domestic partners are gradually entering famous enterprises or big platforms to hold important positions, the future is limitless, and looking at their wandering state in new york, it has become extremely extravagant to settle down and solve emotional problems. Under great pressure, I decided to return to China.
It has been more than a year since I returned to China. I have been working in a foreign company in Lujiazui, and I still like my job. Last year, I found a recognized person. Everything has entered a relatively stable state, and I can start planning my next life.
Looking back on all the decisions made, I don't have much emotion. If you are in New York, you will write a lot in excitement, so you can see that people are much calmer after returning to China, probably because people can go in and out at home, while in new york, it's like always being at the forefront, so you should always be vigilant.
In short, what goes around comes around. As long as you know your own needs and keep working hard and acting, you will get the desired results!
"May we be confused and grow together."
For various reasons, my work visa was suspended for two months, and my boss was unwilling to take the risk of illegally hiring employees, which forced me to find a new job and was willing to cooperate with my identity. After nearly three months of hard work, I didn't find a company willing to accept me. It happened that a good company in China offered me a job, so I went home and left new york.
When I left, my mood was very complicated. On the one hand, I have been in new york for two years, and I feel very tired because I have no stable status. When I thought that there was a stable job waiting for me in China, I was full of expectations. On the other hand, leaving this city that my friends and I are fighting for, a city full of stories, also has regrets and disappointment in my heart.
How time flies! It's been eight months. Think about it, it's almost the time spent in new york 1/3. From my own life, I think there are the following changes:
Life is stable.
Everyone says that in new york, you are always looking for a job, a house and a boyfriend. Indeed, due to my status, competition or too many other excellent jobs, I changed three jobs and found four jobs in new york for two years, and the longest job I have ever stayed in was in a small office. 1 year and 2 months. Houses that are always shared with others are always small and shabby. As for boyfriends, what does it have to do with me?
Now that my job is stable, I won't worry about being burned to death by fire. This stability probably comes from the fact that China's original culture is not so competitive. When you join a company, your colleagues and bosses are actually looking forward to seeing your growth and expecting you to grow with the team.
In this environment, I spent a lot of time learning new business and improving my knowledge and skills. Thinking about how to do a good job and how to handle the relationship between various departments gives me the opportunity to deepen in an industry, which makes me feel very valuable.
As for houses, this may be a strange phenomenon in China. Everyone wants to fight for the house. It seems that with a house, there is a sense of security, even though it exhausts your savings, your parents' savings and your cash flow.
I'd better rent it, but the lease conditions are much better than in new york. The current state of mind can certainly be better, but there is nothing to look forward to.
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Social decrease
The degree of social interaction in China is still far lower than that in new york, and most social circles still come from your classmates. On the one hand, many friends have gone home to take care of their wives and husbands and children. On the other hand, young people's collective activities are still rare, and people in the 6070s had rich social contacts, mostly for their careers.
Most of the time I go straight home after work. Think about it. In new york, there are always many activities in the evening, such as happy hours when wine is half price, or real estate transactions that we used to participate in, or picnics in Central Park, gathering people to study and so on. At home, although colleagues have a good relationship and talk and laugh, there is really little private communication.
Generally speaking, I feel that although the environment is still changing, domestic and foreign countries have their own characteristics and are very nutritious. The most important thing is to know your own direction and the source of happiness, so that you can still find nourishment for growth in different environments.
May we grow together in confusion.
"Leaving is for a better return."
In the past three years, I have flown about 6.5438+0.5 million kilometers every year, which is roughly equivalent to going back and forth between new york and Beijing seven times a year. The year before last was a busy job, and last year was a leisurely study.
Life looks like an asteroid on the earth, revolving around it day and night.
Every time I leave new york in a year, I am on a business trip. Time is long or short. Every time I arrive in Beijing, I am calculating the time to return to new york. In the past year, people's definition of new york has been flickering, flickering, sometimes clear and sometimes vague, but what remains unchanged is their full expectation of life in New York.
New york here refers to Manhattan, representing the professional and interesting soul at work; Beijing refers to Guo Mao Hua Mao Financial Street; Business trip refers to moving bricks, including normal working hours from 10 in the morning to 10 in the evening, including eating, drinking and short-term fitness.
China pays attention to the way out, and you can always hear that you will get rich overnight. New york pays attention to the long-term lifestyle. No one in China has time to listen to your style. You haven't made billions yet. Style is not a topic you should talk about.
New york and Beijing have the same offices, busy people and almost the same hardware. However, the vast streets of the Isle of Man may continue to work overtime in slippers at night, while the brightly lit buildings in Beijing are used to working overtime.
In Beijing, it is a fighter posture, Beijing is a cheetah, and new york is a golden lion. This sentence does not mean that Manhattan pursues infinite heights and Beijing pursues infinite greatness. People in new york believe that life will exist forever, while Beijing will lose life and exist forever. No one is confused, no one has time to be confused, just clap your hands and applaud.
Oh, yes. What's it like for new york to go back to Beijing on business?
Stop struggling and you stop living.
Then why did you leave new york?
If you want a better return, you should cherish the present.
postscript
There are two reasons for writing this article. One is that seven or eight friends have returned to China in the past two months, and their hearts are mixed. The other is that someone recently wrote an article about how good it is to return to China. I really hope that my most trusted friends can talk about their life in their hometown in person and let you judge for yourself.
I like the sentence "There is no road in life in vain, and every step counts." Therefore, even if there is unwillingness and injustice in my heart, there is pain and despair in my life; But every step you take, every choice you make, everything you experience and everyone you meet has its value.
Whether we return to China or not, our experience is unique. These years are the most brilliant and vivid chapters in our lives.
Finally, super super thanks to my lovely friends. When I get back to China, I will give you a super-super-big one!