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Cultivate interest and let beauty fill every corner!
My friend was ill in hospital, bought some fruit and brought a bunch of flowers to visit. When I came out of the ward, I heard the nurse's aunt whispering in the corridor: it's useless to look at, and in a few days, I'll throw it all away in the garbage bin. It's more practical to buy some fruit. Maybe it was deliberately said.
what they don't know is that my friend is a famous flower lover. The most popular flowers in the circle of friends are all kinds of customized flowers, which are varied and beautiful!
It not only makes us envy and hate, but also inadvertently gives birth to many yearning for a better life. Flowers are fun and enjoyment for him. "A child is not a fish, how can you know the joy of fish?" How can a nurse understand it? !
It is said that the dopamine can be secreted to 3% when listening to a favorite song, to 6% when eating a delicious meal, and to 8% when doing what you like. When you fall in love with your sweetheart, you can secrete 1% dopamine.
Dopamine is a kind of brain secretion, which is responsible for transmitting the information of excitement and happiness, also known as the sweet factor. How much it secretes determines your mood.
Whether we can meet the person we love can only be determined by fate, but listening to our favorite songs and eating delicious food are almost small things that we can achieve within our power. For ordinary people, it should not be too difficult to do something they like.
Life is like a huge millstone. Everyone pushes his own millstone hard and runs busily, and childhood is no exception. The pressure of entering a higher school, the troubles of work, the worries of life, and even the hard work of parents have dispelled our confidence of "coming through thick and thin".
When I was young, my house, car, children, wife, and tickets, and my fifth son graduated from college; Middle-aged people need to add their bodies, seats, and Laozi, and they need to carry heavy loads; It's even more embarrassing for the elderly to linger on ...
Life is really bitter, but we might as well sweeten it ourselves!
To add some sweetness to life, from the physiological science, the best way is to cultivate more hobbies and make more beautiful things fill your life.
It is often teased that if men don't smoke or drink, what hobbies and pleasures can they have? What are they doing alive? As a result, there will be no friends, no connections and no skills in the future, which will induce and kidnap countless young people!
Some people like to treat eating, drinking, whoring and gambling as a pleasure in life. What's "don't eat alcohol and tobacco, pigs and dogs are inferior" and "don't prostitute or gamble, and waste your life for the world"? If it doesn't harm others and society, you can do whatever you want. These bad hobbies from human instinct may indeed be the source of happiness for some people, but this should never be the whole thing!
There are many beautiful things in the world, and so are hobbies. For example, basketball, football, chess, go, swimming, running, fitness and so on; There are also painting, calligraphy, singing, dancing, planting flowers and raising grass, including photography, food, traveling, reading, writing and so on.
There will be three or five confidants discussing tea, and friends and relatives will gather together to enjoy delicious food and beautiful scenery and enjoy family happiness. Some of them come from human instinct, but more need to be cultivated and excavated! No wonder some experts say that happiness actually needs education and cultivation.
Some time ago, a girl named Kang Yu in "I am an orator" touched countless people and brought tears to my eyes. She teaches in Yunnan and teaches 5, children in mountainous areas to write poems, so that they can express, be listened to and be concerned. The most important thing is to learn to feel the truth, goodness and beauty in life.
In fact, a good life doesn't necessarily need to be rich and expensive. As long as you don't worry about food and clothing, you can live happily.
I've been to many young people's homes, and couples either eat out or order takeout. The kitchen cabinets and refrigerators are often empty, and there is not even a bottle of mineral water or a pack of instant noodles. So luxuriously decorated home, but always feel something is missing, like an ice cave, without any temperature.
people who can take care of themselves should have a little fireworks at home. They are used to filling every corner of their homes with beautiful things. No matter what kind of weather they suffer outside, they are immediately surrounded by beautiful things when they get home.
It's like worry being silenced, returning to Xanadu from the rolling world of mortals. Yes, life is really hard, you have to learn to add some sweetness to yourself!
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It's sweet to remember the bitter experience, so that I am lucky enough to haunt you!
