Many women have thought about this question, how to capture a man’s heart? Zhang Ailing, a talented woman in the Republic of China, said: "The way to a man's heart is through the stomach." Therefore, if you want to capture a man's heart, you must first capture his stomach. It is precisely because of this sentence that women rush to learn to be good chefs, thinking that they have the magic weapon to capture men. In order to keep the man, you work hard to practice cooking and learn to have a gentle temper, but what about the man? After eating the meal you cooked for a while, you turned around and threw yourself on your lover's bed.
How long a woman is willing to stay in the kitchen to restrain a man, how pale her feelings are. Women should not debase themselves in order to please a man. Don't let yourself become a servant with wife status, don't use food as a weapon, grab a man's heart, not just his stomach. You can’t win a man’s heart simply by relying on delicious food. What makes people remember is not the taste of the food, but the harmonious and warm family environment that gives the food an emotion. This warm family model is too abstract to describe. We should give it a concrete representation and attribute it to the origin of food, which is also a manifestation of the subconscious. The warmth of emotion, that is, a glass of water, captures a man's heart.
To capture a man’s heart, you must first capture his stomach?
In "A Dream of Red Mansions", there is a particularly warm scene in the chapter where Daiyu explores Baochai's semi-acidity. In the afternoon when the snow Buddha beads were falling, Baoyu walked through the fine snow to visit Xue Baochai, who was seriously ill. Aunt Xue, who was sewing with the maids, hugged him and said, "It's so cold." She ordered someone to pour tea.
In China, eating is the most important way to entertain guests. Aunt Xue brought some fine tea fruits. The day before yesterday, Baoyu praised Sister-in-law Zhen for a good letter in that house. Aunt Xue listened and gave him some of her bad things to taste. The point is not about goose claws and goose letters. These small pieces are inexpensive, but require a lot of effort to get at home: the goose feet need to be scraped and washed, the calluses on the bottom of the palms cut off, the fingertips removed, and the bones removed one by one. Goose letter is goose tongue, the base of the tongue should be removed and the tip of the tongue should be left. Goose claws and goose tongue are only large, and after an afternoon they may not be enough for one plate.
Of course, Aunt Xue does not need to do it herself, she can just watch the maid. But the goose paws with thick flesh heads and the goose tongues with fresh colors must be carefully selected for the housewife to see in person; even if she is watching someone carefully packing food for their family, it is better than being an outsider and cannot be perfunctory. There are low-quality brine on the market, but smart people would rather make their own, which is cleaner, more reliable, and more affordable than the ones on the street.
Can you imagine Mrs. Wang kissing the kitchen? Aunt Zhao is "far away in the kitchen", and Sister Feng is in charge of it, which is nothing more than "asking people to do it". But Aunt Xue is a shrewd housewife from a well-off family. Although she doesn't always have to play cards with the old lady, most of her energy is probably devoted to housework. She cared about everything and never had any free time. Why does she have a bad mouth and often criticize young people for "not knowing how to live and will only make things worse"? It's because she is the best at living.
The meal was so enjoyable that Baoyu smiled and said, "It's good to drink this." She asked people to drink the best wine. Listen, this is the best. The nurse, Grandma Li, advised her to protect her first: "The old lady asked, I'm here." Baoyu said that she likes cold wine. She said anxiously: "This is impossible. After drinking the ice wine, the writer trembled. Aunt Li repeatedly persuaded Baoyu to quit, and even used Jia Zheng to scare him. Aunt Xue said without hesitation: "Just eat with confidence. I'm here. The more I ate dinner, the more drunk I became. Just sleep with me. "After a few drinks, I coaxed Baoyu to take the cup. Baoyu drank two bowls of sour bamboo shoots and chicken skin soup and ate half a bowl of Bijing porridge. I made tea for everyone. After the success of Guan Gong, Baoyu felt sweet. , hearts are aligned, and Aunt Xue is relieved.
If Baoyu remembers to go to Aunt Xue's house one day, when it is snowing outside, she will prepare warm wine and hot rice, with her mouth full of true care and love. , understanding and sympathy. Aunt Xue always helped Baoyu pick up the dishes, the plates were piled high, and the best wine... that memory must be very sweet.
The most valuable thing about homemade food is the perfection of all emotions from the selection of ingredients to the production. But in terms of color, aroma, and taste, it is often better than fakes made with a lot of colorings, spices, MSG, and seasonings. It’s just that most men are not gourmets.
There are many smart women who can easily cook dinner, and most of them are praised by colleagues and friends. However, there are as many leftover women as there are, so it’s time to meet a mistress. They don't care about the delicious food they cook by themselves. When they go out to eat, find a part-time job, or order takeout, it's enough to have Chinese food, a dazzling array of food, candles, and music. Maybe when they get older, they will understand that women cook by themselves. What does it mean?
A man’s belly seems to have a lot of variety. It’s not enough to just eat your food. Men like spicy food today, sour food the day after tomorrow, and salty food the day after tomorrow. . Men's love for women is multi-layered. If a woman must be a multi-faceted woman, it will lead to a man's heart. In short, it is useless to care for a woman. Only when you improve yourself will men be afraid of losing you and unwilling to lose you.
If a woman wants to improve herself, she must not only tap into her potential value, such as talents and financial services, but also have high emotional intelligence. , manage your emotions well.
It is unreliable to use food to catch an adulterer and to restrain people's hearts with diligence and frugality. If you want to capture a man's heart, you must first take care of yourself. How to effectively manage our emotions so that they do not affect our normal life and judgment. If we want to change our emotions about something, we must first change the way we perceive it. That is, when things happen, we should look at them from a positive or objective perspective instead of labeling them as negative comments.
For example, if your significant other doesn't give you a gift during holidays, it may not be that the other half doesn't value you or love you, but that they don't have such awareness or habit. To make a difference, we need your guidance. But if you get angry as soon as you get angry, you will not only make yourself sad, but you will also accuse the other person of not loving you and not paying attention to you, and the other person will also feel very lost. In this way, not only the relationship will be affected, but the matter will not be resolved.
To change the emotions caused by poor cognition, we must change the "negative judgment of people" into "objective cognition of things", and do more "doing things for people" and "not doing things right" The practice of "doing things" can reduce a lot of negative emotions. Many women always complain about men, let alone share their pressure. The most important quality to possess under pressure is to remain calm and collected. Not bringing negative emotions to others is the real cultivation.
A woman wants to capture a man, not just him, but his heart. But grabbing a man's heart is not an easy thing. Catching a man's stomach is not just about preparing a delicious meal for him, but more importantly, making him feel the warmth of home, penetrating into his life, and making him unable to live without you.