1.

A few days ago, I had dinner with a few friends.

A friend who was involved in the system said to me: "Dongzi, I I’m so fucking envious of your life. Looking at your circle of friends, it makes me want to quit my job, go to different cities, eat different food, and see beautiful women with different characteristics. I’m over 30, working 9 to 5, on a fixed route. , fixed movements, I locked myself in a cage, and the cage door was always open, but I didn’t have the courage to fly out.”

After that, he raised the cup and said, “Come on, let’s go.” "

My friend drank the 40-degree liquor in one gulp, but I just took a sip with a smile on my face and no excuses.

Actually, I didn’t live that well. Just the day before yesterday, I stayed up all night to make a report to my boss.

However, in this case, if you tell the truth, people will think you are humble, and if you just follow the rules and really take yourself seriously, it becomes hypocrisy again.

I have no choice but to smile. Silence is better than sound at this time.

My good friend Lao Chen said at the right time: "Don't be envious, he is also a hard worker. I stayed with him for 3 days some time ago. He worked overtime until 3 o'clock every day and got up on time at 7 o'clock. , every business trip is hard work, and the photos I take are just to comfort myself that I have been here. Don’t be envious. Your job is very good, at least it is stable and leisurely. Come on... drink, don’t talk about that It’s useless.”

I am grateful for Lao Chen’s exposure, and he told the truth for me.

The circle of friends is full of life that others want you to know, and you cannot cover it up with just a few points.

Everyone shows the colorful life in their circle of friends, and they also have a tacit understanding to hide the cruelty and ruthlessness of reality.

You will find that adults’ circle of friends always report good news but not bad news.

2.

Among my friends, there is a big brother who is 11 years older than me. He is a fitness expert and is keen on running. I clicked on his circle of friends and looked through it. It was a selfie he took while running. He must take it whenever he runs. A group of us vomited after seeing his selfie.

As a result, everyone left messages and complaints in his circle of friends.

"It's so fucking disgusting. Next time you post a selfie, can you bring some pictures of beautiful women? Our injured eyes need antidote"

"Brother, just run Running, why bother showing off your appearance every day?"

"Brother, you are so good, you must not have a girlfriend, right? Hahaha..."

And so on. The sound is endless, but this guy is still running on his own way, running farther and farther.

By chance, I had the honor to have an in-depth conversation with this guy. I asked him jokingly: "Brother, why do you have to post photos of every run to Moments and cause public outrage?"

Big Brother replied: "I post to Moments for myself. I don't care about other people. I just want to see it."

I was instantly petrified. I didn't expect this answer. , I don’t know how to answer the call, so damn narcissistic.

Big Brother continued to add: "I post on Moments to leave some souvenirs of my life for future review. When I am old, I look at my former self and it is all the best in the past. Look. Everyone has trivial life and work troubles, but what can you do? Can you send a message to Moments to let everyone pity you?" After listening to this, I felt confused. think.

Moments is a collection of personal photo albums that keep the good ones and filter out the unpleasant ones. They report good news but not bad news just for the sake of a knowing smile when you look through it when you get older.

3.

I haven’t seen my old colleague Lao Zhang for a long time.

Once, he got promoted and invited some of our old colleagues out for dinner to celebrate. one time.

After the dishes were served and the wine was filled, several of us raised our glasses to congratulate Lao Zhang on his promotion to a higher rank and good fortune. We joked by the way: "Lao Zhang, how can you do this?" You have to remember, 'dogs' are rich and honorable, don't forget each other."

Lao Zhang was happy today, and we all paid tribute to him one by one. Lao Zhang didn't refuse anyone who came. After going around, his eyes started to blur, and he became very upset. The bitter water began to pour out.

"Damn, this job is really not done by humans. It took me so long to become the head of the department. You guys are so damn cool. You resigned after just a few years."

I joked and interjected: "Old Zhang, you just got the advantage and behaved well. Your life is so damn chic, such as sunrise at the seaside, sunset at dusk, outdoor outings, holding hands with beautiful women, we I'm so envious and jealous."

"How the hell do you know I'm cool?"