A few days ago, I chatted with some colleagues who came back from Kenya, Africa. What they understand most is that the Chinese people now "are born in happiness and don't know happiness"!
When talking about Africa, the first impression people may have is poverty first, and then suffering. There are wars, famines and diseases, and people are living in dire straits.
RMB is definitely a high salary in 1 yuan every month, but the price of a pack of instant noodles is generally around 1 yuan, and the bottled instant noodles are above 2 yuan. Instant noodles are rare delicacies for them to taste!
Although Africa is extremely poor, millions of people suffer from famine and disease every day, the study finds that Africans are the most optimistic people, with the lowest suicide rate in the world and full of hope for the future.
With the development of domestic economy, people's income has increased and their living standards have improved, but they pick up chopsticks to eat meat and put them down to scold their mothers. Why? This is caused by a sense of relative deprivation. Despite the increase in income, due to the polarization of wealth, I always feel that I have gained less than others and my interests have been deprived. Such a sense of relative deprivation will produce a kind of unhappiness.
In addition, with the soaring housing prices and the imperfect education and medical security systems, people generally lack a sense of security, which will lead to many psychological problems. Finally, the income increased, but the anxiety and urgency of being OUT were everywhere, and I was more unhappy.
It goes without saying that suicide and depression are probably the most common words among Chinese people at present.
Many children who committed suicide had excellent family conditions and attended famous private schools. For children born in honeypots, who enjoy a safe and stable social environment, a balanced diet with high nutrition and personalized high-grade educational resources, what are they dissatisfied with, and choose to end their lives instead of continuing to enjoy life?
Many people blame parents, schools and the current educational environment, saying, "You don't understand how painful children who commit suicide are! You don't understand! " But this can't be the original sin of "young people taking their own lives".
If you think back to your parents, even look at the children of Hope Primary School in the mountainous area of China. Some of them need to walk dozens of miles of mountain roads to and from school; Some people only eat rice and pickles every day, and eating tofu is a big meal; Some classrooms have no heating in winter, and they still insist on writing when their hands are frostbitten and cracked.
These children who eat an egg for the Chinese New Year still insist on studying every day while coping with the hard life. What is their persistent motivation? Those of us who come out from the depths of the mountains understand that no matter how hard we study, we don't have to face the loess and dig hard in the field!
On the other hand, nowadays, under the educational concept that children can't suffer no matter how hard they suffer, "poor parents, rich second generation" abound. They grew up in "entertaining"; The society is rich in material things, lacking the motivation to struggle and the fundamental pursuit of life; Popular decadent culture, without frustration education, will "die to live" when encountering a little disappointment in adolescence.
only by remembering the bitter can we think of the sweet. This generation of young people need to look into poor mountain villages or third world countries to understand how to maintain vigorous vitality and optimistic attitude towards life under difficult conditions.
Life is always ups and downs, with setbacks and bumps. Many times, some beautiful little habits and small fortunes can help us through the hardships of life.
But in life, many people:
would rather lie on the sofa and eat potato chips with takeout than cook healthy food to comfort themselves; I would rather be fined for being late for punching in, than to save time by preparing clothes to wear one day in advance; I would rather be covered in meat and walk hard than exercise; I would rather have moldy sheets and quilts than wash them and bask in the sun, so that I can have a good sleep in the fragrance.
We have too much to do with our daily life without knowing it. We always comfort ourselves: rich people are too worried, people with good academic performance are too tired, and people who exercise every day are too bitter, but because you are not at that level, you don't understand their happiness, but their spirits come from their confidence and happiness!
In any case, it is always unforgivable for a person to fall under an excuse. The more unloved he is, the more he should love himself.
If you feel that your life is in a mess and want to change the status quo, you might as well read your favorite book first, or washing my hands to make the bridal soup yourself and listen to a wonderful music as a groundbreaking ceremony. You can also start from fitness or tidying up your home. The more wronged you are in life, the more you should love yourself, and love yourself should start from insisting on a beautiful little happiness.
Let good habits persist, and if you are lucky enough to linger around every day, you will find that the world will gradually become brighter, your mood will become brighter, and the wronged air will become thinner!