"On Moments, if you don't want people to know, don't post on Moments. ”

Lao Zhang took two bites of food and began to complain while eating:

“Don’t you know what my company is like? The overtime is endless and the salary is limited. I don't have such a good fucking life. It's bullshit to say that I can relax occasionally after intense work. If I take photos for an hour, I have to work overtime all day. What you see is the beautiful scenery, but you don't see my tired figure. .

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Post it to Moments about how you work overtime, and your colleagues will think you are sending it to your boss. Your boss will not be moved to give you a salary increase, and your friends are too lazy to watch you working overtime boringly. .

You don’t want people to know that your life is not easy, so the only things you can post in your circle of friends are those short-lived beautiful lives, which are actually an illusion. ”

Life is miserable. No one wants to see it, so we can only show the beauty of life.

We are all adults, who doesn’t know how hard life is?

Therefore, the circle of friends is full of the days that I yearn for, which is both encouragement and encouragement.

No one wants to show their weakness,

So they all pretend to be strong in their circle of friends, reporting good news but not bad news.

4.

I met a senior at the alumni meeting in the same city, who was three years older than me. I added a lot of people on WeChat that time, including him, and I haven’t contacted him since. Without even a single holiday greeting, he became my zombie friend on WeChat.

His circle of friends is not updated very frequently. It is updated about twice a month, sometimes maybe three times. They are all about happy things about eating, drinking and having fun. I feel that he lives a very nourishing life and works. There is not much pressure, after all, there is still time to go out and play.

Suddenly, one day, an old senior sent me a WeChat message and asked to borrow several thousand yuan from me.

I was surprised and thought his WeChat account had been stolen, so I called him to confirm.

After confirmation, I loaned him 5,000 yuan.

Two months later, my old senior invited me out for dinner and said he wanted to pay me back the money, and also thanked me for lending him the money.

I couldn’t resist, so I accepted the appointment. Just the two of us, food stalls and beer skewers.

The smell of barbecue is the most tempting, and even the smell permeating the air makes people salivate.

As soon as the skewers came, the senior filled the wine glass first, raised the glass and said to me: "Dongzi, thank you for your support this time. I won't say anything anymore. It's pretentious to talk too much. I've done it." ."

The senior drank it all in one gulp, and I followed him.

After drinking two bottles of beer, the senior started talking.

2 months ago, he had just lost his job and was looking for a job. He was embarrassed to borrow money from his friends anymore, and he didn’t want his friends to know that he was unemployed. However, he still had to pay the rent and continue his life. No As for the solution, he had no choice but to ask me with the attitude of giving it a try, but he didn’t expect that I could lend it to him.

“Senior, when I was browsing Moments, I saw your updates and I didn’t feel like you were someone who would have a hard time in life. To be honest, I thought you were playing a test game at first! "

The senior drank a glass of beer, then took a mouthful of mutton skewers, and said slightly helplessly:

"Actually, everything in the circle of friends is for parents to see. Since I After my parents learned how to use WeChat, my circle of friends began to report good news instead of bad news.”

My parents wanted to know about our situation, but they didn’t dare to call for fear of disturbing our lives. We can look through every one of our Moments, but we don’t want them to see how miserable we are, so we can only pretend that the years are peaceful in our Moments, so that our parents who are far away can feel at ease.

When you grow up, you can only report good things to your parents but not bad things. This is filial piety.

In the past, I had to force a smile on the phone and pretend to be doing well. Now that I have a circle of friends, I no longer need to use poor acting skills to deceive my elderly parents.

Moments are a window for parents to understand us, and we have begun to use our wonderful life in Moments to mislead them into thinking that we are living a good life.

I listened quietly to the senior’s words, drank the beer under the table with him, and finished playing with the skewers on the table. It was obvious that he was actually not having a good life.

No one wants their family to worry about them,

So they all hide their tears and smile in the circle of friends, reporting good news but not bad news.

5.

The circle of friends is actually not a circle of friends. There are friends, classmates, colleagues, family members, and strangers in this circle.

People who care about you, you don’t want them to worry about you;

People who don’t care about you have no time to pay attention to your bitterness.

Therefore, reporting good news rather than bad news became the only choice.

Each of us is the director of life. What is shown in the circle of friends every day is the edited life, without the behind-the-scenes footage.